SirAres and Princess April

[Devotional Sex]

SirAres has posted some real-life stories and comments about Devotional Sex to the Devotional Sex FetLife group. (His FetLife name is rdstorm.)

With his permission, I've reposted his FetLife posts to this forum:

1 - INTRODUCTION

I just joined the group today. My Princess and I have just committed to Devotional Sex after finding it on tumblr (actually, officially, our commitment doesn't start until Thursday night when I get back from out of town, but I have already started addressing her as Princess and adjusted my mindset accordingly). Interestingly enough, we were already in a period of orgasm denial when we found DS. 2 main things I am interested in:

1. How do we keep the intimacy when I travel almost every week, since the devotional cuddles will be restricted to weekends when I'm home?

2. Are there any devotees in the Austin, TX area.

Aside from that, we would love to find some online friends to chat with and share stories and ideas on how to get the most out of DS.

I should add that I have not finished reading through the web site yet (only on ch3), although I think my Princess has gotten a little further, but I love the tumblr pictures and captions and I think it perfectly describes the type of relationship my Princess and I wish to have.

Devotional Sex replied:

Welcome to the group rdstorm.

Great to hear that you and your wife not only like reading about Devotional Sex, but are starting to live it!

Missing out on physical intimacy during the week will be challenging for you both. At least this will be partly made up for by you both appreciating the physical even more than most when you are together.

For maintaining mental intimacy while you are away you will need to work something out which is practical and doesn't become a burden for your Princess.

The obvious is a late night phone call, where she can tell you to do things and tell you what she is doing, etc. If you made a regular time when you called her you could set a rule where you must be naked and erect when you phone her (and she will know this) but it will be up to her whether or not the phone call becomes sexual.

You could set yourself some 'thinking of Princess' time each night. When you start this long gentle masturbation session you send your Princess a short message. She might message back with instructions. But even if she does not she knows that you are obeying and you are thinking of her.

As Devotional Sex is fairly new it will probably be very hard to find other Devotees in your city. But please feel free to discuss Devotional Sex here on FetLife and on the forum of my website. (It is ok to post to both forums).

I'm keen to hear how other couples practice Devotional Sex because they are certain to do at least one or two things differently from what I've written. Not only can your posts inspire others but I'll also update the website with any new ideas that are a good fit.

Apologies that so much of the website is "not yet written".

I'm not doing much work on the website at present as I'm in the planning stages for an erotic novel aimed at women that includes Devotional Sex.

Happy exploring,
Michael

Our First DS Weekend

Princess April and I recently found the Devotional Sex tumble, web site, and this FetLife group, in roughly that order, over the past couple of weeks. When we came across the info on DS, as I mentioned in my intro, we were already in a period of denial due to us both being out of town in different directions.

When we saw each other Thursday night it had been roughly 3 weeks since I had cum last, and almost as long since I had seen Princess April, the kids, and our home. We had just decided earlier that week to give DS a try, but it was very similar to some role-playing we had done off and on in our recent past. In this role-playing, she was the Queen and I was her consort... It included many of the sensual items like nightly (or more) footrubs, backrubs on request, me getting her wine on command, etc. It did not typically include the orgasm denial, although we did do it a enough times to realize the positive effects it would have on me.

More on our relevant background in later posts, but now on to the weekend. My week, as the prior weeks had been, was filled with me stimulating myself but stopping short of Cumming, at Princess April's request. As I got to the airport for my return flight, I was excited to be a few short hours from seeing my Princess, and this was intensified by Princess April testing me about her plans to get a nipple pierced, possible tattoo, and the most intense feeling came from her question of what kind of tattoo she should have her cock tattooed with. That really made me feel like hers and was very exciting, and caused me to walk through the Austin airport with a noticeable hard-on.

As I arrived home, we were both as affectionate as possible in front of the kids, and I could tell she enjoyed knowing of the sexual energy that I had built up. WE had just ordered a new extender/sheath to help Princess April enjoy the sex that she loves without worrying about me getting too close to cumming unless she wanted me to. The Princess was very anxious to try this out, and her desire for that won out over her being on her period, so I was able to bring her to orgasm using the toy that first night, although the toy slipped out as her orgasm started so her orgasm was not as good as it could have been. After that, we enjoyed a devotional cuddle to end the night.

Friday was filled with her teasing me at various times when we were together without kids around. She mentioned later how freeing it felt for her to know that 1) She controlled the teasing, when it began, and when it ended, 2) I enjoyed her knowing of my devotion and adoration of her by way of my state of arousal. I must say I was very happy to see how she really seemed to get into it and had fun with the teasing.

