9: Living as Devotees
are an easy way for a Princess to make something happen. Instead of
having to explain what she wants, with a command she need only say one
Most of the
time the use of a command will not feel like an order, but just the
Princess having her turn to change the activity taking place. The
occasional use of a command helps a Princess to feel special, and keeps
the Devotee dynamic running smoothly.
Using an occasional command has two main benefits.
Firstly, it makes it easy for a Princess to take control of
activity without having to say lots of words which might interrupt the
of the activities. Secondly, using a brief command, and having her
Knight obey, can make a Princess feel that
she really is a Princess.
The more commands a couple are used to using the easier it becomes for
a Princess to take control (even if she only does this occasionally).
Being able to say just one word to enjoy an activity makes her control
flow easier as she moves from activity to activity.
Which commands are used, and how often, is for each Princess to decide.
A command is only a useful part of a Devotee couple's dynamic if a
Princess uses it often enough for her Knight to remember what it means!
Reading a page about commands might create the impression that commands
are heavily used and dominate a Devotee couple's dynamic. The reality
is very different. A Devotees couple's sexual dynamic is still mainly
shaped by normal negotiation.
sexual activities are mainly led by a Knight's suggestions, then the
occasional Princess command feels to both Devotees more like some
balance than her taking control.
Most often the use of a command will not feel to the Knight like an
the Knight likes the result then
it will feel as if his Princess has made a suggestion and the Knight's
obeying is saying "that's a great idea". As the Knight is eager to
please his Princess, even a command which results in her being
pleasured is acted upon with enthusiasm.
Sometimes when a command is
used there can be some negotiation. Of course, after listening to her
Knight, the Princess might just say "no", and repeat the command.
Every once in a while a command will be very much about Princess Power.
A Knight might not want to obey, but from the context he will know
that this is not an appropriate time for negotiation, and that his
quick obeying of the command is part of the price of enjoying his
When using a command a
needs to make it clear that what she says is a command. A simple way of
doing this is by saying only the command without any other
words. For example "Why don't you lie on your back" could be a
question, a suggestion, or a direction. "Back" is clearly the Back
A Princess will usually say a
command in a normal tone of voice. She knows what she
wants, and she knows that as long as her Knight clearly hears what she
says, he will do as asked. Only if a couple are `play acting´
will a Princess say a command as if she were a Sergeant Major or a BDSM
Of course a Princess can command anything she wishes (as long as it is
within her Knight's limits). "I want you to lick my knees" is clearly a
command, albeit a bit unusual!
The following commands differ in that the Princess need only say one word for an action to take place.
commands control common Devotee activities, so these are
the commands most likely to be used by a Princess. (More)
a very special command, and is part of what is represented by the
Devotional Sex logo. By just saying this one word and doing some simple
actions, a Princess can enjoy her choice of an intimate cuddle, a
Pleasure Kiss, or some other pleasures. (More)
is a list
of commands which are less likely to be used by Devotees. A more
adventurous Princess, or one who enjoys using commands, may have lots
of fun using any of these commands which take her fancy. (More)
The links above take you to the pages
listing the commands. Each page also says how and when each command can
As with all the new words I have used when on this site, a Devotee
can ignore my words and use any words they wish. If you think of a
for a command, please let me know so that I can share it with the other
readers of this site.