8: Devotional DatingThe man who gave
you this link (or print-out) would like to be intimate with you, but
wants to do it in a
special way. He would like to use the techniques of Devotional Sex to
enhance first intimacy.
For a female:
Your date has said he would like to use Devotional Sex
Once you see what this involves, he hopes you
will like the idea and want to give it a go.
Of course your date
accepts that you might never want to become intimate with him, in which
case he hopes that his interest in you is taken as a compliment.
a relationship is not only about sex - there are many other
important aspects to establishing a good relationship. But
as the subject of this site is Devotional Sex, it is only the intimate,
sensual and sexual parts of a relationship that are discussed here.
you choose to keep reading the next page tells you what Devotional
Sex is. The following pages then tell you how Devotional Sex can be used
to make early dating much more fun and intimate.
that follows assumes that your date already knows about Devotional Sex and that he wants to enjoy Devotional Sex with you. If this is not the case, go here and select the situation which applies to you.
the past it was customary for dating to move very slowly. The first
kiss and cuddle did not usually lead on to full sexual activity. Back
then talk such as this could have happened after the first kissing and
cuddling as no explicit sexual activity would have happened.
Today it is very common for the first serious kissing to lead on to full sexual activity. So today, if you want to talk about
doing things in a slower, more intimate, and more fun way than usual,
you need to do this before first intimacy has been established. Otherwise it will often be too late.
think we are sexually liberated because it is now so common for a new
couple to go the whole way the first time they are intimate together.
Our sexual liberation is put to the test, and fails, when we realize
that the idea of talking about sex before we become intimate is still
Your date is telling you about Devotional Sex now because he does not want to go the whole way the first time. He is not after the usual `once you say "yes" we do everything in a few
minutes at the end of the evening´.
Instead he would like you to feel relaxed, empowered, and special. He
wants to share and build intimacy, and to enjoy a real connection.
Also he has found that using Devotional Sex is lots more fun than the
usual way. Fun and intimacy is a great combination.
Normal first intimacy is often like being hungry (and pretending for a
while that you
are not), then satisfying your hunger quickly in one passionate burst
by eating a fast food hamburger, chips, and dessert. This fully
some basic cravings, such as our desire for fat, salt, and sugar. But
it is not a very exciting or interesting meal.
With Devotional Sex you acknowledge you are hungry at an earlier stage,
then go to a fine French restaurant. You take your time enjoying the
food, the atmosphere, and getting to know your partner. This also
satisfies the basic cravings for fat, salt, and sugar. But this way
enables more sophisticated pleasures to be enjoyed (eg taste, smell,
some nice wine, and time for good conversation).
Devotional Sex is all
about exploiting our hunger (erotic energy) to create a very exciting,
intimate, and fun journey.
Your date knows that he is taking a risk in telling you this so soon -
you might reject him because of it. He has found that Devotional Sex
works so well for both the woman and the man that it is worth the risk.
Hopefully reading this information will show you why.
So how is Devotional Sex different from the
`normal´ way? And how can it make you feel relaxed, empowered, and special?