Dont really think the question is relevant. I think what you have to offer here is brilliant and it shows a new trend in our sexuality which includes boundaries. We have explored a world without boundaries long enough to see its affects and it seems we are drawn back into the source of it more and more. Our intention is changing into something which comes more and more from a place of love in its full glory. So the change to love is that it is no longer vanilla but includes the good the bad and the ugly. And that is where this fits.
I sense in you part of a renewal that is going on western sexuality. There are no new techniques left, or extremes still remaining. So we blend and custom tailor to suit our specific situation at a specific time and that is new. Maybe not here perse, although I can easily argue that quite a few here are stuck in their own rut. But the main stream is needing to have their sexuality represent more and more who they really are.
I recognize your call in the way that I feel drawn towards getting a greater part of the general population wake up to a more authentic sexuality in their lives. And to that end I need you to finish your book and get it out there already. My contribution is nothing new, but rather a new view on the whole thing from a more mainstream perspective. Basic skills and discussion which will hopefully allow them to step up to their sexuality. I can easily see devotional sex take a chapter and review next to Taoism, Tantra, Karezza and others.
Dont think you will ever know how successful this will be in numbers and the variations will lead to it triggering new ways of play which are then not really part of your views. But does it matter? If it does then it can only do so from an income perspective, which is a valid arguement in todays world, but a perversion of your need to sign that song that is deep inside you.
So in line with the end of vanila love and in fond memory of the man who woke up next to the whining opera singer. . . . "Sing goddamn it. Sing!
@Konar - thanks for your thoughtful and insightful reply.
You have taken the discussion to a deeper level than I expected - and this is good.
You are also spot on about my motivations - it is not about money but singing my song.
And a big thank you for your encouragement to keep writing.
kelmag wrote:In trying to cover everything - every way Devotional Sex could be expanded (or shrunk) to meet one's needs, it leaves the vanilla reader somewhat lost in a maze of definitions, terms and comparisons of all of the different lifestyles and techniques incorporated by Devotional Sex - some of which would almost certainly be threatening or scary to the vanilla reader. Consolidating the essentials of Devotional Sex and explaining it in an orderly fashion with minimal or no comparisons to other lifestyles would be most accessible to a vanilla couple. You could leave some of the more detailed explanations of Devotional Sex (definition of terms and commands for example) to an appendix and leave all mention of potentially threatening or scary lifestyles (i.e. kink) to a future volume (Maybe "Advanced Devotional Sex").
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