Within Devotional Sex a Princess has the power to control all sexual and sensual activities. This is called Princess Power.

Princess Power acts as a balance to the Knight's higher than usual erotic energy by giving the Princesss control over when sexual activity will and will not happen.

A Princess can also use her power to enjoy sensual activities whenever she wishes, and to enjoy sexual pleasures in just the way she wants and for as long as she wishes. Using her power to enjoy such sensual and sexual pleasures is one of the reasons that it feels very special to be a Princess.

A Princess cannot over-exploit her Princess Power as she must ensure that her Knight is always wanting to remain her Knight.
 
 

Princess Power is an essential component of Devotional Sex because it acts as a balance to the Knight's higher than usual erotic energy. Without Princess Power a Princess would often feel under pressure to engage in sex.

The main effect of Princess Power is to remove male dominance. This enables a Princess to always feel relaxed and comfortable when she says "no" to any of her Knight's suggestions. (More) 
 
 

Princess Power is unique because this mild form of female erotic power can easily and enjoyably be practiced by a modern, confident, but non-dominant women.

For most couples the Princess will act and feel very differently from a traditional BDSM Mistress. Often, for the women, the Devotional Sex dynamic will feel more like equality than her being in charge.

Another unique aspect of Princess Power is that the Knight need not be submissive. He need only be willing to give up male dominance.

The mild power dynamic of Devotional Sex creates a dynamic that can very easily become a natural and normal part of your lifestyle. (More)
 
 

One situation where female power can dominate a relationship is when there is an abusive relationship.

Whilst it is more common for a male to use non-consensual dominance to abuse his female partner, the reverse can happen.

Devotional Sex is fully consensual, and both Devotees are devoted to their partner. So there is nothing in common between an abusive relationship and Devotional Sex.
 
 

Erotic Dominance is when a person becomes more sexually aroused when they exert power over their consenting partner.

This can be enjoyed by someone who is not dominant in the rest of their lives, and it can be just an occasional pleasure. (More)
 
 

Erotic Submission is when a person becomes more sexually aroused when they (consensually) feel under the power of their partner. 

This can be enjoyed by someone who is not submissive in the rest of their lives, and it can be just an occasional pleasure.

Many of the suggestions on this site are only suitable, or will be more fun, if the Knight enjoys erotic submission. (More)


 

Devotional Sex is fully consensual because both have chosen to practice Devotional Sex, and either can end Devotional Sex whenever they like.

By agreeing (and wanting) to be a Knight, a Knight is giving his consent to lovingly obey all his Princess's commands (as long as they are within his limits). This is balanced by the Princess needing to keep him wanting to be her Knight.

Within Devotional Sex an activity can only happen if the Princess is willing to try the activity and it is within her Knight's limits.

Because both have to consent to an activity for it to happen, any of the optional activities or enhancements presented on this site which do not get your consent will never be a part of your Devotional Sex life. So when reading this site you can just ignore all the ideas which you do not like.

Couples will enjoy a more adventurous and varied Devotional Sex life if they are willing to consent to some activities mainly to please their partner.  (More) 
 
 

Good communication is especially important within Devotional Sex because a Princess needs to know how her Knight thinks and feels so that she can use her Princess Power to enhance both of their sex lives.

It is also important for the Knight to know how his Princess feels. 

A useful aid to communicating limits and likes and dislikes is the Devotional Sex 0 to 5 scale.

The Princess can decide when and how communication will happen. (More)
 
 

Most of the times that Princess Power is used it will not feel to either the Princess or her Knight that the Knight is being controlled.

This is because most of the times Princess Power is used it is the Princess saying "no" to something, or it is her accepting a suggestion from her Knight, or her Knight is happy to do her `suggestion´, or there is some negotiation (making what is done feel like a joint decision).

There will be times when a Princess will need to be assertive, and there will be times when she wants to take full control and her Knight will feel very much under her power.

Every couple will have their own mix of the above situations. (More)
 
 

Princess Power only applies over sensual and sexual activities that are within the Knight's limits.

A Princess cannot use her Princess Power to take revenge for anything outside Devotional Sex, and most Devotional couples will not use punishment as part of their dynamic.

This section looks at how limits are discussed and set, why it is good to fully explore the edges of a Knight's limits, and why some limits should only be set when the Knight has the appropriate erotic energy level.

As backup to earlier discussions on limits, Safe Words can be used at anytime to allow urgent communication or for an emergency stop.  (More)
 
 

The main way that a Princess keeps Princess Power feeling real to both is that she controls when her Knight can ejaculate. This also enables her to control his erotic energy so that he is only very charged up when she wants him to be.

Every once in a while there may be a moment of truth which makes Princess Power feel very real. These moments of powerful Princess Power help make all the other times when there is only mild power feel like a natural and normal part of your Devotional Sex life.

Other ways of establishing and maintaining Princess Power are: to do some activities just to create the dynamic: for a Princess to be strict, consistent, and to always follow-up: for her to take control over some of her Knight's suggestions; to use appropriate timing; and to use Commands and set some Rules. (More)
 
 

The main use of Princess Power is for the Princess to direct the action to enhance the pleasure and fun for both her and her Knight. Princess Power can also be used during cuddles when there is no sexual activity to control the Knight's erotic energy.

When a Princess does not want things to go any further she can use her power to get her Knight more aroused and as long as the activity makes him feel more under her power it then becomes easier for him to obey her.

Princess Power can also be used to enjoy some background play, sensual activities, intimacy, and erotic fun.

Finally, when the lessons of dog training are applied, Princess Power can be used to achieve the almost impossible. (More)
  

Depending on whether or not a Princess enjoys erotic dominance, and whether or not her Knight enjoys erotic submission, there are four very different power dynamics.

This section looks at how Devotional Sex will differ under each of these four scenarios.

Real life is much more complicated because there is a whole continuum between loving and hating dominance or submission. Also the use of power can vary greatly at different times.

The flexibility in how and how when power is used enables each couple to find what works best for them. (More)
  
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