Chapter 3: Devotional Tao - the multi-orgasmic man
Devotional Sex is a combination of two ancient techniques and one more recent technique.
chapter covers one of the ancient techniques - the traditional
Taoist practice of a man learning to orgasm without ejaculating. This
technique has been popularized in the West under the title The Multi-Orgasmic Man.
chapter compares and contrasts the multi-orgasmic man technique as
practiced within traditional Tao with how it is used within Devotional
In Devotional Sex an orgasm without ejaculation is called a Crest. This chapter also explains how a man can learn to Crest!
is a possibility that not ejaculating after most sexual activity may
lead to health
Also, a couple may experience times of
emotional stress while learning Devotional Sex.
You need to make your own decision about whether or not to practice
Devotional Sex, and the author is not responsible for any health or
emotional problems which may arise as a result. (More)
Male orgasm and ejaculation are two different things
Most people think of male orgasm and ejaculation as being two parts of a single process.
In fact they are two different behaviors, each of which can be experienced without the other. (More)
Traditional Taoist practice
Taoist sexual practices are embedded in a Taoist way of life, and are
part of the culture in which they were developed.
The Taoist technique which is a component of Devotional Sex was popularized in the
book The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams Arava.
this technique a man does not ejaculate most times he has sex. He does
not miss out on orgasms because he can orgasm without ejaculating. And
because a non-ejaculatory orgasm does not cause him to loose his erotic
energy, he can continue sex and, if he wishes, enjoy more orgasms.
traditional Tao the man enjoys sex for long enough, and has enough
non-ejaculatory orgasms, to be satisfied when he ends sex without
ejaculating. When he does ejaculate, it is his decision to do so.
ejaculating at the end of most sexual activity gives a man who
practices Tao a constant energizing background erotic energy. But a key
part of real Tao is that this energy is calmed so he never feels
Men who want to learn traditional Tao (without Devotional Sex) may still find much of this chapter helpful. (More)
A male leaning to orgasm without ejaculating is very likely to lead to much better sex.
The obvious reason that sex will be better for a male is that he can now enjoy more than one orgasm each session.
But the main reason that sex will be better is due to changes in how the man thinks about and practices sex.
Practicing the multi-orgasmic man technique means that male orgasm is now a part of what happens during
sex rather than being the end-point. Male sexual satisfaction is no
longer focused on ejaculating at the end, but on the pleasures enjoyed during the
session. This can lead to greater enjoyment and appreciation by the male
of the other sexual activities such as foreplay.
he does not ejaculate, sexual activity can last for longer. This tends
to slow down sexual activity and make things more sensual.
These changes will also be enjoyed by his partner, and in fact it may be his partner who who most enjoys this new sexual practice.
How Devotional Sex is different from traditional Tao
The main differences between traditional Tao and Devotional Sex are:
- a Knight maintains a higher background level of erotic energy than he would with real Tao
(this powers his desire for his Princess so that he is always wanting to be her Knight)
- it is the Princess who decides when her Knight can ejaculate
(which enables her to control the level of her Knight's background erotic energy), and
- the Princess decides when sexual activity will start and end
(though a Knight will often desire more sex, he leans to enjoy feeling aroused during just a cuddle) (More)
The name `Devotional Tao´
I chose the
name `Devotional Tao´ to acknowledge and give credit to the ancient
Taoist tradition which is the source of the multi-orgasmic man
Using the word `Tao´ in the name is not meant to imply that
the Devotional Tao used within Devotional Sex is proper or traditional Tao.
How Devotional Tao feels for a Knight
This section looks at how it feels for an experienced Knight to:
- not ejaculate at the end of sex,
- to often be aroused without getting sex, and
- to always have some erotic energy. (More)
Devotional Sex without being able to Crest
the Knight being able to orgasm without ejaculating is part of the
definition of Devotional Sex, this is really just the icing on the
practice Devotional Sex a Knight needs higher than usual erotic energy
(which is easily achieved by not allowing him to ejaculate most times
he has sex) and he needs to be able to hold this erotic energy in a
Learning to be calm and relaxed while having higher than usual erotic energy is the first step towards learning to Crest.
it is only the first step towards learning to Crest which is essential
to the practice of Devotional Sex, and going just a bit further and
learning to Crest is just a great bonus.
Devotional Sex with more frequent ejaculationsMen who like everything about Devotional Sex except for the tough restrictions on ejaculating can practice Lite Devotional Sex in which the Knight is allowed to ejaculate much more often.
Ways to start Devotional Sex and Devotional Tao
are three ways to start Devotional Sex. Which is chosen depends on how
the man feels about his first experiences of not ejaculating after sex.
A man who wants to minimize any feelings of sexual frustration can learn Devotional Tao before starting Devotional Sex.
who enjoy the intense feelings of BDSM-style ejaculation denial can
start with high-energy Devotional Sex and then learn Devotional Tao.
Couples can also take a middle path and learn both Devotional Sex and Devotional Tao at the same time. (More)
This section looks at:
Learning to Crest will take some time and practice. Fortunately this will be both pleasurable and fun! (More)
- The erotic energy mountain - my way of explaining a man's experience of erotic energy, orgasms, and ejaculations.
- Where are you now?
- Relaxing with erotic energy - the key to practicing Devotional Sex
- Practicing by yourself and with your partner
- His Desire has a mind of it's own - lessons from dog training
- Preventing an ejaculation - emergency stops for when you get too close
- Never worry about lack of an erection
- How to Crest - the reward for those who put in the effort and practice
- Having a small crest when not aroused - the final prize of mastering erotic energy
This section looks at how Devotional Tao works as part of your lifestyle.
It presents the activities of surfing, self-play by a Knight, and a Princess controlling when her Knight can Crest.
season of Devotional Sex is defined as everything that happens between
on ejaculation and the next. This section looks at how a Knight's
erotic energy builds up during a season, how a Princess controls her
Knight's energy, and why a Knight also needs to keep his own energy
Devotional Sex ranges between mild and wild,
depending on how a Knight's erotic energy is managed. There is no right
level of energy, rather each couple finds what is right for them. (More)
How many days between each Climax?
How often should a Knight be allowed to Climax?
The answer depends on his age, individual characteristics and differences, and on the whim of his Princess. (More)
ancient Taoist techniques can also be used to make it easier for a
woman to have an orgasm whenever she wants, to become multi-orgasmic,
and to enhance her own sensual and sexual life. (More)
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