Friday night was even better than Thursday. Once we got to the bedroom, we decided that she was feeling submissive and I would be in control of everything except my orgasm that night. She was blindfolded and face-fucked for a little while (she loves that) before I let her take the blindfold off for a short time so she could admire the surprise of my clean-shaven pubic area while she gave me more oral sex, this time with her more in control. After that we moved to her feelings her cock inside her as she bent over the bed before she got to lay back and experience Duncan for the second night in a row (we name all our phallic toys, and this new one is named Duncan). This time Duncan did not slip out, and Princess April got to cum with Duncan and her knight inside her before letting me know she was done. We against ended up the night with a devotional cuddle and went to sleep.

Unfortunately, the rest of the weekend was more anti-climactic. Saturday had plenty of teasing, but I ended up not feeling well Saturday night so a quick devotional cuddle was the extent of our activities. Sunday was feeling a little better, but we ended up arguing and the sex that night was indicative of that, with the Process not really into the oral she requested from me. The blow job she gave me to finish the night physically felt very nice, but it paled to my disappointment of not being able to do a better job on her.

I left again Monday morning still feeling the combination of that disappointment and the sexual energy from getting close to 4 weeks with not orgasm. I am looking forward to this weekend when we get away for our anniversary for 2 days with no kids. More on that later.

Devotional Sex replied:

Wow! What a great post!

This is real-life sex - which has both amazing highs and as well as a few problems.

I love the way you have both tweaked things to make Devotional Sex fit what you want. Your not being allowed to cum on Friday night but otherwise being in control is a nice diversion from your Princess always being in charge.

My general recommendation for a man of 45 is that on average he ejaculate between about every 5 to 9 days, with a maximum of about 15 days. You are going much longer than this, moving more towards chastity, but that is fine if it is what works best for you.

I've found that Devotional Cuddles are some of the closest and most intimate times in bed with a partner. Not only are they a great way of ending sexual activity, but they can be enjoyed on mornings or bedtimes when nothing further happens.

It's great to hear what works for other people. I hope you continue to post as I'm sure that your posts will inspire some readers to give it a go.

Thanks for all of the comments everyone. I plan on posting regularly anyway, but it is always nice to know people are reading and getting something out of what I write. I haven't reread what I wrote yet, but my feeling as I was writing it was that I usually write better, but I was anxious to get the first post out and probably rushed through it a little.

Princess April is indeed part of this group as well and will be posting soon, I think. My sense is that I will probably post more frequently than she does, but maybe with some encouragement we can get her side of things on a regular basis as well.

My period of chastity is longer than normal this season four a couple of reasons:
1. The sexual energy seems like it takes a eek our so to build up after I cum, so we had talked about making the normal period last between 1 and 2 weeks.
2. Our out of town time, 3 weeks apart, coinciding with our anniversary this coming weekend caused me to ask my Princess if I could show my devotion by waiting at least until our anniversary weekend to cum.

Incidentally, Princess April teased me a little on that last part by telling me on a couple of occasions this past weekend that, had it not been for my request, she would have asked for me to cum before I left again Monday.

Devotional Sex replied:

It would be great to hear from Princess April on this forum.

Clearly the best for you when you spend time away and then come home is to ejaculate at the end of the time at home part.

The most fun for you way of doing this is for your Princess to have you cum with her just before you leave.

But to give her a feeling of power, and you a feeling of not knowing what is going to happen, your Princess could sometimes decide that you will cum the first night that you are away. This gives you the rest of the time away to recharge. And it also means that ejaculating with your Princess becomes a much more special event when it does happen.

If you are going to keep this up in the long-term then it is unrealistic for each home visit to always be highly sexually active. So the other way of ejaculating, which is good for Princess April, good for the relationship, but disappointing for you, is that sometimes Princess April may want to make you ejaculate at home well before the end of your visit. This means that you will be flat for the rest of your time at home.

So when Princess April is feeling flat, rather than her being annoyed and pressured by your high sexual energy she has the power to make you flat too. This makes for a quiet end to a visit at home, but makes things flow much better overall.

I look forward to reading your next progress report.

PrincessApril48:
Hi all. Princess April checking in. I plan on posting more later on rdstorm's post about our first weekend as well as my thoughts on Devotional Sex in general. I'd be happy to answer questions from a female perspective if y'all have any. Well off to enjoy the special anniversary day my knight has planned for me. Later.

[Devotional Sex]

Anniversary weekend

As mentioned before, Princess April and I were looking forward to our anniversary (16th) weekend. Here are the details:

I had been looking forward to this weekend for a month or so, and had even asked my Princess to let me not cum until this weekend or later, even though it had been over a month since my last orgasm, so I could make our anniversary weekend special for my Princess.

