Last updated: 9 April 2010
Introduction
This blog is a record of all the Devotional Sex activities of Ada and
Michael over a period of five months. This is real-life Devotional Sex with all its ups and downs
and all its surprises.
This blog captures how not much
happened on some dates and how some dates exceeded expectation. Not only does
does this blog tell you what we did, but it tells how it felt for some
initially strange
Devotional Sex activities to become our normal, and how it felt when
we
first experimented with new activities.
Note that this blog only covers our Devotional Sex activities. The rest of our lives is either off-topic or remains private.
Of course every couple is different, and
so this blog illustrates just one way of enjoying Devotional Sex when
dating. Other couples will do things differently.
And
because each of the women with whom I have practiced Devotional Sex have used their Princess Power
to decide what things we will do a lot, do just once or twice, or never
do, my experience of Devotional Sex has been very different with each
partner.
One of the things that makes this blog particularly
interesting is that although Ada is anything but dominant, she enjoys
using her Princess Power.
So this blog records a Devotional Sex life which is more `full-on´ than I had experienced with my earlier partners, and is thus probably more `full-on´ than would be practiced by most couples.
There
is no right or wrong for how Devotional Sex is practiced - only right or
wrong for what each couple finds best for them. Hence this Blog is
not how Devotional Sex should work, but how Ada and Michael enhanced their sex life by using Devotional Sex.
Like all real-life, this blog might at times feel a bit repetitive.
What Ada and I enjoyed together did not feel repetitive because we did not do it all in one long session.
If
you enjoy reading the start of this blog, enjoy the rest like we did - not all
at once. So stop reading once you have had enough, bookmark your
current page, and come back and read some more another day.
The entry for each day says how long it had been since I last Climaxed as this makes a big difference to my erotic energy level, and thus how I interacted with Ada.
As
this blog was started just before our 16'th date, what is written about
our 3'rd to 16'th dates is fairly sketchy. The details of what happened
on some of our first dates had been forgotten, which is why nothing is
said about some early dates.
Unfortunately
this means that this blog does not record some of the very fun and
erotic adventures as we first explored Devotional Sex. But later
entries go into great
detail about our adventures, and I hope this makes up for it.
Most of this blog has been written by Michael.
Ada
(not her real name) has read and approved each entry before it was published.
Ada has also written some
of this blog. All of her contributions are presented in red, indented
text, so hopefully it is clear as to who wrote what.
Discussion
You can comment on and discuss this blog in the forum here.
Ada and Michael are happy to answer any of your questions. It would be great to hear from you.
The Blog
Wednesday, 5 November Our first date.
A very detailed real-life story of what happened on our first date is here (6 pages).
Sunday, 16 November Our second date.
Michael writes:
Eleven days later Ada visited me a second time.
Of course things felt very different right from the start as we both had very strong memories of our first time together.
Ada writes:
For our 2nd date I decided to `play it safe´
and do the same things we did on our 1'st date without trying anything new.
Doing
the same things the second time seemed to make what we did a little bit
more real - the second time it felt a bit more `normal´ and not so
strange.
In the living room we enjoyed the same sequence of activities as we did on our first date.
This
was surprising in two ways. Firstly, Ada did not have me do anything
additional to what we did last time. Secondly, Ada had me do everything
that we did before.
This time I was not giving her options and telling her about Devotional Sex.
This was all about enjoy something that had worked very well once a
second time. But this time the shock of the new was gone and we both
felt more relaxed about what we were doing. As Ada said, this time it
felt more real.
Doing things the first time makes a better story. But for both of us doing things the second time felt more erotic and sensual.
Ada's
Princess Power felt much stronger to both of us this time. When Ada
asked me to do something I knew that this time she knew where she was
going. She knew that I would do as she asked - that she really did have
power over me.
As with our first date we
started with a foot massage, then the Undress command, then Reveal,
some Display, more foot massage, her removing her jeans and panties and
teasing me, and some Adore.
This time when she asked me to Reveal and Display things felt very different.
My
Displaying to Ada lasted much longer. I felt very much hers as I stood
in front of her gently playing with my erection. This was not the shock
of the new but enjoying the experience.
Ada gave me a few directions so that she could see me just as she wanted.
I
watched her face as she admired me. I really love the smile on a
woman's face during Display as they enjoy just looking at my erection.
This time Ada took her time and had a good look. Every once in a while
she glanced up at my face. The rest of the time it was my erection
which had her attention.
Every Princess knows that
her Knight wants to move forward after Display. He wants her to touch
him, to suck him, to allow him to start undressing her. So a Princess
always feels powerful ending Display with a step back instead of moving forward.
