Last updated: 23 January 2010
It was my first date with Ada, and we had arranged to meet for dinner at a very nice Japanese restaurant.
The food was good and we both enjoyed each other's company. During dinner I mentioned that I lived only a short walk away and she was welcome to visit after dinner.
We had decided to meet up for dinner and I was late! Definitely not a good first impression.
Michael was great - he straight away offered me a glass of wine and everything progressed well after that!
The food was excellent and the conversation smooth flowing as well.
usually a good judge of character and after a few probing question I
felt it would be safe to carry on to Michael’s place after dinner
as it was quite near.
Ada knew that I was writing an on-line book, but she did not know what it was about.
When she asked me during the meal what I was writing about (which is this site) I replied that
I would tell her once she had finished her glass of wine!
Later, as I poured some more wine into her empty glass, I asked if she wanted to know
about my website. She said that I could tell her back at my place
where it was more private.
This was an interesting thing to say because at that stage she did not know that my site was about sex!
we ate Michael mentioned that he was working on a website. Judging by
his body language and tone of voice I pretty much guessed it would be
related to sex or else would be something inappropriate to discuss
when others could hear us. The table next to us was within knee touching distance so our dinner conversations was not private.
expected maybe a site that sold sex products / toys – definitely
not a site on Devotional Sex as I’d never heard of it before.
After lots more talk, food, and wine, we walked back to my place.
was attractive, and we were getting along well, but I was not really
expecting anything to happen. And as I had not yet mentioned even the topic of my
website I had no idea whether or not she would be comfortable hearing me talk about it, let alone do anything.
But I was looking forward to the rest of the evening even if it was only going to be more talk and a demo of my music system.
When we left the restaurant I honestly didn’t expect anything sexual to happen.
I was curious to see where Michael lived and had no inkling the night would pan out like it did!
we got back to my place we went into the living room. I set some mood
lighting and lit some candles. Ada made herself comfortable on the
I asked if she would like something to drink, and she requested
a glass of red. I got her her drink and one for me.
Before I sat down I offered to give her a foot massage. She surprised me by telling me that she had never had one before!
told her that getting a foot massage is a great way to relax, and that
it is a fun thing to do as we continue to chat. I also said that part
personal philosophy was that nothing further need happen. I quickly
giving foot massages was a specialty of mine and that this was a great
chance to find out whether she would enjoy such a massage.
was not really expecting her to agree to a foot massage, this was all
said in a relaxed `take it or leave it´ manner.
Michael offered me a glass of wine and a foot massage.
not a great enthusiast of massages. I have only ever had one back /
body massage and this was a gift from a friend. Michael seemed
surprised when I told him this.
Because he wasn't pushy about giving me one I thought `what they heck - I’ll try one tonight!´
he pushed me to have one, I guess I probably wouldn't have even tried
it. (I’m glad I did though, as I think I’m getting hooked!)
got out some foot cream, positioned a bean bag in front of her, sat
down at her feet, and started to give her a foot massage.
enjoy giving a foot massage. So even if things were not going to go any
further I was pleased that I could enjoy pleasuring her. Ada had small
delicate feet and it was lovely to massage them.
beginning of the massage I asked her to tell me what she liked my hands
doing. I pointed out that what one person loves another hates, and so
communication is the secret ingredient to getting a good massage.
My next surprise with Ada was that she was very good
at telling me what she liked. I did as she asked and so she enjoyed one of my better foot massages.
I sat on the couch and he sat at my feet and started to give me a foot
I guess, because I was higher up than him (seeing as I was on
the couch), it helped to make me feel in charge even though it was his
He asked me to tell him what I liked and didn’t like - so I did.
After a few minutes of talking while I gave the foot massage she asked "Now what is your website about?"
might have been a very short conversation. But she was interested and
as I massaged her feet I started to tell her a summary of what is
written on: Getting Started for a female who is dating when it is the man's idea to use Devotional Sex.
course this was not fifteen minutes of my reciting these words. She
asked questions and I answered them. I said more about the bits she
seemed interested in, and skipped bits that did not interest her.
