With his permission, I've reposted his FetLife posts to this forum:
1 - INTRODUCTION
I just joined the group today. My Princess and I have just committed to Devotional Sex after finding it on tumblr (actually, officially, our commitment doesn't start until Thursday night when I get back from out of town, but I have already started addressing her as Princess and adjusted my mindset accordingly). Interestingly enough, we were already in a period of orgasm denial when we found DS. 2 main things I am interested in:
1. How do we keep the intimacy when I travel almost every week, since the devotional cuddles will be restricted to weekends when I'm home?
2. Are there any devotees in the Austin, TX area.
Aside from that, we would love to find some online friends to chat with and share stories and ideas on how to get the most out of DS.
I should add that I have not finished reading through the web site yet (only on ch3), although I think my Princess has gotten a little further, but I love the tumblr pictures and captions and I think it perfectly describes the type of relationship my Princess and I wish to have.
Devotional Sex replied:
Welcome to the group rdstorm.
Great to hear that you and your wife not only like reading about Devotional Sex, but are starting to live it!
Missing out on physical intimacy during the week will be challenging for you both. At least this will be partly made up for by you both appreciating the physical even more than most when you are together.
For maintaining mental intimacy while you are away you will need to work something out which is practical and doesn't become a burden for your Princess.
The obvious is a late night phone call, where she can tell you to do things and tell you what she is doing, etc. If you made a regular time when you called her you could set a rule where you must be naked and erect when you phone her (and she will know this) but it will be up to her whether or not the phone call becomes sexual.
You could set yourself some 'thinking of Princess' time each night. When you start this long gentle masturbation session you send your Princess a short message. She might message back with instructions. But even if she does not she knows that you are obeying and you are thinking of her.
As Devotional Sex is fairly new it will probably be very hard to find other Devotees in your city. But please feel free to discuss Devotional Sex here on FetLife and on the forum of my website. (It is ok to post to both forums).
I'm keen to hear how other couples practice Devotional Sex because they are certain to do at least one or two things differently from what I've written. Not only can your posts inspire others but I'll also update the website with any new ideas that are a good fit.
Apologies that so much of the website is "not yet written".
I'm not doing much work on the website at present as I'm in the planning stages for an erotic novel aimed at women that includes Devotional Sex.
Our First DS Weekend
Princess April and I recently found the Devotional Sex tumble, web site, and this FetLife group, in roughly that order, over the past couple of weeks. When we came across the info on DS, as I mentioned in my intro, we were already in a period of denial due to us both being out of town in different directions.
When we saw each other Thursday night it had been roughly 3 weeks since I had cum last, and almost as long since I had seen Princess April, the kids, and our home. We had just decided earlier that week to give DS a try, but it was very similar to some role-playing we had done off and on in our recent past. In this role-playing, she was the Queen and I was her consort... It included many of the sensual items like nightly (or more) footrubs, backrubs on request, me getting her wine on command, etc. It did not typically include the orgasm denial, although we did do it a enough times to realize the positive effects it would have on me.
More on our relevant background in later posts, but now on to the weekend. My week, as the prior weeks had been, was filled with me stimulating myself but stopping short of Cumming, at Princess April's request. As I got to the airport for my return flight, I was excited to be a few short hours from seeing my Princess, and this was intensified by Princess April testing me about her plans to get a nipple pierced, possible tattoo, and the most intense feeling came from her question of what kind of tattoo she should have her cock tattooed with. That really made me feel like hers and was very exciting, and caused me to walk through the Austin airport with a noticeable hard-on.
As I arrived home, we were both as affectionate as possible in front of the kids, and I could tell she enjoyed knowing of the sexual energy that I had built up. WE had just ordered a new extender/sheath to help Princess April enjoy the sex that she loves without worrying about me getting too close to cumming unless she wanted me to. The Princess was very anxious to try this out, and her desire for that won out over her being on her period, so I was able to bring her to orgasm using the toy that first night, although the toy slipped out as her orgasm started so her orgasm was not as good as it could have been. After that, we enjoyed a devotional cuddle to end the night.
Friday was filled with her teasing me at various times when we were together without kids around. She mentioned later how freeing it felt for her to know that 1) She controlled the teasing, when it began, and when it ended, 2) I enjoyed her knowing of my devotion and adoration of her by way of my state of arousal. I must say I was very happy to see how she really seemed to get into it and had fun with the teasing.