Ada exercised her Princess Power and had me return to giving her a foot massage.
Now I was naked and aroused at her feet.
This
is a situation that I've found that many woman enjoy. Getting a foot
massage is good. Getting a foot massage from a naked man is fun. But
the look and feelings of getting a foot massage from a naked man who is
fully erect feels very special and is lots of fun.
As on our
first date, after enjoying some more foot massage, Ada took her jeans
and panties off. Once again I had a great visual tease. And once again
she had me place my head just a few inches from her Pleasure and Adore her.
I have never had a partner before
who so much enjoyed being Adored, and who had me do this so often. Lots
of Adoration can only work if both enjoy it and we both did. I now know
that lots of Adoration can work incredibly well within Devotional Sex.
I
had given Ada lots of oral sex on our first date, so the Adore this
time felt different because I knew it was very likely that I would be
eating her again later that evening. I'm sure that Ada was also looking
forward to this as I Adored her.
On
our first date, when I suggested going into the bedroom, I had said
that one way to ensure that things did not go further than she wished
was for her to tell me to put my underpants back on.
When we went into the bedroom this time I was surprised that she once again asked me to put my underpants back on.
As on our first date, Ada once again enjoyed saying Ritual and having me give her oral until she orgasmed.
For me the main new activity on our second date was that after about an hour in bed together Ada let me take my underpants off.
She then wanted to cuddled with us both lying on our side with me facing away from her and her cuddling me from behind.
I
had been aroused for hours at this stage, and my Desire was not as hard
as it could be. (In long sessions of Devotional Sex it is common for
the man to have periods of not being fully hard even though he is still
very aroused. After a while the plumbing decides it has rested enough
and full erection returns.)
In this position it was very easy
for her to reach down and start to play with my Desire. This was the first time that she held and played with me. Even though I
was only half-hard her touch was amazing. Soon I found myself enjoying
multiple non-ejaculatory orgasms.
I'm sure that Ada could feel all my orgasmic shudders as she closely cuddled me.
For
our second time together I not only had the satisfaction from giving
her lots of Pleasure Kisses and an orgasm, but this time also enjoyed
many (non-ejaculatory) orgasms myself.
Thursday, 27 November Our 3rd date.
Sunday, 30 November Our 4th date.
We started our fourth date by going out and having a picnic in the park.
When we got home Ada enjoyed a foot massage, and after a few minutes of massage, had me Undress (take off everything except my underpants).
A bit later she had me Reveal, and before she had me continue with the foot massage she had me Display to her.
Ada writes:
I was asking my Knight to Reveal himself now at the start of all our dates.
I
still posed this as a question as I felt a bit rude commanding him to
do this.
Michael told me that it was OK for a Princess to say Reveal
whenever she wished, and that it was easier for him if this was said as
a command as he then knew it was something that he had to do rather
than him being asked a question.
From then on it felt right for me to command him to Reveal without doing this in a questioning tone.
She then took her jeans and panties off, and had her eager Knight Adore her (just as I had on our first and second dates).
This time things went further, and I was allowed to give her a Pleasure Kiss. She enjoyed having an orgasm in the living room.
Shorty after her orgasm Ada put her panties and a top back on. But, to my surprise and pleasure, she told me to stay naked.
Her wearing some clothing, but my remaining naked, made us both feel that my nudity was because I was her Knight.
We
then
spent several hours together cuddling and watching some TV and a DVD,
after which we prepared and ate dinner. All of this time Ada kept me in
Affirmation.
My
being naked all this time never let me forget that
I was her Knight. During our cuddles while watching TV it very much had
me
feeling hers. And when I was doing normal things, like searching for
the DVD she wanted to see and preparing dinner, my being naked while
she was dressed was a constant reminder that this relationship was
starting out very different from anything that I had ever done before.
Though
she had had the satisfaction of an orgasm after the foot massage, I had
not had release. Of course I had been very aroused while Displaying to
her, and also very aroused while I was Adoring her and giving her oral
sex. Part of the fun for both of us of my being naked was that we were
both aware of my high erotic energy.
As I was naked and my pubic hair was clean-shaven (the private symbol of being a Knight) Ada could see every little movement of my Desire. And in this situation I often got slightly aroused and so there was lots of movement for her to be able to watch.
Because
this was the first time we had done this it never felt normal.
I
felt
curious to know how things would feel if Ada often had me in
Affirmation, and what it would be like if it started to feel normal for
me to be naked with her while she was
dressed. (This scenario had been a fantasy of mine.)
