Chapter 9: Living Devotional Sex Living Devotional Sex is when Devotional Sex becomes a normal part of a couple's life.
for those not in a relationship, it is when Devotional Sex becomes a
normal part of dating or being with a Devotional Friend.
chapter first looks at
activities, then activities that do not go as far as full sex, the different ways you may enjoy sex, and the use of
commands and challenges.
Even though most couples who practice Devotional
Sex will enjoy many of these activities, as none of them appear in the Definition
of Devotional Sex, everything in this chapter is optional.
chapter then examines how it feels, and what really happens, when
Devotional Sex becomes your new normal. This is followed by a section
on making the commitment to live Devotional Sex, and the chapter
concludes by looking at how
to keep things fresh and exciting.
Common Devotional activities
Some, or all, of the following activities may become a normal part of your life when you practice Devotional Sex.
A Devotional Cuddle is erotic resting time with the Princess acknowledging her Knight's arousal by holding and gently playing with his hard
Desire. As the Princess knows that nothing need follow, she is free to simply relax and enjoy this time of connection and touching.
"These quiet spaces, the breathing times, can be the most erotic and sensual of all your activities together." Emma
Devotional Cuddle can be enjoyed before, in between, or after other
sexual activity. Sometimes it will be enjoyed as the only sexual activity of a
A Calm-Down Cuddle is a way of ending sexual activity when the Knight is very aroused.
this cuddle the Princess firmly holds, but does not play with, her
Knight's erection. Her still hand makes clear that sexual activity is
over. This cuddle allows the Knight's energy to fall at the end of sex
without him feeling rejected by his Princess.
A Calm-Down cuddle is both a sometimes necessary part of Devotional Sex, and one of its unique pleasures. (More)
Affirmation is when a Princess has her Knight be naked while she remains dressed. This affirms the reality of Princess Power, and the Knight's visible arousal affirms his desire for his Princess.
is an easy way for a Princess to eliminate any male dominance from her
Knight, and to make a Knight who enjoys erotic submission feel under
her power. Affirmation can be a prelude to other activities, or not lead any further. (More)
A Submissive Cuddle is a when a fully dressed Princess cuddles her naked and aroused Knight.
with Affirmation, the difference in clothing has the Knight feeling
submissive to his Princess. During the cuddle the Princess can choose
to play with, just hold, or totally ignore her Knight's
Having her Knight give a Foot Massage
is an easy way for a Princess to enable her Knight to show his desire
and devotion. The Knight can channel his desire for sexual activity
into giving her the foot massage, and his position of sitting at her
feet reinforces that what happens later, if anything, is totally up to
Because giving a foot massage is so effective at
establishing a Devotional dynamic, while also being a non-sexual
relaxing pleasure for the Princess, for many couples this will become a
very common Devotional activity. (More)
Enjoyment without going as far as Joy
Some people think of sex as being intercourse (Joy). Everything leading up to Joy is, for them, just a preliminary leading to the main event.
This section shows that there are many sensual and sexual activities which can be enjoyed without, or before, Joy.
In fact most of the benefits of practicing Devotional Sex arise by increasing the quality and quantity of these pre-Joy activities.
Devotional Sex is powered by the Knight's high erotic energy,
and this energy means that he is always keen to engage in a Devotional
activity - any activity. The Knight's high energy is balanced by his
Princess's power to decide what happens, and, most importantly, what does not happen.
Where Devotional Sex differs from
`normal´ sex is that a Princesss will often decide that a session
will include just one or more of these pre-Joy activities without
allowing things to `move forward´ to other pre-Joy activities or
In a Devotional Relationship Joy will be one of the couples activities. But for most Devotee couples the majority of their sensual and sexual sessions will not
include Joy. Joy remains a significant and important activity, but it
no longer is seen as the main event or natural conclusion to starting
sexual activity.When Devotional Dating
journey of discovery of a new partner is much more exciting and fun if
the Princess does not allow Joy until the couple have spent several
dates exploring these pre-Joy pleasures together. This not only creates
much more appreciation for these pre-Joy activities, but will make
first Joy feel very special.Devotional Friends
are friends who enjoy one or more of these pre-Joy activities without
ever going any further. Sharing some of these pre-Joy activities with
friends opens up a whole new world to explore and feels extremely liberating.
Enjoyable activities which don't go as far as Joy include:
Clicking More after
any of the above activities takes you to a page which explains more
about that activity. These pages are a great source of ideas!
