Related techniques and descriptions
are many techniques and practices that sound similar to male orgasm denial but are in fact different, while others are
simply orgasm denial by another name. There
is no official body which sets formal definitions for BDSM-related
words and phrases. Hence sometimes a word or phrase can have different
meanings, and an activity may have several different words or phrases
to describe it. Needless to say, this sometimes causes confusion.
Below is a summary of techniques (in alphabetical order) that relate to male orgasm denial.
Chastity belt or cage is
a device worn to prevent any direct stimulation to the genitals. This
device may prevent a man from being able to get an erection. It enables
‘total denial’ (see below).
Delayed ejaculation is
a medical problem in which a man is unable to ejaculate, or takes a
very long time to ejaculate. This term is sometimes used to describe
the goal for men with premature ejaculation who want to be able to last
longer during intercourse. It is also sometimes used to mean slow
masturbation, extended session, or ejaculation denial (see below).
Differed ejaculation is when
a man's partner ends a sexual session without letting him ejaculate but
both know that there will be another session later that day (or the
next morning) in which he will ejaculate.
Ejaculation delay is
most often used to describe the goal for men with premature
ejaculation. But, as with delayed ejaculation, the term is used to
describe many other activities as well. It has also been used when reporting how long a man lasts from the time of entering the vagina to ejaculation.
Ejaculation denial is, on this site, when
a man agrees to not ejaculate until his partner says he can, and his
partner denies him permission to ejaculate most times there is sexual
In Devotional Sex the man can orgasm without ejaculating, so the ejaculation denial used within this lifestyle does not deny the man orgasms.
The term ejaculation
denial is sometimes used elsewhere to mean ejaculation delay, extended
session, differed ejaculation, slow masturbation and more.
Erotic sexual denial
is when a person is kept in a high state of sexual arousal for an
extended length of time without being allowed to orgasm. This may be
just a few minutes, in which case this phrase is really talking about
slow masturbation. Alternatively the phrase is used to mean ejaculation
denial. And it is also sometimes used to mean the total denial of
genital stimulation which might be achieved by using a chastity device.
Extended orgasm is
another name for orgasm control (see below). Though the long and slow
stimulation will usually lead to a more powerful orgasm (which might
last a bit longer than usual), it is really the activity before the
orgasm which is extended.
Extended session is
when a man is prevented from ejaculating until his partner decides to
end the session. This enables a session to be anything from a few
minutes longer than usual to several hours longer.
the practice of making a man ejaculate without an orgasm (see
non-orgasmic ejaculation below). Milking can be achieved by massaging
the prostate (see Wikipedia at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostate_massage).
Non-orgasmic ejaculation is
when a man ejaculates without an orgasm. As the orgasm's rhythmic
muscle contractions are missing, the semen just flows out.
As it is the
ejaculation which takes away the man's erotic energy, a non-orgasmic
ejaculation leaves the man with low erotic energy as if he had had a normal
ejaculation. What is missing is the extreme pleasure of the orgasm.
says that the result of this technique "is a full expulsion of semen
but without the concomitant relief". It goes on to say: "According to
websites on the subject, this technique enables a man to be kept in a
state of denial indefinitely."
My personal experience is that
though there is not the relief of orgasm, there is the relief of a big
fall in erotic energy. A man whose submission is dependent on having
high erotic energy will no longer feel submissive after a non-orgasmic
ejaculation. A man who feels submissive at any erotic energy level will
probably feel even more submissive afterwards because of the powerful
act of his Mistress making him cum without an orgasm.
No-sex arousal is
when a man is aroused and erect with his partner but she chooses not to
engage in any sexual activity. This defeats the not-uncommon male
expectation that his arousal and erection should lead to sexual activity which
should then lead to his ejaculation.
In Devotional Sex
male arousal is always a good thing, and Devotee couples will often
enjoy `just a cuddle´ during which the man is aroused and erect.
is when a person is kept in a state of high sexual arousal for an
extended length of time without being allowed to orgasm. As with other
terms, the problem is in the different interpretations of `extended
length of time´.
Orgasm denial is often used to mean not letting a man Climax
(ejaculate) for many days. Within Devotional Sex a man who is not
allowed to Climax may still enjoy many non-ejaculatory orgasms, so this
site uses the term ejaculation denial.The
term orgasm denial is also used to describe the practice of making a
man ejaculate without an orgasm (milking). In this case he does
ejaculate, but his orgasm is denied.
Orgasm control is
when a person stimulates their partner to a high level of arousal and
keeps them at this level for a long time without letting them orgasm
until the stimulator wants them to. The `control´ in this term is
usually confined to an individual session.
the male can orgasm without ejaculating in Devotional Sex, orgasm
control within Devotional Sex refers to the woman's ability to have her
partner Crest or Climax whenever, and only when, she wishes.
Orgasm without ejaculation is when a man experiences an orgasm without ejaculating. When done using the Taoist multi-orgasmic man technique
there is no external or internal emission of semen. As the orgasm does
not include ejaculation, the man maintains his erotic energy and thus
his erection. He can then, if he chooses, enjoy further non-ejaculatory
orgasms, and hence has become multi-orgasmic. In Devotional Sex
type of orgasm is called a Crest.
type of orgasm without ejaculation is when the semen is released
internally but diverted up the urinary tract instead of out of the
penis. A man can tell when this has happened because afterwards his urine
will appear milky.
Ruined orgasm is
when a person is brought to orgasm but stimulation is stopped just
before orgasm. Without stimulation during the orgasm it is less
pleasurable. There are many ways of achieving this.
says: "When performed on a man, this practice allows the release of
seminal fluid and physical sexual release, but keeps the man in a state
of arousal because the orgasm is never psychologically
`actualized´. Because stimulation is not continued through the
orgasm, that man is left still in a state of want, which allows
continued stimulation after a very brief period, unlike after the
actualized or completed orgasm which may require a considerably longer
experience is that an orgasm without ejaculation maintains erotic
energy (and erection) whilst a full non-orgasmic ejaculation removes
erotic energy (just like after a normal ejaculation). Possibly some
ruined orgasms are a halfway point between these two which leaves the
man with moderate erotic energy and hence able to recover quickly and
continue with sexual activity.
Slow masturbation is
when a person stimulates their partner to a high state of arousal and
keeps them at this level for a long time. This might end with a
powerful orgasm, or the couple may move on to another activity.
a long time at a high level of arousal can be an exciting experience
for a man, and his eventual ejaculation after so much stimulation and
anticipation can feel much more powerful and intense than normal.
Tease and denial is
when a person is brought to the point where an orgasm is usually
inevitable, at which point stimulation is stopped, leaving the person
frustrated that orgasm was not reached.
a man who practices Devotional Sex can orgasm without ejaculating, a
more pleasurable form of tease and denial can be enjoyed where the man
is denied ejaculation but still allowed to orgasm.
Total denial is when a person is denied any stimulation to their genitals. This is often achieved by wearing a chastity device. Many of these terms have been taken from the Wikipedia page on Erotic Sexual Denial (see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotic_sexual_denial). For each term I have also done a quick web search to look for other uses.
few of the above terms (differed ejaculation, extended session, and
no-sex arousal) have been made up by me in order to describe activities
related to ejaculation denial.
You can discuss any of the terms used above at the Devotional Sex Forum here.
I welcome any suggestions on how to improve this page.