Male Orgasm Denial / Ejaculation Denial
Before looking at why Devotional Sex
may be the answer for couples interested in male orgasm denial, this
page first defines male orgasm denial and looks at the potential joys and problems of this technique.
The definition I'm using is:
What is male orgasm denial / ejaculation denial?
Male orgasm denial is when a man agrees to not ejaculate until his partner says he can, Most men only orgasm when they ejaculate. Thus for most men ejaculation denial is the same thing as male orgasm denial.
partner denies him permission to ejaculate most
times there is sexual activity.
things become more complicated is that a man can be made to ejaculate
without having an orgasm, and he can learn to have an orgasm without
More will be said about these possibilities later. But for now I will assume that the man always ejaculates and
orgasms at the same time.
Mild orgasm denial is when
permission to ejaculate is denied during one session, but the man is allowed to
ejaculate at a subsequent session. This may be later that day or the
Strong orgasm denial is when the man must go many days, or even weeks, without being allowed to ejaculate.
When a man is not allowed to ejaculate for many days his sexual energy becomes
very high. This creates very strong sexual feelings and an incredible
high erotic energy, plus the knowledge that his partner has control
over him in this way, usually creates strong feelings of sexual
submission. So male orgasm denial is usually practiced along with some
form of female erotic power whereby he also agrees to submit to his partner's commands.
are many techniques and practices that sound similar to orgasm
denial but are in fact different, while others are simply orgasm
denial by another name.
Related techniques and descriptions
section looks at the terms which are related to male orgasm denial, including erotic sexual denial, orgasm
control, ruined orgasm, milking, the use of male chastity belts, and
are many reasons why some men greatly enjoy orgasm denial, and
having a very aroused man under her power can be lots of fun for a woman. (More)
The joys of male orgasm denial
practicing male orgasm denial can lead to some significant problems.
Problems are particularly likely if the woman does not want to be a
full-time BDSM Mistress.
Problems with male orgasm denial
For the male the intensity of ejaculation denial can become so strong that it disrupts the rest of his life.
His high intensity can also become disturbing to his partner, and she
may feel that their `game´ of male orgasm denial is taking over
At worst the pressures from practicing male orgasm denial can lead to emotional outbursts. (More)
In this story John is not a great lover, and sex with his partner Jane has
become a routine of fairly quick intercourse without much foreplay
decides to try some self-imposed orgasm denial over a weekend, and
on the Friday night and all of Saturday both he and Jane really enjoy
the result. It is not all fun though, because on Sunday some of the
problems associated with orgasm denial start to intrude. (More)
BDSM-style orgasm denial is not the only technique where men don't ejaculate at the end of most sexual activity.
Not ejaculating in real-life
Techniques which limit the man's ejaculations include:
- A Mistress / submissive relationship where the Mistress does not often allow her submissive to ejaculate
This is real orgasm denial as the male's ejaculations really are controlled by his Mistress. (More)
- A couple playing a sex game where the man does not ejaculate
This will sometimes be real orgasm denial. But often, even though the
female might enjoy the beginning of the game, by the end it is only the male
who wants to keep playing. In this case it is not real orgasm denial as it is the male controlling what happens.
- A man kept in a chastity device
Wearing a chastity device not only prevents ejaculations but may also prevent erections. (More)
- A man who practices the Taoist multi-orgasmic man technique
is not orgasm denial because it is the man who decides when
he will or will not ejaculate, and there is never a time when the
female denies him. (See Chapter 3 for more information about this technique.)
- A couple practicing Devotional Sex
living in a Devotional Relationship the female has full control over
when her partner ejaculates. This includes times of very real
The first three
situations are relatively well known. Even though the multi-orgasmic
man technique has been known for thousands of years, most people have
never heard of it. The fifth technique, Devotional Sex, is brand new.
Devotional Sex enable some of the joys of ejaculation denial
by combining the multi-orgasmic man technique with some mild female
erotic power (and a touch of Tantra). Read on to find out how
Devotional Sex changed my life.
a ten year relationship my partner and I would sometimes play a
Mistress / submissive game which included my being denied permission to
orgasm. During these games we both enjoyed the joys listed above.
Devotional Sex has the joys without the problems
as my partner was not naturally dominant she would eventual tire of the
game, and this would happen when my erotic energy was at boiling point.
Sometimes our game would end with an emotional outburst (either from
her or me).
Then we started to practice Devotional Sex ...
Not only did this enable us to take pleasure in the joys of orgasm
denial, it eliminated all of the problems. In fact Devotional Sex
worked so well that instead of just playing an occasional game we both
decided to practice Devotional Sex all of the time.
the last few years of this relationship I only ever ejaculated when my
Princess allowed, and most sexual sessions ended without her allowing me to cum.
high erotic energy from the ejaculation denial meant that I was
always desiring of my Princess, and for me all our sexual activity was
much more intense and pleasurable.
The key to Devotional Sex working for us both as a couple was that it also improved my partner's sexual and intimate life
without her having to be dominant. As soon as she became relaxed and
comfortable in her role as Princess our new dynamic started to feel
natural to us both.
Devotional Sex was the perfect solution for us.
Continue to the next page to find out more about Devotional Sex and to see if, perhaps, it will suit you best as well.