A Cuddle Ritual is when Devotees enjoy an in-bed cuddle every morning,
every bedtime, or both.
Enjoying a cuddle every day builds and
maintains a deep
intimate connection between the Devotees.
Practicing a Cuddle Ritual is highly
Devotional Sex is not just
creating a better sex life. It can also increase and maintain intimacy
and sensuality within a relationship.
One of the ways intimacy and
sensuality can be enjoyed more is to have lots of cuddles. And a way
to ensure that you enjoy lots of cuddles is to commit to each
other that you will practice a Morning Cuddle Ritual, a Bedtime Cuddle Ritual, or both (with the Double Cuddle Ritual).
a cuddle being
something that is nice when it happens, it now becomes a regular part of
on the days when there is no sexual activity, your daily cuddle ensure
that intimacy and a sensual connection with your partner is maintained.
The real power of a Cuddle Ritual comes from the doing it every day. Though there can be a sexual
aspect to the cuddles (especially for the Knight), the regular cuddles
strengthen the bond between the Devotees.
After a while, a day
feels very wrong if for some
reason you miss out on the cuddle.
My personal experience with a cuddle every morning and night
In the last few years of my long-term relationship within which I
developed Devotional Sex, we enjoyed the Double Cuddle Ritual. We also
enjoyed a great Devotee sex life.
When this relationship ended, and I
was without a partner, I missed having a sex life.
But a much
deeper loss was missing the closeness and intimacy of having a
partner. I suffered much more from the lack of cuddles than
the lack of sex. From
personal experience I know
that for me the deepest benefit from being a Devotee came not from
enjoying better sex, but from using my erotic energy to make cuddles
become an important part of each day.
So, from my personal experience, it is
highly recommended that all Devotee
couples at least give a cuddle ritual a try.
For a story where Susan and Sam enjoy just a cuddle in the morning, click here.
If you do not want, or it is not practicable, to cuddle every morning
(and/or bedtime), then it is highly recommended that you cuddle as
often as possible, especially during the mornings and bedtimes when no
sexual activity takes place.
While it is recommended that all Devotees sleep
in the nude,
this will make the biggest difference for couples who practice a cuddle
ritual as a skin-on-skin cuddle is much more sensual and intimate than
cuddling when wearing bedclothes. If you do not already sleep in the
nude, and decide to start a cuddle ritual, I recommend that you also
start sleeping in the nude as part of your cuddle ritual. You will soon
feel what a big difference it makes to your cuddles.
The Morning Cuddle RitualThe Morning Cuddle ritual is
Devotees making a commitment to enjoy a cuddle every morning. For those
who make this commitment, a morning cuddle becomes their normal way to
Knights will often (or almost always) become
during a morning cuddle. Within Devotional Sex a Knight's hard Desire
only showing that he desires his Princess (which is natural and good).
A Princess leans to not feel
under any pressure for sexual activity just because her Knight is hard,
and so even when her
Knight is aroused she will always feel comfortable
to enjoy just a cuddle.
Her Knight also learns to enjoy
having just a cuddle even if he is aroused (he knows that it is not
practicable to have sexual activity every time he is aroused). Rather
than feeling frustrated he enjoys feeling aroused with his Princess,
his arousal just makes the cuddle even more intense and intimate. So
even if a
Knight is often aroused during the morning
cuddle, and the cuddle usually remains just a cuddle, the experience
will be enjoyed by both Devotees.
With Devotional Sex a morning cuddle will sometimes become more than
just a cuddle.
Princess chooses, a morning cuddle can be a Ritual
Cuddle or a Devotional
A morning cuddle can also become a Blissette
as this can be enjoyed in the short cuddle time. And when there
is no rush to get up, a morning cuddle may turn into longer sexual
often a morning cuddle becomes a bit (or a lot) more than a cuddle is
up to the Princess. Some will choose to have most mornings just a
cuddle. In this case a Blissette or other sexual activity in the
morning will be a nice surprise for the Knight.
will want to enjoy a Blissette or Devotional Cuddle most mornings. But
even sexually active couples will still have mornings when the morning
cuddle remains just a cuddle.
An easy way to make a morning cuddle a part of your Devotional
lifestyle is to always set your alarm to 5 or 10 minutes before the
time you need to get out of bed.
A morning cuddle can still be enjoyed when one Devotee needs to
get up earlier than the other. The person who needs to get up first
sets the alarm
to a few minutes before they need to get out of bed. When the alarm
rings they turn off the alarm and
enjoy the cuddle while waking up. The person who can stay in bed is
half woken by the alarm, and they enjoy the morning cuddle while
remaining half asleep. When their partner ends the cuddle to get up
they can then easily fall back to sleep.
If you are not used to a morning cuddle every morning, then you may
think that it
would be easier and better for both if when one Devotee had to get up
very early the cuddle was skipped. Of course Devotees who practice
the morning cuddle ritual can skip a morning whenever they prefer. The
power of the morning cuddle ritual is that once both Devotees become
used to a cuddle every morning then any morning which misses out on a
cuddle feels like the wrong start to the day. So even if one person
must get up much earlier than the other, both Devotees are likely to
still experience their morning cuddle.
The Bedtime Cuddle RitualThe Bedtime
Cuddle ritual is both
Devotees making a commitment to enjoy a cuddle every night before going
A bedtime cuddle ritual has several benefits:
The Snuggle command can
be used by a Princess to say it is time for the bedtime cuddle.
