Below is some feedback from readers who are enthusiastic about Devotional Sex, who find the concept too different, and from a few who don't like it all.
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recent feedback at the top going back in time to my oldest feedback at
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Since a few weeks we practice Devotional Sex at her request. She is radiating since we do it. She really is my Princess and I feel very good to be her devoted Knight.
Message to me on Tumblr, 31 December 2015
Thank you so much for
being so devoted to encouraging good, loving, nurturing, satisfying
sex. I didn't realize I was searching for something to explain to
myself and my love what I wanted till I found your site. So empowering
- so rewarding!
Ladies, If you've never tried "devotional sex" you haven't lived.
Tweet by @DominaHEELena, 4 October, 2014
I have been looking for this all my life. This concept is amazing and would change many relationships for the better.
Anonymous post to my Tumblr, November 2013.
have spent about the last two hours reading your website. I am blown
away that you have created something like this. What a beautiful gift!
I can feel the depth of emotion and intimacy that sharing Devotional
Sex can create between a man and a woman. Your descriptions of your
experience with Ada are very vivid, and you have given me a lot to
SacredDancer, female, 51, USA, via email, 28 January 2012.
And the next day she wrote:
Devotional Sex is a beautiful technique that is very empowering and
healing for women. It creates exquisite closeness and intimacy between
partners whether they are friends, dating, or in a relationship. It
turns the traditional male / female sexual dynamic on its head. I would
even dare to say that it is revolutionary in its approach to sexuality,
hearkening back to certain historical periods when women and the
feminine principle were truly honored and revered.
What a fantastic site - the whole concept really resonates with me. I am surprised that there aren't thousands of links to this, this should be shouted like great news!
When i found your site i was like "oh my god. he just summoned up
everything thats in my mind and named things that i didn't name
before". So thank you for giving my desire a name - Devotional Sex.
Another new fan of
Devotional Sex. ... Being new to your site, I have much
reading to do to get up-to-speed with all DS offers. At this point in
time, I finally see DS as something I can talk to my (hopefully future)
Princess to without her feeling like I left the planet. I really love
happy women ...
Just stumbled on your
blog and website. You are right-on-the-mark for what I've been looking
for. I have much reading to do and hope to spark interest in my partner
soon. Many Thanks!
a very long time I've found something that sings to my soul and my soul
hears it. I thought maybe I was a Sub with Dom traits but when I read
about the Devotional Sex dynamic I finally' made sense' to myself.
found your website a couple of weeks ago and have not been able to stop
reading. I am very close to introducing my wife to the idea of
Devotional Sex but am still a little nervous. Maybe reading some of
your stories would help. Thank you for all your hard work.
I stumbled onto the Devotional Sex (DS) web site and read it for hours. Thanks for putting so much effort into it Michael!
We spent a week trying some of the concepts of DS and it was fantastic!
My Princess took to it pretty quickly, very easily telling me when she
wanted things to end. Meanwhile, she usually only orgasms once per week
and was now getting an orgasm almost every day ...
We also spend time morning and night in a cuddle and I do find these times have helped us grow closer.
If anyone is using Viagra you can throw it away and try DS instead because you will be horny like never before.
I looked at your site yesterday and I've been reading about the Devotional sex lifestyle. I love it!
It is a brilliant idea and i love the words that you use for things :) You are brilliant my friend, brilliant!
Domme Heather, female, 19, Michigan USA, via FetLife, February 2011.
For me Devotional Sex comes the closest to describing an ideal sexual relationship.
The real-life and fictional stories on your site are both erotic and heartwarming.
Further, I think you've done a great job picking out the words you've chosen.
Knight Brian, male, 40, Alabama USA, via FetLife, February 2011.
just discovered your website, spent two hours browsing, and would like
to thank you for having put so much time and energy into it.
I think it is potentially very user friendly, and has lots of new insights , even for more seasoned D/s couples.
Mystress Eve, female, England, via FetLife, February 2010.
I found your site today and I'm enjoying it.
One thing I like is that it encourages a loving, caring relationship with husband and wife. Another is that it does not assume that everyone will like or enjoy the same thing, nor should they have to.
My wife and I already do some of the fun things you mentioned. We gradually started doing the Knight / Princess thing on our own.
has been a win / win thing for added variety in our sex lives. It makes
her hot for me to treat her like a Princess, and because it is so
adventurous and different, it makes me hot. It can be lovingly
JS, male, 50, August 2009.
Many, many thanks for creating your thoughtful Devotional Sex FetLife group.
I stumbled across it. Read all the posts. And then surrendered many hours of my evening reading your website.
It was quite intoxicating.
The very next evening that I can afford scant sleep will find me again perusing its pages.
I'm new to the Femdom
journey. I've ordered a ridiculous number of books, spent countless
hours on FetLife as well as other sites.... all seeking something to
match my vision of dominance. Your site has come the closest to how I
perceive my power.
So, my thanks. I think you have much to teach me.
just wanted to say how lovely it was to discover your website
today. Over the last year I've been lucky enough to have found the
most wonderful relationship with a warm and loving Knight just as your
website describes. I have sent him the link to your site and I know he
won't be able to believe that there is someone out there that has been
able to so eloquently capture the warmth and intimacy (not to mention
fun) of devotion.
like everything about your website. It's tone, graphics,
layout. Other websites have been hopelessly inappropriate for what
we have, now I have found one that fits perfectly. Thank you so much.