I was feeling incredibly relaxed now and as we were chatting I brought up the subject of his website.
I was definitely surprised and not expecting that his website was about Devotional Sex. What was that anyway?
told me about the basic principles and as I was curious I started asking
lots of questions. It sounded interesting.
I got to the part about going to bed for the first time. I told her
that a Princess's power to ensure things go no further than she wanted
meant that it was possible for a couple to go to bed and both keep
underpants on so that all that happened was lots of cuddling.
the early stages of talking with Ada about Devotional Sex I prevented
the talk from being too confronting by speaking about it in the third
I had said “We could go to bed and …” Ada’s
first reaction would probably be to consider whether or not she wanted
to do this. This is a confronting thing for her to have to think about,
and she might have decided that the safe thing to do would be to end
our conversation about Devotional Sex.
saying “A couple can go to bed and …” means that she
can think about this new way of enjoying sex as an abstract idea which
is safe to explore with just talk. She can then ask a question which is
not about us, but about this abstract couple.
Note that this analysis of the
language used is written after the event. While I was with Ada I was
not consciously deciding whether or not to speak in the third person - I just did the right thing naturally.
Next I told her that one possibility of what can happen
beyond this is that though the Knight's underpants stay on all night,
the Princess decides to enjoy receiving oral sex as often and for as
long as she wants.
Ada's eyes lit up as she heard this possibility!
Was I that obvious?!
Well what can I say? I enjoy receiving oral sex. A lot!
someone to tell me that this could happen without any sort of
`repayment´ was unheard of ... at least in my world anyway.
I thought there must be some sort of loop hole in all of this and asked more questions. But it all seemed true.
Ada asked "What about the man's satisfaction?"
explained that part of Devotional Sex is that a Knight has learned to
giving pleasure as much as receiving it, and that I very much enjoy
giving oral sex. I pointed out that normal sex is sometimes `I will
give you some pleasure so that you give me pleasure back´. But
this was not the case with me because I really love giving oral sex - I
would get lots of satisfaction even if this was all that we
The next stage in introducing intimacy into our conversation is to talk about what I like.
If I had said "I want to give you oral sex" this would be confronting because she is now part of what I am talking about.
Saying that "I really love giving oral sex" is about me.
though I was using non-confronting language we both knew that we could
become the abstract couple, and we both knew that my saying that I love
to give oral sex strongly hinted that I would love to give her oral
But leaving these implications to be said by my eyes and
the feel of my hands massaging her feet, rather than in words, made our
conversation fun rather than pushy.
Ada that I love to give oral sex, and would enjoy this even if nothing
else followed, created some strong emotions in me.
foot massage can be just a seduction technique used by a normal man.
What I had just said made clear that my sexuality was not normal. I was
a bit scared that Ada might decide that I was not a `real man´
and reject me because of this.
Opening up to her also had me feeling slightly vulnerable to her.
from past experience I knew how exciting, pleasurable and intense it
feels to actually do what I was suggesting. Just talking about this was
enough to generate some of these emotions.
Tonight was already feeling rather special!
At this stage it was all still just talk, and I had made it
clear that what, if anything, might happen next was totally up to her. But
her enthusiasm about receiving oral sex now had me hopeful that perhaps
tonight would be more than just a foot massage.
of my explanation of Devotional Sex was about Princess Power, and I
told her how things work best when Princess Power is established early.
I said that doing this was not only fun, but meant that from then on it
would feel more natural for me to do only what she wished.