Tuesday, 2 December Our 5th date.
Friday, 12 December Our 6th date.
Starting a new sexual relationship is always exciting. But it is much more so when you are also using Devotional Sex.
Things that we had done every, or almost every date, were now starting to feel normal for us as a couple.
Ada
no longer partly undressed in the living room, but it was now usual for me
to be naked when I was with her in private.
Ada
is the first person I have dated who has continued with Affirmation and
made it become a normal thing for us to do when we are in private
together.
My fantasy of having to be naked while with my Princess (in private) had become a reality. The Affirmation on our first date was my idea -
which Ada decided to make happen. I never suggested to Ada that
Affirmation be something that could be done every date - that was her
idea.
In bed it was usual for me to
bring Ada to orgasm by giving her oral sex. She would hold and play
with my erection, but it was now normal for her to ignore the possibility of me
ejaculating. Even after 6 dates I had never ejaculated when with
her. (When Devotional Dating a Knight does not ejaculate while with his date.)
I was very much enjoying our time together in bed in even
though, so far, we had never gone as far as Joy (intercourse), and Ada had
never given me oral sex.
I
was, of course, looking forward to these other
`standard´ sexual activities. But I was very pleased that Ada was
taking her time before doing these things because it allowed me to
prove my devotion to her, and to prove that giving her pleasure was a
true pleasure to me.
Sunday, 14 December Our 7th date.
Our first Joy!
Taking this long before our first Joy meant that this act was very
special for both of us.
Ada writes:
Joy was totally unexpected.
At
the start of the night I hadn't felt like much physical activity, and
my initial plan for our time together was for not much to happen. But
when we went into the bedroom and lay naked in bed cuddling - it just
seemed right for this to be our `first time´ to go all the way.
With
other lovers I always felt like I was being pushed or being pressured
to go all the way. But with Michael being so undemanding it was up to
me to make the move. Tonight just felt like the right moment to
ultimately consummate our relationship.
You
should have seen the look on Michael's face when I asked him if he had
any condoms - it was priceless! It was more shock than anything else.
Of
course I was very pleased when Ada wanted to go further. The reason
that I was also very surprised by her request was that I had resigned
myself to thinking that the rest of our time in bed together that night would go no further
than more cuddles.
The
physical act of our first Joy was very similar to what would have
happened if I had pressured Ada to go this far and she had thought "I
had better give in to his demands". But the feelings of our first Joy
felt very different because this was Ada wanting me to enter her and be
inside her.
This was not an act where the man thinks "Now I've had her". This was an act where we both felt "we have enjoyed each other".
Another
reason this felt much better than what usually happens with first intercourse
when dating normally is because we were not doing this on our first or
second date when we would still have been very new to each other.
Because this was our 7th time of being sexual together we felt
comfortable with each other, and thus we could both concentrate on the
pleasures and feelings of this new activity.
I very much liked that one of the things Ada
said as we started Joy was "this feels so natural".
We started our Joy in the Power position. As this was the first time I had had Joy for a long time, I had to be very careful not to ejaculate.
Ada then wanted to go on top, and we changed to the Ride position.
One of the things I love about this position is the view I have of my
partner's breasts. Ada has lovely breasts, and I loved looking, and
looking at myself touching them.
The front of the bedroom
wardrobe is a large mirror. This was the first time that Ada had been
able to watch herself make love. As she rode me we both enjoyed
watching ourselves in the mirror.
Ada rode me until she had a big orgasm. I was very pleased that after this she stayed on top of me, and lay down into the Rest position.
As I had not cum I was still hard and I was still inside her. For a while we lay with Ada resting,
and me making slow and gentle thrusts. This felt very good.
I
was also feeling very Knightly. Ada was tired after her orgasm,
and I could tell that our sexual activity would end soon. Even though I
knew I would not ejaculate, a bit of me wanted to. So some of my gentle
thrusts were my strong arousal wanting to go further.
After a while Ada got
off me.
As I was still hard and aroused I asked for a Calm-down cuddle
to help calm my energy
When
I
first tell a woman about Devotional Dating, and say that the Knight
does not ejaculate while with his Princess, most women are very surprised by this, and ask
how a man can do this. As told in the story of our first date, at first Ada did not believe that I would be happy to have sex without it ending in my ejaculation.
I
have found that most women with whom I have tried Devotional Sex, and
who are initially surprised by the concept of the man not ejaculating,
seem to very quickly and naturally adjust to this when talk moves into
bedroom activities. Not only
does it quickly become normal for the
Knight not to ejaculate at the end of any sexual activity, the Princess
does not even mention the possibility.
