Last updated: 8 May 2008
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1: Introduction
Why Devotional Sex is a lifestyle
Devotional
Sex is not only about how you enjoy sexual activity. It also governs
when you start sexual activity, and how a couple acts and feels
throughout the day.
Devotional Sex is only one part of your life. But as this part effects how you act and feel throughout the day it becomes a part of a your whole lifestyle.
Devotional Sex is only one part of your life. But as this part effects how you act and feel throughout the day it becomes a part of a your whole lifestyle.
Some readers might be wondering why I call Devotional Sex a lifestyle.
You might be thinking "what about the rest of my life (apart from sex)" and "Isn't a sexual technique something you only do when you are having sex?"
Sex and intimacy are only one part of a couple's life together.
Though Devotional Sex encourages couples to spend a bit longer enjoying their sex life, sex and intimacy will still only take up a small part of each day. Most of every day will be taken up with work, house work, recreation, and spending time with family and friends.
As this site is about Devotional Sex, I naturally ignore all these other activities. Usually I leave it up to you to decide how to fit Devotional Sex into your normal life. So having acknowledged that most of your life is not spent enjoying sex and intimacy, I shall now usually ignore the rest of your life, and keep to the topic of this site - Devotional Sex.
When first trying Devotional Sex, the best way to start is by taking small steps (see Chapter 8: Getting Started). A couple's first experiences will involve doing things for just a night, or perhaps a weekend.
But the greatest degree of power and satisfaction that Devotional Sex offers only becomes apparent when a couple commit to living as a Princess and Knight. When you are still learning and Devotional Sex is new, you commit for only a short time (a week or a month). If you both decide you enjoy the lifestyle, the commitment can be for a whole year (and then renewed each year!).
With Devotional Sex the Princess controls when her Knight Climaxes (ejaculates). A Knight who is over 40 might on average Climax only about once a week. Sometimes he might go as long as two weeks till he Climaxes! This leaves him with erotic energy most of the time.
Devotional Sex is very much about using the Knight's erotic energy for mutual erotic pleasures. Whenever the Princess wants some sexual activity her Knight will be very willing to oblige.
But just as importantly, Devotional Sex enables the couple to control and use the Knight's erotic energy when no sexual activity is taking place.
When a Princess is not in the mood for sex, she does not expect that this means her Knight should have no desire either. Instead she accepts his erotic energy, and uses her `Princess Power´ to enjoy what are for her non-sexual activities. As well as sometimes enjoying sensual pleasures (eg a massage or a bath together), she will often enjoy intimate `no-sex´ cuddles.
For a Knight there is an erotic energy component in all his Devotional Sex activities. He may become aroused during sensual activities, and might often become aroused during a `no-sex´ cuddle (his arousal is part of his enjoyment of these activities).
Devotional Sex is a lifestyle because the Knight will always desire his Princess, and she will always be aware and appreciative of his desire. Sexual activity is a small part of life, but shared energy and connection can be there whenever you are together, or whenever you think about each other when you are apart. The intimate `no-sex´ activities are an important and valuable part of the Devotional Sex lifestyle.
Very few Devotee couples will carry out sexual activity every morning and every night. But many will choose to enjoy a cuddle ritual of at least a few minutes of cuddling every morning and / or night. This regular intimacy is very powerful, and is one of the major pleasures of living a Devotional Sex lifestyle.
To read a story where Susan and Sam have just a cuddle in the morning, click here, and this story could be followed by a bedtime with just a Calm-Down cuddle, which can be read here.