Welcome to the forum and thanks for posting such an informative introduction.
Devotional Sex works because a Princess is devoted to her Knight and enjoys pleasing and pleasuring him. Of course she gets to decide when and how, and he won't get all his fantasies lived out, but the giving is both ways.
Conventional dating is often that nothing sexual happens until the time is right (at the end of first date ... third date ... whenever) and some kissing becomes sexual, which is her giving the green light, and things then progress rapidly until as soon as 30 minutes later the man has ejaculated inside her.
So no sexual activity happens until the woman is ready to go all the way, and when things do start they happen so fast that, at least in my old life before Devotional Sex, I would latter have trouble remembering what had happened.
Devotional Sex enables things to be very different, and as I've had lots of success with lots of women, I highly recommend that you take the gamble and give it a go.
Stage one with Devotional Sex you tell you partner about what you do well before any sexual activity. I've often started the discussion whilst at a restaurant over dinner, and once back home I then offer my date a simple taste of the dynamic by suggesting I give them a foot massage. A long foot massage is the perfect time to tell her much more about how it works.
Lots of info on what to say (over time, depending on her interest, and answering her questions) is here on the website
Stage two is to tell them that to really feel the dynamic it can be fun to do something different, and I suggest that just one of us party or fully undress - letting her know that she chooses who and when. This is likely to end with me naked at their feet while they are still fully dressed.
Stage three is to suggest going to bed. I tell them they can have me put on my underpants back on. You then get an amazing few hours of cuddling, intimacy, and giving her lots of oral sex, and your underpants stay on the whole time.
Stage four is when she starts to touch you, and you get naked, and you explore all this.
Stage five is when you first have intercourse.
The rate of progress is up to you both. I've had several first dates that have gone from stage one to stage three on the first date (and I've enjoyed some dates which have only gone as far as stage one or stage two).
I've always enjoyed the first time at stage three without that session going to stage four. Somehow all my dates that I've gone to bed with have enjoyed the idea of our first bed not involving my penis and me giving them lots of oral sex
With Princess Ada we got to stage thee on our first night but it was not until our 7th date that we had intercourse.
One reason for starting early is that if you take your time with Devotional Sex it will take many sessions to get to intercourse. Another reason to start early is that as soon as your Princess trusts you to only go as far as she wishes, she can agree to lots of activities before she is ready for intercourse.
With a date things will move fairly quickly, but with a Devotional Friend progress can be very slow, as with me and Tracey where there were many foot massages over about a year before she had me be naked at her feet for the first time.
You can read about my first date with Ada and my adventures with Tracey here on the website
I was incredibly nervous the first time I told a date about Devotional Sex. But at that time I had only practiced Devotional Sex within one relationship, and I had no idea of how it would work with dating, and how a woman might respond to the concepts.
My first date with Emma was so incredibly better than ordinary dating that from then on I vowed to myself that I would always use Devotional Sex when dating. And after telling lots of dates about Devotional Sex I've found that because the technique is so female friendly, has no mention of BDSM or FemDom etc, that most women find the concept interesting.
This long reply will hopefully encourage you to broach the topic with a date, and hopefully give her a foot massage as you tell her more.
I'm happy to answer any questions, and if you give it a go, please post again and let us know how it goes.