Tonight
with Ada there was not even a hint that my ejaculation was a possibility.
Instead my
still being erect and aroused at the end of our sexual activity was now
so normal for Ada that it now felt right for both of us to end with just a Calm-down Cuddle.
As we quietly cuddled, with Ada gently holding my erection, we both felt that it had been a very special night.
Thursday, 18 December Our 8th date.
As our last time together had been very sexually active, and had included our first Joy, I was very much hoping (and a bit expecting) that tonight would be sexually active as well.
Unfortunately for me Ada did not feel like sex tonight.
One
way that Ada could have handled tonight was to give Devotional Sex a
rest and for us to enjoy a chaste evening together without her feeling
or acting like a Princess or me being her Knight.
But Ada was
now so comfortable being my Princess that she still wanted to be my
Princess tonight, and she still wanted me to feel like her Knight. She knew that as
my Princess I would do as she said, and if my Princess did no't want any sexual
activity then none would happen.
So, as was now usual for us, shorty after she arrived at my place she said "Reveal" and we spent the rest of our time together with me naked while she remained fully dressed.
The Affirmation kept me very aware of my desire for sexual activity. But it also kept me very aware that our Devotional Dynamic was real, and thus it was up to her whether or not anything would happen.
Even
though Ada did not want sex tonight, her being my Princess and my being
her Knight was now a normal part of our being together. Her using
Affirmation to enjoy this dynamic tonight was not only fun, but by
reinforcing our roles, it made it feel natural for us that she was in
control of what we did or did not do.
Ada knew that I was keen for sexual activity and she enjoyed my desire for her. Tonight this was celebrated by her having me Display to her.
It
felt great to play with myself. And it felt even better because I was
standing naked in front of my fully dressed Princess. I very much
enjoyed showing my desire for my Princess. And Ada enjoyed looking at
my hard Desire.
Even though this was our
8th date, and we had been sexual every date, I had still never
ejaculated when with Ada. So we both knew that my Displaying myself to
her had nothing to do with me ejaculating. And tonight Ada knew that my
arousal and desire was not going to lead to anything further.
As far as sexual activity went tonight for me was a disappointment.
But tonight was a great success in making our practice of Devotional Sex a normal part of our relationship.
Sunday, 21 December Our 9th date.
Ada writes:
On an earlier date, while were lying in bed and chatting, Michael
had brought up that I had never kissed him intimately. I was surprised
that he had even noticed and also a bit surprised that he had brought
it up. I 'm embarrassed to say that I guess I just hadn't thought about
it. Tonight in bed I told Michael I wanted to kiss him, and he was taken aback and delighted by where I kissed him.
I
enjoyed performing fellatio on Michael. It was great that I could see
myself doing it in the mirror by his bed. I was enjoying watching
myself so much that I think Michael noticed, and he started to have a
good look too! I suggested he put another pillow under his head so he
could get a better view!
I don't know who enjoyed that Desire Kiss more - Michael or me!
I love receiving oral sex, so of course I had noticed that it had not happened until today.
On
our first night together I had given Ada oral sex three times, and she
had orgasmed twice from this. From this point on it became normal for
our sex life to include me giving Ada lots of oral sex.
Part of Ada feeling like a Princess is her getting oral sex whenever she wants it and for as long as she wants it - Ritual is the magic word.
As
I have usually not ejaculated for several days when I am with Ada, my
erotic energy is usually high. When I have high energy I really love to
give my Princess oral sex. So another part of Ada feeling like a
Princess is her knowing that I love to please her this way. In fact I
like giving her a Pleasure Kiss so much that
sometimes Ada is rewarding and pleasing me by letting me do this to
her. With Devotional Sex sometimes a Princess can say Ritual just to please her Knight.
One
of the reasons that I was happy to wait for Ada to give me oral sex is
that Devotional Sex works best when my giving Ada oral sex becomes a
very normal thing for us to do without any implication that because I have done her that she owes me something in return.
Devotional Sex works best when a Princess only gives her Knight oral sex when she wants to enjoy doing this, or when she wants to give him pleasure, or when she wants to tease him. A Princess never owes her Knight oral sex.
Unfortunately this means that a Knight usually gets less oral sex than if he was dating normally :-(
But
when he does get it, as I did today, the Knight's higher erotic energy
makes receiving oral sex feel as significant and pleasurable as the
very first time.
So what Ada did to me tonight felt incredibly good.
Tonight we also enjoyed Joy for our second time.