Friday night was even better than Thursday. Once we got to the bedroom, we decided that she was feeling submissive and I would be in control of everything except my orgasm that night. She was blindfolded and face-fucked for a little while (she loves that) before I let her take the blindfold off for a short time so she could admire the surprise of my clean-shaven pubic area while she gave me more oral sex, this time with her more in control. After that we moved to her feelings her cock inside her as she bent over the bed before she got to lay back and experience Duncan for the second night in a row (we name all our phallic toys, and this new one is named Duncan). This time Duncan did not slip out, and Princess April got to cum with Duncan and her knight inside her before letting me know she was done. We against ended up the night with a devotional cuddle and went to sleep.
Unfortunately, the rest of the weekend was more anti-climactic. Saturday had plenty of teasing, but I ended up not feeling well Saturday night so a quick devotional cuddle was the extent of our activities. Sunday was feeling a little better, but we ended up arguing and the sex that night was indicative of that, with the Process not really into the oral she requested from me. The blow job she gave me to finish the night physically felt very nice, but it paled to my disappointment of not being able to do a better job on her.
I left again Monday morning still feeling the combination of that disappointment and the sexual energy from getting close to 4 weeks with not orgasm. I am looking forward to this weekend when we get away for our anniversary for 2 days with no kids. More on that later.
Devotional Sex replied:
Wow! What a great post!
This is real-life sex - which has both amazing highs and as well as a few problems.
I love the way you have both tweaked things to make Devotional Sex fit what you want. Your not being allowed to cum on Friday night but otherwise being in control is a nice diversion from your Princess always being in charge.
My general recommendation for a man of 45 is that on average he ejaculate between about every 5 to 9 days, with a maximum of about 15 days. You are going much longer than this, moving more towards chastity, but that is fine if it is what works best for you.
I've found that Devotional Cuddles are some of the closest and most intimate times in bed with a partner. Not only are they a great way of ending sexual activity, but they can be enjoyed on mornings or bedtimes when nothing further happens.
It's great to hear what works for other people. I hope you continue to post as I'm sure that your posts will inspire some readers to give it a go.
Thanks for all of the comments everyone. I plan on posting regularly anyway, but it is always nice to know people are reading and getting something out of what I write. I haven't reread what I wrote yet, but my feeling as I was writing it was that I usually write better, but I was anxious to get the first post out and probably rushed through it a little.
Princess April is indeed part of this group as well and will be posting soon, I think. My sense is that I will probably post more frequently than she does, but maybe with some encouragement we can get her side of things on a regular basis as well.
My period of chastity is longer than normal this season four a couple of reasons:
1. The sexual energy seems like it takes a eek our so to build up after I cum, so we had talked about making the normal period last between 1 and 2 weeks.
2. Our out of town time, 3 weeks apart, coinciding with our anniversary this coming weekend caused me to ask my Princess if I could show my devotion by waiting at least until our anniversary weekend to cum.
Incidentally, Princess April teased me a little on that last part by telling me on a couple of occasions this past weekend that, had it not been for my request, she would have asked for me to cum before I left again Monday.
Devotional Sex replied:
It would be great to hear from Princess April on this forum.
Clearly the best for you when you spend time away and then come home is to ejaculate at the end of the time at home part.
The most fun for you way of doing this is for your Princess to have you cum with her just before you leave.
But to give her a feeling of power, and you a feeling of not knowing what is going to happen, your Princess could sometimes decide that you will cum the first night that you are away. This gives you the rest of the time away to recharge. And it also means that ejaculating with your Princess becomes a much more special event when it does happen.
If you are going to keep this up in the long-term then it is unrealistic for each home visit to always be highly sexually active. So the other way of ejaculating, which is good for Princess April, good for the relationship, but disappointing for you, is that sometimes Princess April may want to make you ejaculate at home well before the end of your visit. This means that you will be flat for the rest of your time at home.
So when Princess April is feeling flat, rather than her being annoyed and pressured by your high sexual energy she has the power to make you flat too. This makes for a quiet end to a visit at home, but makes things flow much better overall.
I look forward to reading your next progress report.
Hi all. Princess April checking in. I plan on posting more later on rdstorm's post about our first weekend as well as my thoughts on Devotional Sex in general. I'd be happy to answer questions from a female perspective if y'all have any. Well off to enjoy the special anniversary day my knight has planned for me. Later.