Fully explore the edges
Exploring the edges of what a Knight is willing, and not willing, to do can be fun even if it just remains talk.
Talking is also useful in case a couple ever decide to explore these things in real-life.
The best time to talk about a Knight's limits is when he has high erotic energy and is aroused.
The edge of a Knight's limits are the most extreme things he is willing to do.
Some of the activities at the edges may be things that he finds very exciting and fantasizes about doing.
Other activities may be things that he does not want to do, but would be willing to do if his Princess commanded.
Because these activities are at the edges of his limits, all of these activities are likely to be scary for him to do.
Why it is good to talk this
There are two ways to explore the edges of a Knight's limits - doing them or talking about them.
This section is about just talking.
There are several reasons why talking about the edges of a Knight's limits is desirable.
first reason is that it is fun and exciting. Even if a couple never do
what is talked about, great fun, pleasure, and excitement can be had
from just talking.
A second reason is that if an activity at the edge is ever done in practice, then the talk will have prepared both for this.
do an activity, both the Princess and her Knight must be willing.
Talking allows a couple to explore fantasies that the Princess may know
that she would never do in practice.
The talk is most powerful
if the Princess never tells her Knight which bits of his limits she
knows she will never do. Not telling her Knight what will not happen
means that in the back of his mind he will always think that there is a
possibility that one day it might happen.
Though a Princess
might not want to do an activity in real life, knowing that her Knight
would do the activity if commanded, and knowing that her Knight thinks
that there is at least a small possibility that it might happen, can be
a very fun and powerful feeling.
example, doing something in front of, or with, other people is an area
where a Knight's fantasies might go much further than what his Princess
is ever willing to do. Fully exploring in words what a Knight would be
willing to do in real-life, and what he would not do, and exploring how
he would feel about doing this, can be a lot of fun. Activities with Other People
is the best example of setting limits before the activity because it is
hard for a couple to pause and discuss limits when they are with
what happens is fully up to the Princess (as long as it is within her
Knight's limits and any other people involved consent to the activity),
a Princess can be fully relaxed and comfortable that nothing will ever
happen in real-life unless she wants it to happen.
has the freedom to openly talk and to fantasize because this is
balanced by his Princess's power to only do what she is happy to do.
course all this talk is the preparation needed if an opportunity arose
to do something in real-life and the Princess decided to explore some
And if the Princess knows that nothing will ever
happen, and her Knight does not know this, it will still be a very
powerful feeling for her Knight when he gets into a real-life situation
where, if his Princess commanded, something would happen.
It is also important for a Princess to explore which bits of her more edgy fantasies her Knight would be willing to do.
if she decides never to some things in real-life, her knowing that her
Knight would do them if commanded increased the strength of the Devotional Dynamic for both her and her Knight.
Princess can hide from her Knight which things she might like to really
do by also exploring at the same time some things that she does not
want to do.
When and how to talk about this
A man's wish to do a sexual activity is often influenced by his level of erotic energy.
When his erotic energy is very high, some activities which before were undesirable, can become very exciting.
a Princess and her Knight talk about the edges of the Knight's limits
while he is not very aroused the Knight will be much more conservative
than if he were very aroused.
The two reasons that he will be
more conservative are that when he is not very aroused he will be less
willing to talk about his fantasies. The second reason is that some
things are only fantasies when he is aroused.
So the best time
to verbally explore the edges of a Knigh's limits is when the Knight
has very high erotic energy (ie he has not ejaculated for longer than
usual), and he is aroused.
The best sexual activity to maintain his arousal and to be able to talk at the same time is Desire Play. Either the Knight should play with himself, or his Princess should play with him.
talk becomes even more intimate, and the Princess is even better able
to judge what her Knight is really feeling, if she either watches his
Desire as he plays with himself, or if she is playing with him.
parts of the discussion may make the Knight extra hard, and some parts
may make him softer. Of course the parts which make him extra hard are
pushing some of his buttons, and it is good for his Princess to know
this. Either watching or feeling his erection enables a Princess to
really find out which bits turn her Knight on.