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Below is some feedback from readers who are enthusiastic about Devotional Sex, who find the concept too different, and from a few who don't like it all.
A FetLife message from Mystress Eve of England in February 2010 said:
Have
just discovered your website, spent two hours browsing, and would like
to thank you for having put so much time and energy into it.
I think it is potentially very user friendly, and has lots of new insights , even for more seasoned D/s couples.
I think it is potentially very user friendly, and has lots of new insights , even for more seasoned D/s couples.
An email from JS, a 50 year old male, in August 2009 said:
I found your site today and I'm enjoying it.
One thing I like is that it encourages a loving, caring relationship with husband and wife. Another is that it does not assume that everyone will like or enjoy the same thing, nor should they have to.
My wife and I already do some of the fun things you mentioned. We gradually started doing the Knight / Princess thing on our own.
It has been a win / win thing for added variety in our sex lives. It makes her hot for me to treat her like a Princess, and because it is so adventurous and different, it makes me hot. It can be lovingly circular.
One thing I like is that it encourages a loving, caring relationship with husband and wife. Another is that it does not assume that everyone will like or enjoy the same thing, nor should they have to.
My wife and I already do some of the fun things you mentioned. We gradually started doing the Knight / Princess thing on our own.
It has been a win / win thing for added variety in our sex lives. It makes her hot for me to treat her like a Princess, and because it is so adventurous and different, it makes me hot. It can be lovingly circular.
A FetLife message from a female in July 2009 said:
Many, many thanks for creating your thoughtful Devotional Sex FetLife group.
I stumbled across it. Read all the posts. And then surrendered many hours of my evening reading your website.
It was quite intoxicating.
The very next evening that I can afford scant sleep will find me again perusing its pages.
I'm new to the Femdom journey. I've ordered a ridiculous number of books, spent countless hours on FetLife as well as other sites.... all seeking something to match my vision of dominance. Your site has come the closest to how I perceive my power.
So, my thanks. I think you have much to teach me.
I stumbled across it. Read all the posts. And then surrendered many hours of my evening reading your website.
It was quite intoxicating.
The very next evening that I can afford scant sleep will find me again perusing its pages.
I'm new to the Femdom journey. I've ordered a ridiculous number of books, spent countless hours on FetLife as well as other sites.... all seeking something to match my vision of dominance. Your site has come the closest to how I perceive my power.
So, my thanks. I think you have much to teach me.
An email from a female in July 2009 said:
I
just wanted to say how lovely it was to discover your website
today. Over the last year I've been lucky enough to have found the
most wonderful relationship with a warm and loving Knight just as your
website describes. I have sent him the link to your site and I know he
won't be able to believe that there is someone out there that has been
able to so eloquently capture the warmth and intimacy (not to mention
fun) of devotion.
I like everything about your website. It's tone, graphics, layout. Other websites have been hopelessly inappropriate for what we have, now I have found one that fits perfectly. Thank you so much.
I like everything about your website. It's tone, graphics, layout. Other websites have been hopelessly inappropriate for what we have, now I have found one that fits perfectly. Thank you so much.
And a few days later her partner said:
I'm
very pleased to add my thanks to those of my Lady, who contacted you a
few days ago to offer congratulations on your Devotional Sex website.
Since she pointed me in your direction, I've visited the site so many
times as it describes and approaches so closely the wonderful warm
world of love we already share.
The trust, desire, respect and shear fun that we have so closely matches the aims you recommend others reach for. Roles in any relationship evolve, and it's uncanny that my Lady found in your site descriptions of a way of loving that we had already moved towards and developed for ourselves.
So once again, thanks for all your hard work and for toiling to develop such a comprehensive website, a breath of fresh air compared to all the dreadful, extreme Femdom/BDSM shockers out there. Reading your information, I keep thinking "Hey, that's my Lady and I, we do that."
Please, please keep up the hard work.
The trust, desire, respect and shear fun that we have so closely matches the aims you recommend others reach for. Roles in any relationship evolve, and it's uncanny that my Lady found in your site descriptions of a way of loving that we had already moved towards and developed for ourselves.
So once again, thanks for all your hard work and for toiling to develop such a comprehensive website, a breath of fresh air compared to all the dreadful, extreme Femdom/BDSM shockers out there. Reading your information, I keep thinking "Hey, that's my Lady and I, we do that."
Please, please keep up the hard work.
A posting on the Devotional Sex Facebook page from a male in July 2009 said:
I've just started reading the web site & am impressed so far.
A series of emails in June 2009 from a male included:
All
I got to say is wow what an interesting concept and site. Long story
short I have been reading this every free minute I have for the last
three days.
People can easily use this to bring their relationship closer. To me it's so much more than just sex. It's intimacy in pure form.
People can easily use this to bring their relationship closer. To me it's so much more than just sex. It's intimacy in pure form.
