Why Devotional Sex is a lifestyle
Sex is not only about how you enjoy sexual activity. It also governs
when you start sexual activity, and how a couple acts and feels
throughout the day. Some
readers might be wondering why I call Devotional Sex a lifestyle.
Sex is only one part of your life. But as this part effects how you act
and feel throughout the day it becomes a part of a your whole lifestyle.
might be thinking "what about the rest of my life (apart from sex)" and
"Isn't a sexual technique something you only do when you are having
and intimacy are only one part of a couple's life together.
Devotional Sex encourages couples to spend a bit longer enjoying their
sex life, sex and intimacy will still only take up a small part of each
day. Most of every day will be taken up with work, house work,
recreation, and spending time with family and friends.
As this site is
about Devotional Sex, I naturally ignore all these other activities.
Usually I leave it up to you to decide how to fit Devotional Sex into
your normal life. So having acknowledged that most of your life is not
spent enjoying sex and intimacy, I shall now usually ignore the rest of
your life, and keep to the topic of this site - Devotional Sex.
When first trying Devotional Sex, the best way to start is by taking
small steps (see Chapter 8: Getting
Started). A couple's first experiences will involve doing
things for just a night, or perhaps a weekend.
But the greatest degree of power and satisfaction that Devotional Sex
offers only becomes apparent when a couple commit to living as a
Princess and Knight. When you are still learning and Devotional Sex is
new, you commit for only a short time (a week or a month). If you both
decide you enjoy the lifestyle, the
commitment can be for a whole year (and then renewed each year!).
With Devotional Sex the Princess controls when her Knight Climaxes
(ejaculates). A Knight who is over 40 might on average Climax only
about once a week. Sometimes he might go as long as two weeks till he
Climaxes! This leaves him with erotic energy most of
Devotional Sex is very much about using the Knight's erotic energy for
erotic pleasures. Whenever the Princess wants some sexual activity her
Knight will be very willing to oblige.
But just as importantly, Devotional Sex enables the couple to control
and use the Knight's erotic energy when no sexual activity is taking
When a Princess is not in the mood for sex, she does not expect
that this means her Knight should have no desire either. Instead she
accepts his erotic energy, and uses her `Princess
enjoy what are for her non-sexual activities. As well as sometimes
enjoying sensual pleasures (eg a massage or a bath together), she will
often enjoy intimate `no-sex´ cuddles.
For a Knight there is an erotic
energy component in all his Devotional Sex activities. He may become
aroused during sensual activities, and might often
become aroused during a `no-sex´ cuddle
(his arousal is part of his enjoyment of these activities).
Sex is a lifestyle
because the Knight will always desire his Princess, and she will always
be aware and appreciative of his desire. Sexual
activity is a small part of life, but shared energy and connection can
be there whenever you are together, or whenever you think about each
other when you are apart. The intimate `no-sex´ activities
an important and valuable part of the Devotional Sex lifestyle.
Very few Devotee couples will carry out sexual activity every morning
every night. But many will choose to enjoy a cuddle
ritual of at least a few minutes of
cuddling every morning and / or night. This regular intimacy is very
powerful, and is one of the major pleasures of living a Devotional Sex
To read a story where Susan and Sam have just a cuddle in the morning, click here, and this story could be followed by a bedtime with just a Calm-Down cuddle, which can be read here.