I told her that one fun way of establishing Princess Power was by spending some time
together with one person partially undressed or naked and the other
staying fully dressed.
mentioned an activity I also mentioned the command name, so I told her
that if she ever said "Undress" I would take off all my clothes except my underpants, and that if she ever said "Reveal" I would take everything off.
also mentioned that she could also establish Princes Power by her being
the person who did some undressing, and that because I would not
allowed to touch (unless she let me) this would be a powerful tease. In
this case her power would be established because I would only be
able to admire and desire her.
can't remember when my talk moved from the abstract couple to us. So
the above conversation might have been "The Knight would feel" rather
than "I would feel".
probably happened is that at some stage Ada started using "you" rather
than "he" or "the Knight". She also would have started saying "If I
..." rather than "If the Princess ...". I would have then matched her
change of language.
Of course this change in her language is an
indication that she was becoming interested in Devotional Sex as
something that she might try with me rather than just as an abstract
Note that on the night I was not consciously analyzing
her language. I never consciously noticed the language change, but my
subconscious was telling me that Ada was becoming more interested.
though we were both fully dressed, and all that I was doing was
sitting at her feet giving her a foot massage, I now felt that we were
enjoying very real Devotional Sex together.
is because we
now both knew that things would go no further unless she wanted not
just because this was the decent thing to do, but also because of her
Princess Power. And we now both knew that anything she wanted (within
my limits) would happen. For example, we both knew that if she said
"Reveal" I had promised to obey her.
I was now thinking and feeling that I was her Knight, and I felt both excited and nervous at the potential possibilities.
But, of course, I had no idea whether or not anything further would happen.
Though I did not know it, Ada was becoming curious to test her power.
Michael explained a few commands and I thought well, no point wondering if he
really meant it, lets put it to the test and see if he’ll really
live up to it.
I said "Reveal".
Michael stood up.
Standing in front of me he asked "Do you want me to take off all my clothes or do you want me to keep my underpants on?"
It was the later that I wanted him to perform, so I changed my command to Undress.
He actually did take all his clothes off bar his underpants!
I was dumbfounded and surprised. It made me feel he really meant what we were talking about before.
also realized I could make him do whatever I wanted. That was the first
rush of the "Oh my God, he just did what I asked him to do" feeling.
Of course nothing mean or embarrassing ever crossed my mind.
I did not know what was going to happen next, but it sure was exciting and so I didn’t want to stop!
Our real adventure together started when Ada said "Reveal"
I am sure that I looked both surprised and happy to hear this one word.
Because it is unusual for a new Princess to want me naked straight away I checked what she wanted.
she clarified what she wanted I felt slightly relieved that I did not
have to take everything off. And because for a few moments I had
thought that I would have to take everything off, obeying her now felt
a bit easier because I did not have to go all the way.
Even so, I did feel a little nervous as I undressed down to my underpants.
"Shall I continue with the foot massage?", I asked.
"Yes please" she replied.
I felt less exposed once I had sat back down at her feet.
feeling in the room had changed because her Princess Power was no
longer just potential but something that had been used, and now that
she had used her power once it was much more likely that she would use
me this step also made a huge difference because I now felt that things
had become sexual. I started feeling some desire for my beautiful
Princess, and as I continued with the foot massage my Desire became half hard.
Michael continued with the massage. He would lift one foot to massage and leave the other foot around his crotch area.
I felt a faint stirring there and it was definitely an ego boost to know that was because of me!
felt relaxed as I enjoyed my first sexual desire for Ada. As an
experienced Knight just feeling desire is a pleasurable experience.
I had told Ada that a key part of Devotional Dating is that a Knight does not ejaculate when with his date. So I was not striving for
the usual male end-point of ejaculation. All my pleasure tonight would come
from the enjoyment of our journey. And this a was a very nice start to our journey.
To show my appreciation and desire I gave one foot a little kiss, and then continued with the foot massage.
about fifteen minutes we continued to chat. We were both very aware
that we had entered the world of Devotional Sex. Not only was Ada
enjoying a long foot massage, but her new Knight was sitting at her
feet wearing only his underpants.
Then Ada decided to go a bit further ...