A message from a male via FetLife in June 2009 said:
Wow. This is heaven sent! I will read all there is on the subject.
SharpSins, a 20 year old female from Canberra, Australia, in March 2009 wrote:
I find the concept very interesting. Some of the ideas are very appealing to me - especially from a FemDom
perspective. I find the most rewarding aspects of being a Mistress are
coaxing, encouraging, training and reciprocating pleasure. Your website
seems to focus on this almost exclusively.
The language is intelligent but easy to follow. I also like the look of the website.
I find the personal stories the most alluring as I can see how real people are applying this practice to their lives. In the Ada and Michael Blog I love the way they both anticipate each others needs and seem to get genuine pleasure from relaxing and pleasuring each other - not concentrating solely on receiving pleasure themselves. In my experience these are the most rewarding of relationships - mundane and BDSM alike.
After absorbing myself in your site I had a mind-blowing session with a submissive and was very impressed with how many things from Devotional Sex I could apply to my practices.
The language is intelligent but easy to follow. I also like the look of the website.
I find the personal stories the most alluring as I can see how real people are applying this practice to their lives. In the Ada and Michael Blog I love the way they both anticipate each others needs and seem to get genuine pleasure from relaxing and pleasuring each other - not concentrating solely on receiving pleasure themselves. In my experience these are the most rewarding of relationships - mundane and BDSM alike.
After absorbing myself in your site I had a mind-blowing session with a submissive and was very impressed with how many things from Devotional Sex I could apply to my practices.
slave t, a male in his early 60's, from Ontario, in March 2009 wrote:
This is a terrific site. You have done a lot of thinking and planning. Congrats.
A 46 year old bisexual dominant male from Melbourne, in March 2009 wrote:
Amazing
site, very interesting technique, enjoyed reading it...and it strangely
attracts me. Actually, it has hit a raw nerve as my main pleasure has
always been giving pleasure; not expecting in return or necessarily my
satisfaction. A very rewarding site. I shall read more.
A male, from Australia, in November 2008 wrote:
I
loved your site. My spouse whom I've been with for many years naturally
exudes Princess Power. We are not FEMDOM, but I can barely remember a
time when I haven't done Pleasure Kisses prior to Joy and I'm not
complaining.
Right back when we first met, she was adamant about stopping intercourse when she wanted. It was never tantric but she would always eject me once she was finished. yes it frustrated me but (I know it sounds corny - it seems that I was a Knight without knowing it). I guess I am different in that way to a normal male but this became the norm, although calm-down cuddles would certainly be most welcome. Ejaculation has always been a privilege.
I don't want to babble on but I look forward to further additions that you make. Keep up the good work.
Right back when we first met, she was adamant about stopping intercourse when she wanted. It was never tantric but she would always eject me once she was finished. yes it frustrated me but (I know it sounds corny - it seems that I was a Knight without knowing it). I guess I am different in that way to a normal male but this became the norm, although calm-down cuddles would certainly be most welcome. Ejaculation has always been a privilege.
I don't want to babble on but I look forward to further additions that you make. Keep up the good work.
A male from the UK in September 2008 wrote:
Great work, really good, please keep it up. I have been interested in
and practicing this type of thing on and off for a number of years, now
it is being formalized as a genre by your site, well done.
A female, 34, from Melbourne, in 2008 wrote:
I
showed your business card around at a party and it generated huge
interest! I think you're on to something here. I had a good read of the
website myself and to be honest with you it's made me feel a lot more
secure about my own sexuality. Look forward to reading the updates : )
A female, 44, from Melbourne, in 2007 wrote:
I
have had a look at your website, and think it sure sounds interesting.
However, I think the general (primarily) male population would not
agree to the concept - at least not for more than an experiment.
Perhaps if they are really in love with their Princess (or in
anticipation of a more serious relationship), otherwise I find that
people generally don't want to deprive themselves of what they believe
is "the best" part of sex. And we all know it is VERY hard to get
someone to even consider changing their mind - people are too set in
their ways.
A female, 41, from Melbourne in 2008 wrote:
I did look at the website and to be honest there are so many things bad about it I don't know where to start.
From a layout point of view: all the colorful divider bits between paragraphs are annoying.
From a content point of view: lots of it is unfinished so there's really not much point reading it. All the chidish (sic) terminology used is just ...... childish. The writing style is laughable. Perhaps it's written for people who are so boring they don't get lots of interesting sex but I won't be referring anyone I know to it because I'm sure they are having all kinds of cool sex already.
From a layout point of view: all the colorful divider bits between paragraphs are annoying.
From a content point of view: lots of it is unfinished so there's really not much point reading it. All the chidish (sic) terminology used is just ...... childish. The writing style is laughable. Perhaps it's written for people who are so boring they don't get lots of interesting sex but I won't be referring anyone I know to it because I'm sure they are having all kinds of cool sex already.
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