- Firstly, just as with the morning cuddle, enjoying a
cuddle every night creates a deep intimate bond between the Devotees.
- Secondly, it
makes it easier for a Princess to feel comfortable to have nights
without any sexual activity and for her Knight to not feel rejected
when this happens.
- And thirdly, enjoying just a cuddle on the
when there is no sexual activity creates a feeling that the Devotee
lifestyle is more than just sexual activity.
As with a
morning cuddle, for some Knights it might be normal for them to become
aroused during a bedtime cuddle.
Part of being a Princess is
learning to accept and enjoy her Knight's
arousal even when she is not herself aroused. As she is a Princess, it
proper that her Knight will desire her, and so his hard Desire is a
compliment rather than a demand for sex. Erotic energy may often power
Knight's cuddle, but a Princess is always free to relax and enjoy
just a cuddle.
being a Knight is learning to be relaxed and comfortable about
having just a cuddle even when he is aroused. Once the idea that being
aroused must lead to sexual activity no longer applies, just cuddling
while aroused becomes enjoyable and a very nice way to cuddle. Even
though the Knight would like some sexual activity, just a cuddle is a
nice way of still connecting with his partner. Lots of erotic cuddles
becomes a benefit of being a Knight.
If a couple usually only cuddles on nights when sexual activity takes
place, and rarely cuddles on nights of no sexual activity, then a man
starting to cuddle his partner could make her feel that sex was
expected. If she wants sex, this is not a problem. But if she
does not want sex then feeling that sex is expected is an imposition.
And if she is not used to cuddling an aroused man, then his
hard Desire reinforces the feeling that sex is expected. When this is
the case a
woman not in the mood for sex might usually say no to the cuddle just
so that she does not feel pressured for sex.
bedtime cuddles makes it
for a Princess to feel comfortable about having just a cuddle on nights
when she does not want any sexual activity because a cuddle with an
aroused Knight will no longer feel like a demand for sex. And
and acceptance of his arousal prevents the Knight from feeling rejected
by his Princess on the nights when she does not want sex.
Devotional Sex is most powerful when a Knight's erotic energy is used
to power cuddles as well as to enjoy sex. Thus it is recommended that
Devotees who do not practice the bedtime cuddle ritual ensure that they
sometimes go to bed together for just a cuddle.
A bedtime cuddle can always become more than just a cuddle.
How often this happens is up to the Princess.
Princess chooses, the cuddle can be a Ritual
Cuddle or a Devotional
When a Devotee couple are both very comfortable with Princess Power, it
becomes very easy (and pleasurable) to sometimes enjoy a Blissette instead of just
And of course there will be many times when the couple enjoy sexual
or Supreme Bliss).
A bedtime cuddle ritual will be easiest to become a habit if both
Devotees usually get into bed at the same time.
If one Devotee often gets into bed much earlier than the other, and the
Devotees still want to enjoy a bedtime cuddle, then the cuddle can
either happen at the earlier or later bedtime. My recommendation is
that the cuddle happens when the Princess goes to bed (or when the
If the Princess goes to bed first, and wants a cuddle when she gets
into bed, then her Knight will undress and get into bed with her. They
then both enjoy a cuddle and any sexual activity which also happens.
Once it is over, he gets up again and finishes his day before returning
to bed later.
The Knight will be energized to make the effort to undress and get into
bed for a short time because he will be hoping for sex. Often he will
enjoy some Bliss or a Blissette, but there will also be nights when it
is just a cuddle. If
couple want to practice the
bedtime ritual, it works best if the Princess does not let her Knight
know beforehand whether or not it will be just a cuddle. This not only
ensures that her Knight comes to bed when she wants just a cuddle, but
it lets a Princess decide whether or not to have some sex when she is
bed. And on nights when she does not want full sexual activity, after a
few minutes of just a cuddle, she may sometimes feel that it would be
nice to enjoy a Blissette.
a Princess knows
that her Knight is energized to get into bed early by his hoping for
sex, she can still feel very special that he will get into bed early
just to give her a cuddle.
Starting a bedtime cuddle ritual may be difficult at first as at times
it may feel disruptive to your previous routines. It will take some
time for it to start to feel like a normal thing to do every night. If
you can stick with it at the beginning when it sometimes feels like an
imposition on your time, the initial inconvenience will fade, and the
power of the daily cuddles will grow. Eventually an evening without a
cuddle will feel incomplete.
The Double Cuddle RitualThe Double
Cuddle ritual is simply practicing both the Morning Cuddle ritual and
the Bedtime Cuddle
ritual every day. Both rituals fit very well together as the morning
cuddle can feel like a continuation of the previous night's bedtime
As a morning cuddle ritual is fairly easy to implement (just set the
alarm a few minutes early), and a bedtime cuddle can be more
challenging to make a part of every evening, Devotees who succeed in
making the bedtime cuddle ritual a normal part of their evening will
probably find it very easy to also enjoy the morning cuddle ritual. So
it might be rare for a Devotee couple to practice just the bedtime
cuddle ritual, as most will choose to do the double cuddle ritual
By a Princess accepting erotic energy as part of just a cuddle, and a
Knight using erotic
energy to power the wish to have contact with his Princess, Devotional
Sex becomes more than just a sexual technique. Sharing lots of
cuddles creates and maintains an intimate bond between Devotees, and
this intimacy is one of the main benefits of Devotional Sex.
It is highly recommended that Devotees practice a cuddle ritual.