8: Devotional Dating
For a female:
Your date has said he would like to use Devotional Sex
Your date has said he would like to use Devotional Sex
Once you see what this involves, he hopes you will like the idea and want to give it a go.
Of course your date accepts that you might never want to become intimate with him, in which case he hopes that his interest in you is taken as a compliment.
Also a relationship is not only about sex - there are many other important aspects to establishing a good relationship. But as the subject of this site is Devotional Sex, it is only the intimate, sensual and sexual parts of a relationship that are discussed here.
If you choose to keep reading the next page tells you what Devotional Sex is. The following pages then tell you how Devotional Sex can be used to make early dating much more fun and intimate.
Everything that follows assumes that your date already knows about Devotional Sex and that he wants to enjoy Devotional Sex with you.
If this is not the case, go here and select the situation which applies to you.
In the past it was customary for dating to move very slowly. The first kiss and cuddle did not usually lead on to full sexual activity. Back then talk such as this could have happened after the first kissing and cuddling as no explicit sexual activity would have happened.
Today it is very common for the first serious kissing to lead on to full sexual activity. So today, if you want to talk about doing things in a slower, more intimate, and more fun way than usual, you need to do this before first intimacy has been established. Otherwise it will often be too late.
We think we are sexually liberated because it is now so common for a new couple to go the whole way the first time they are intimate together. Our sexual liberation is put to the test, and fails, when we realize that the idea of talking about sex before we become intimate is still almost taboo.
Your date is telling you about Devotional Sex now because he does not want to go the whole way the first time. He is not after the usual `once you say "yes" we do everything in a few minutes at the end of the evening´.
Instead he would like you to feel relaxed, empowered, and special. He wants to share and build intimacy, and to enjoy a real connection.
Also he has found that using Devotional Sex is lots more fun than the usual way. Fun and intimacy is a great combination.
Normal first intimacy is often like being hungry (and pretending for a while that you are not), then satisfying your hunger quickly in one passionate burst by eating a fast food hamburger, chips, and dessert. This fully satisfies some basic cravings, such as our desire for fat, salt, and sugar. But it is not a very exciting or interesting meal.
With Devotional Sex you acknowledge you are hungry at an earlier stage, then go to a fine French restaurant. You take your time enjoying the food, the atmosphere, and getting to know your partner. This also satisfies the basic cravings for fat, salt, and sugar. But this way enables more sophisticated pleasures to be enjoyed (eg taste, smell, some nice wine, and time for good conversation).
Devotional Sex is all about exploiting our hunger (erotic energy) to create a very exciting, intimate, and fun journey.
Your date knows that he is taking a risk in telling you this so soon - you might reject him because of it. He has found that Devotional Sex works so well for both the woman and the man that it is worth the risk. Hopefully reading this information will show you why.
So how is Devotional Sex different from the `normal´ way? And how can it make you feel relaxed, empowered, and special?