The day/weekend began on a bad note due to flight delays the night before and the need to return a rental car that brought me from Houston to Austin. When we finally got away, there was an hour drive to our hotel. By this time, Princess April had already discovered most of her anniversary surprises, but I still had a couple in my pocket.

To spare the less interesting details, we got checked in, ate, and walked around the grounds. At this point, Princess April aroused me by talking about letting me rub her feet in front of everyone in the pool area. She seemed surprised that it was not one of my limitations, but like I told her the arousal factor of her using her princess power that way would be much greater than any discomfort I would feel about pleasing her in public in that way. It didn't happen, but it was very arousing to hear her talk about it.

When we got back to the room, I was in ready to please my Princess in whatever way she desired. I immediately got undressed, as one of our DS rules is that I must get naked in any hotel room; since I travel every week, I spend a lot if time naked these days.

We spent little time earlier with me trying to eat her while she ate dinner in the room, buthat didn't last long because she couldn't get comfortable enough to eat while that was going on. Does quickly moved to the bed for more oral on her and our first intercourse of the night/weekend. I was already feeling very much hers after not cumming for over a month (at my own request), but that was heightened even more when Princess April stopped me before either of us came.

After a short interlude at the pool and walking around the grounds in the dark, we found ourselves back in the room. Princess April had begun asking me how much I was looking forward cumming this weekend, and that heightened my arousal even more although my answer always included that I was not assuming that I would get to. We startedwatching verydisappointing point movie while I massaged and cuddledwith my Princess.

When Princess April was ready for more sex, she asked me to get right to fucking her with Duncan which, if you remember, is our new sheath/extender whose main purpose is for Princess April to be allowed to enjoy the intercourse she craves without having to worry about stopping early because of my heightened state ofdesire. We had a very hot round of sex with Duncan where Princess April had 2 very intense orgasm with Duncan inside her. I think her original intention was to have me fuck her without Duncan after that, but at this point she told me to stop because Duncan had "worn her out", in her own words. We ended with a devotional cuddle and went to sleep with me still aching for her.

The next day, Saturday, was the big surprise of a limousine tour of the Texas Wine Country vineyards. I felt very much hers when she placed her feet in my lap in the limo, and the suspense was almost unbearable for me until she finally asked me to rub them. The divider in the limo was still open at this point, so I was aroused from this semi-public display of princess power allowing the driver to see this. The day was fun but the long car ride left the Princess not feeling well when we got back to the hotel, so we ended the night with no sexual activity.

The rest of the weekend back home involved lots of teasing and talk about good it was going to feel to finally be allowed to cum again. I got a very hot blow job Sunday night, but Princess April stopped short of my orgasm, and I was very glad I had one more night at home before I had to leave town again. All of Monday I was yearning to be inside Princess April and wondering how she would want me to cum. When we got to bed that night, I was feeling very horny and was surprised to hear Princess April tell me the plans had changed. She had me come to her and fucked her mouth for awhile and then asked me to lay back while she gave me a very hot blow job. She then explained to me that since one of her anniversary presents to me was getting her nipple pierced, and she wanted my arousal as high as possible when I accompanied her and watched it happen, that I would get to save up my cum until the piercing happened. Surprisingly I was glad that I got to wait longer, and felt even more hers that she felt so comfortable making that decision without asking me.

[newlover]

Hot story!
I love that that woman is in control! I am a man by the way.
I think there is a term called erotic energy exchange. Right?
Like many consensual BDSM relationships, each partner decides ahead of time what their role is.
Of course things evolve and I don't want to confuse Devotional Sex with heavy BDSM, but I believe that great sex is a mind-fuck as well as skin on skin.
When we role play in any form we tend to heighten our responses to sexual and other stimuli.
I don't claim to be an expert on any of this but consider myself an eager student of exploring my sexuality.

Any thoughts?

Thank you.

New Lover.

[Devotional Sex]

Yes - beforehand each person decides on the dynamic.

But, to me, there is a big difference between acting a role for a session or two and being you within that dynamic.

In BDSM a dominant sadist, for example, who finds a willing partner is not acting but being allowed to be themselves.

But a non-dominant and not sadistic woman is asked (or pressured) into taking on the role of a dominant sadist can only act this role.
And as the dominance part is not her, and the sadistic part may be a huge turn-off, things are unlikely to go well.

Devotional Sex is two people agreeing to change the 'rules of the game' but I've found that it very quickly starts to feel natural.
It becomes the couples 'new normal'. (And if it never starts to feel normal then it probably isn't right for you).

So I see Devotional Sex as a different way for a couple to enjoy sex and intimacy rather than action a role or being a sex game.

Certainly when you first explore Devotional Sex the responses are heightened and the journey is more intense. But this was the case when you first explored 'normal' sex too.