A day with my Princess after a two week break

[Devotional Sex]

I don't live with my Princess, so each weekend we usually only spend one or two nights together. Last weekend she was sick and I had major dental pain so we did not get together.

This weekend she came over on Friday night. Ada was very tired and she went to bed early that night and there was no sexual activity.

Very early Saturday morning, before it was light, she woke up and moved over to cuddle me. This woke me up enough to cuddle her back. She moved her hand down and started to gently play with my soft Desire. Soon I was fully hard and we spent some time just cuddling with her playing with my erection.

It had been two weeks since my last sexual activity, so it felt extra good to be aroused and played with. What surprised me though was how it felt a bit strange and very challenging to once again be her Knight.

I've been living Devotional Sex for over ten years, so it was a surprise to me that being her Knight just then in bed felt strange after only a two week gap. But it did.

Being her Knight meant that as we cuddled and she played with me I was very aware that I was in her hands - not just my erection - but what, if anything, would happen next.

And I was feeling the normal male response of 'I'm erect and having sexual activity and so I want this to lead to my ejaculation', yet I knew that my Princess would end this session without allowing me to cum.

With Devotional Sex a Knight is allowed to make suggestions for what to do next and to tell his Princess what he feels like doing. But this was unnecessary as we cuddled because my Princess could feel in her hand my desire for further activity. So all I said was how wonderful it was to feel so hers again, and how much I had missed her holding me.

So as we lay in this pre-light early morning cuddling my situation was feeling strange and challenging. I was hoping that activity would keep going and that maybe I would be allow to give her some oral sex or to enter her, and I felt totally in her power because I just had to wait to see what would happen. And my erection was enjoying this attention and wanting to end with ejaculation, yet I knew that this would not happen.

So I told my Princess how I was feeling, and how being her Knight felt unusually strange and challenging. I asked if things felt a bit strange to her as well, and she replied that no, for her this all felt totally normal.

She was used to being my Princess. Just as it felt natural for her to not allow any sexual activity when we went to bed because she was tired, it was natural for her to start to play with me when she felt like enjoying some fun with me.

She didn't need to think about my not ejaculating at the end because this was now normal for her.

If she had thought about it then she would probably say that she would not allow me to ejaculate at the end of this session because she wanted me horny and wanting her for the rest of the day. And this would not be just a selfish whim because she also knows that I like being charged up and this would lead to lots of further fun later that day - so not having me ejaculate was also for my long-term pleasure.

So ejaculation denial is the wrong word because not having me ejaculate was just normal - she didn't feel like she was denying me.

Finally Ada let go of my Desire and rolled over to face away from me. I was very pleased that instead of saying "That's all for now" she pushed her bottom against me and had me enter her. We then enjoyed some lovely early morning gentle spooning.

Finally she asked me to pull out, and we both went back to sleep.

When we woke up again a few hours later I quickly got hard from just cuddling her. Once again she played with my erection for a while. She then said "Ritual" and obediently I moved down to lick her.

Unusually she asked me to stop before she reached orgasm. As usual after Ritual I moved back up to cuddle her and she once again held my erection.

It was going to be a very hot day, and already the house was warm. When we got out of bed Ada told me to stay naked. Having had two sexual sessions in bed without any ejaculations I had a high background level of erotic energy, and so I enjoyed having to remain naked for her.

Later we walked to a nearby large shopping centre for a very late breakfast. Very unusually, and to my delight, Princess Ada didn't wear any panties during this outing. So during our outing and our meal I enjoyed the dynamic between us - me very much thinking of her as my desirable Princess, and she enjoying my squirminess and desire for her.

When we got back home Ada again had me be naked for her.

Later that afternoon we went to bed again. As usual we started with cuddling and her holding my erection. (This is such a common activity within Devotional Sex that I call this a Devotional Cuddle).

As always I didn't know whether or not anything further was going to happen. But after a while Ada said "Ritual" and I move down.

With Devotional Sex the Princess controls what does and does not happen. Ada almost never allows me to touch her sex with my hand. She feels special thinking "Why have him touch me with his fingers when I can have his lips and tongue whenever I wish?"

Starting with a Devotional Cuddle gives my Princess time to get into the mood for going further. And one of the things I love about now this works is that when she says "Ritual" my mouth is rewarded with a very wet and wanting Pleasure.

This time Ada had me bring her to orgasm. After yet another Devotional Cuddle whilst Ada recovered, we then went to some spooning, and the session ended with Ada doing some active playing with my erection and giving me some oral sex (a rare treat) and she then told me to cum. I did, and not surprisingly after all the day's activities, it was a very powerful orgasm!

If I had been asked during our first pre-light cuddle that morning whether or not I wanted to be Ada's Knight there was a bit of me that wanted to be an ordinary male - to initiate further sexual activity and then to ejaculate at the end of it.

But I hope you can see from what happened during the rest of the day why I much prefer to be Ada's Knight than just a normal boyfriend.

And this story also provides a good illustration of why Devotional Sex is not FemDom or BDSM. Though it was a slight challenge for me to obey Ada, she was never dominant. And though Devotional Sex is very different from vanilla sex, our day of fun did not include any pain, punishment, humiliation, bondage, discipline, fetish dress, etc.

[Devotional Sex]

I also posted this story on my photo blog and to the Devotional Sex group on FetLife.

The feedback so far posted on FetLife has been:

Thank you for sharing!

and

This was a very sweet post. I smiled the whole time.

I welcome any further feedback.

[newlover]

Hot stuff. I am very turned on by the female calling the shots..

[Andy]

I would like to know what a Princess is thinking about how the Knight is feeling. Can a woman imagine how it is for a man?
What does a woman thinks how it is?

[Princess Sarah]

Hello Andy, I'm not sure either a woman, or a man fully understands what it feels like to be a member of the opposite sex but do believe that it is possible to be empathetic.

Let me tell you about my experiences with DS. My Knight and I discovered DS whilst looking at a lot of other websites. These included various sites that dealt with femdom relationships and cuckolding. None of these really worked for either of us. Whilst my Knight is quite submissive sexually I see him as a strong man and certainly not someone I would like to see humiliated, punished etc. I'm not especially dominant myself. I could understand the erotic nature of his desires to see me with another man. It also excited me but only whilst it remained a fantasy. My fear was, and always had been that I would not be in control of any situation were it to become reality. This wasn't a fear about not being safe. It was more the psychology of my sexual desire and wanting ownership of that.

We then happen chanced across DS and immediately started to read avidly the site and played a little with DS scenes. I refused my Knight permission to cum, and extended this over several days to weeks whilst he obeyed my desires for revealing, ritual, devotional cuddles etc. The effect on our lives was transformational. I'm not talking about our intimate lives alone, but also on our general health, wellbeing and happiness. DS gave us the opportunity to slow down, to take time, to talk and reveal some of our innermost thoughts and desires. I felt positive about life and renewed and my Knight seemed to have endless energy for erections and limitless desire. He started coming home early from work, taking days off to be with me when he could. Small things that actually meant a lot. In short we both became very aware of each other. As for our sex lives...well it is like being a young person again and discovering sex for the first time. Our love life had dwindled to maybe intercourse once a week. Now we are intimate most, if not every day, I enjoy many and varied orgasms and when I allow my Knight to cum his ejaculations are full and powerful. He is an attentive and considerate lover and I hope i am for him too...(he tells me so). We delight in sharing fantasies, playfulness, teasing and anticipation.

My friends have noticed my general joie-de-vivre and enjoyment of life.

There's nothing magical, or mystical about DS beyond communication, sharing and being aware. Give it a try and all sorts of possibilities may open for you.