Female, July 2009.
very pleased to add my thanks to those of my Lady, who contacted you a
few days ago to offer congratulations on your Devotional Sex website.
Since she pointed me in your direction, I've visited the site so many
times as it describes and approaches so closely the wonderful warm
world of love we already share.
trust, desire, respect and shear fun that we have so closely matches
the aims you recommend others reach for. Roles in any relationship
evolve, and it's uncanny that my Lady found in your site descriptions
of a way of loving that we had already moved towards and developed for
once again, thanks for all your hard work and for toiling to develop
such a comprehensive website, a breath of fresh air compared to all the
dreadful, extreme Femdom/BDSM shockers out there. Reading your
information, I keep thinking "Hey, that's my Lady and I, we do that."
Please, please keep up the hard work.
Male, partner of the previous entry, July 2009.
I've just started reading the web site & am impressed so far.
Male, posted on the Devotional Sex Facebook page (since killed by Facebook), July 2009.
I got to say is wow what an interesting concept and site. Long story
short I have been reading this every free minute I have for the last
can easily use this to bring their relationship closer. To me it's so
much more than just sex. It's intimacy in pure form.
Male, excerpt from a series of emails, June 2009.
Wow. This is heaven sent! I will read all there is on the subject.
I find the concept very interesting. Some of the ideas are very appealing to me - especially from a FemDom
perspective. I find the most rewarding aspects of being a Mistress are
coaxing, encouraging, training and reciprocating pleasure. Your website
seems to focus on this almost exclusively.
The language is intelligent
but easy to follow. I also like the look of the website.
I find the personal stories the most alluring as I can see how real people are applying this practice to their lives. In the Ada and Michael Blog I love the way they
both anticipate each others needs and seem to get genuine pleasure from
relaxing and pleasuring each other - not concentrating solely on
receiving pleasure themselves. In my experience these are the most
rewarding of relationships - mundane and BDSM alike.
myself in your site I had a mind-blowing session with a submissive and
was very impressed with how many things from Devotional Sex I could
apply to my practices.
SharpSins, female, 20, Canberra Australia, March 2009.
This is a terrific site. You have done a lot of thinking and planning. Congrats.
slave t, male, early 60's, Ontario Canada, March 2009.
site, very interesting technique, enjoyed reading it...and it strangely
attracts me. Actually, it has hit a raw nerve as my main pleasure has
always been giving pleasure; not expecting in return or necessarily my
satisfaction. A very rewarding site. I shall read more.
Male, 46, a bisexual Dominant, Melbourne Australia, March 2009.
loved your site. My spouse whom I've been with for many years naturally
exudes Princess Power. We are not FEMDOM, but I can barely remember a
time when I haven't done Pleasure Kisses prior to Joy and I'm not
Right back when we first met, she was adamant
about stopping intercourse when she wanted. It was never tantric but
she would always eject me once she was finished. yes it frustrated me
but (I know it sounds corny - it seems that I was a Knight without
knowing it). I guess I am different in that way to a normal male but
this became the norm, although calm-down cuddles would certainly be
most welcome. Ejaculation has always been a privilege.
I don't want to babble on but I look forward to further additions that you make. Keep up the good work.
Male, Australia, November 2008.
Great work, really good, please keep it up. I have been interested in
and practicing this type of thing on and off for a number of years, now
it is being formalized as a genre by your site, well done.
Male, UK, September 2008.
showed your business card around at a party and it generated huge
interest! I think you're on to something here. I had a good read of the
website myself and to be honest with you it's made me feel a lot more
secure about my own sexuality. Look forward to reading the updates : )
Female, 34, Melbourne Australia, 2008:
Some find the concept too different:
have had a look at your website, and think it sure sounds interesting.
However, I think the general (primarily) male population would not
agree to the concept - at least not for more than an experiment.
Perhaps if they are really in love with their Princess (or in
anticipation of a more serious relationship), otherwise I find that
people generally don't want to deprive themselves of what they believe
is "the best" part of sex. And we all know it is VERY hard to get
someone to even consider changing their mind - people are too set in
Female, 44, Melbourne Australia, 2007.
push your kink on women FORCING them to receive "your devotion your
way"...I call that humping my leg & trying to convince me I enjoy
it. This has NOTHING to do with my desire, it has to do with how you
want to be serviced to the point you push this "revolutionary dogma" on
unsuspecting vanillas. If this was actually working you would be in a
stable long term marriage not trolling bars & the net for women you
can convince to service you all while claiming they are in charge.
theRose4U in a discussion on CollarChat.com here, December 2012.
I doubt @DevotionalSex could seem any more skeezy if it tried.
Princess Ada said "She's crazy. I wasn't forced and I enjoyed my time as a Princess."
Tweet from maymaym, San Francisco USA, who calls himself
I did look at the website and to be honest there are so many things bad about it I don't know where to start.
From a layout point of view: all the colorful divider bits between paragraphs are annoying.
a content point of view: lots of it is unfinished so there's
really not much point reading it. All the chidish (sic)
terminology used is just ...... childish. The writing style is
laughable. Perhaps it's written for people who are so boring they
don't get lots of interesting sex but I won't be referring anyone I
know to it because I'm sure they are having all kinds of cool sex
a "sexual freedom activist", December 2011.
Female, 41, Melbourne Australia, 2008.