- Sensual Pleasures - foot and body massages, sharing a bath together, and sleeping in the nude. (More)
- Intimacy and cuddles
- a close physical connection with another person re-charges our
- Erotic Resting
- the Knight's erotic energy is explicitly accepted by his Princess
during a cuddle. This may be done by the cuddle being either a Devotional
Cuddle or a Ritual Cuddle. (More)
- Erotic Fun - play helps us unwind and relax, and provides a break from the
many stresses of modern life. Using erotic energy to power some adult
play (which need not lead on to full sexual activity) is a great way for adults to have
some fun. (More)
- Sexual Pleasures (other than Joy) - sexual pleasures are extremely enjoyable! (More)
- The background dynamic -
even if nothing is done, both the Princess and her Knight may be very
aware that if the Princess wanted, something would happen. (More)
- Exploring Devotional Sex - exploring in real-life what you read about on this site. (More)
Devotional Sex usually results in a couple enjoy more sessions of
sexual activity each week. Practicing Devotional Sex makes it desirable
to enjoy the
occasional very long session, and, in possibly the biggest change to
your sex life, it makes it very easy to enjoy many extra short sessions
Of course there is a continuum between a very short
session and a very long session. This section picks four points on this
continuum to illustrate how Devotional Sex can make things very
different from before.
Blissettes are short sessions (about 2 to 10 minutes) in which only one sexual activity is enjoyed.
are one of the unique joys that Devotional Sex enables. They make it
easy and fun to enjoy sexual activity much more often than in a
`normal´ relationship. (More)
a medium session of sexual activity (lasting about 20 to 40 minutes).
Several sexual activities may
be enjoyed, though sometimes there will be just one major activity.
Either or both Devotees may Crest or Climax. (More)
Supreme Bliss is a very long session of sexual activity
(lasting an hour or longer).
Some activities will be
enjoyed in a slow, gentle, and very sensual manner over a much longer
time than usual. This adds a quiet intensity to the session and makes
Supreme Bliss very special. (More)
is when a couple spend many hours (eg a whole evening) with recurring
periods of sexual activity interrupted by breaks without any activity.
Bliss is a very sexy and intimate time because even when there is no
activity (and the Knight is not hard) there is still a strong
background feeling of erotic energy and desire. (More)
Fleeting Bliss is a very short taste of sexual activity (less than 2 minutes).
Fleeting Bliss is a very effective tease, and a great way to keep a Knight thinking about his Princess. (More)
are an easy way for a
Princess to make something happen. Instead of having to explain what she wants, with a command she need only say one word.
Sometimes the use of a
command will not feel like an order, but just the Princess having her
turn to change the activity taking place. Other times a command will feel like she is taking charge.
The occasional use of a
command helps a
Princess to feel special, and keeps the Devotee dynamic running
commands control common Devotee activities.
The commands in this list are the onces most likely to be used by a Princess. (More)
The Ritual command enables a Princess to enjoy a Pleasure Kiss whenever she wants, and for as long as she wants.
a very special command, and is part of what is represented by the
Devotional Sex logo. (More)
commands is a list of commands which are less likely to be
used than the Basic commands.
A more adventurous Princess, or one who enjoys using commands, may have lots of fun using some of these commands. (More)
Rules are instructions that a Princess sets once, and will from then on always be obeyed by her Knight.
Rules can be set to make things run more smoothly, or to enhance any aspect of Devotional Sex.
Some rules may be set just to ensure that male dominance does not take over.
a Knight enjoys erotic submission, his Princess can make some rules so
that without her every having to instruct him again, he will have to
regularly do some things which will make him feel submissive to his
help develop and expand your Devotional life. They can be just for the
fun of the challenge, or training to make it
easier for a new activity to become a normal part of your
This section shows why challenges are beneficial, and suggests some challenges you might like to try. (More)
When Devotional Sex becomes your normal
the most fun and excitement is probably when you first start exploring
Devotional Sex, the real power of the technique, and its greatest
satisfaction, are felt when it becomes a normal part of your life.
Some of the reality of living Devotional Sex might not be what you at first suspect!
section looks at how it feels when the basic dynamic becomes normal,
looks at the amount of sexual activity you are likely to enjoy, and
shows that the biggest satisfaction may come from some basic Devotional
How living Devotional Sex changes your sex
life is illustrated by listing all the sexual activity enjoyed by one
couple over a period of two months.
Even if you live Devotional Sex you will never do many of
the extras suggested on this site, but some of the extras might become
part of your new normal. Living Devotional Sex is
unlikely to be a complete male fantasy, but it can become a
complete female fantasy!
This section concludes by looking at the importance of finding your own peak of happiness as a couple. (More)
Practicing Devotional Sex when living with children obviously creates some challenges and limits what can be done.
section gives advice on how to deal with these everyday challenges, and
how to get the most out of your Devotional Sex lifestyle despite the
Devotional Sex requires a couple to commit to each other that they will
fulfill their role for the period of the commitment. This
commitment needs to be for long enough for Devotional Sex to start to feel a
normal part of the couple's life.
The first time you make this commitment feels very much like starting an exciting adventure with your partner!
section looks at committing within a relationship, committing at the
start of dating, the big change of going from Devotional
Dating to a Devotional Relationship, and how a single person can commit
to themselves to practice Devotional Sex in the future. (More)
Keeping things fresh and exciting
Just like with an ordinary sex life, a Devotional Sex life can become stale and routine.
And, just like with any other interest, the way to keep things fresh and exciting is to put a little effort into it. (More)
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