How a man can find a Devotional Friend

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Devotional Friends are when two people who are not wanting a relationship engage in Devotional Sex for sensual and sexual pleasures, to enjoy intimacy, and for fun. When with her he is her Knight. He commits to never ejaculating when with her, and to fulfill all her sexual and sensual wishes (within what he is willing to do at that time). He also agrees that things will never go as far as intercourse.

Devotional Friends opens up a huge playground in the space between doing nothing and full friends-with-benefits. It's up to the Princess to decide what things she wants to enjoy and how. For example, one Princess might just enjoy spending time with an Affirmed Knight (ie him naked and sometimes aroused), and another might enjoy lots of Pleasure Kisses (ieher receiving oral sex)and orgasms.

Finding a woman who wants to be your Devotional Friend might at first seem very difficult. But I believe that if approached in the right way it can be fairly easy.

Much harder is to find someone who will want a relationship with you / want to have intercourse with you / want to have porn style sex with you / or want to have kinky sex with you.

One approach is to mention to a female friend that you have discovered a new technique called Devotional Friends which enables friends to share erotic intimacy and fun without ever going all the way. If she is interested you then tell her the basics, answering her questions along the way. Near the end you let her know that you are keen to try this one day if you can find a willing friend.

As this is Devotional Sex it might be best to leave it to her to say that she would be happy to try it with you.

I think lots of women would be interested in hearing about Devotional Friends as it is the opposite of the male driven, porn-influenced, alternative.

I suspect that many single who are open to erotic activity without being in a relationship would be interested in giving Devotional Friends a go. So the main hurdle is whether or not she is willing to try this with you. This isn't as difficult as her wanting to have full friend-with-benefits activities. But she still needs to feel that it would be fun and sexy to feel desired by you and have some activities which she would like to try with you.

One big advantage which you have is that it wouldn't be easy for her to find another man who is willing to become her Devotional Friend.

I welcome any questions or discussion on how a man can find a Devotional Friend. Is there another approach which you think might work?

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Anon1 wrote:

Wow. I wish I knew about that when I was dating. Taking intercourse off the table opens up an entire world of sexy fun, devotion, and nuances of erotic pleasure for a couple to experience - without some serious baggage and pregnancy risk anxiety. What a relaxed and sexy carefree way to get to know each other - without that pressure of an intercourse "goal" in the back of your mind. Knowing it's NOT going to happen allows everything else sexually to be elevated and more enjoyable.

I had a somewhat related experience in my mid-20's with one new gf where we enjoyed most everything for a long while, except oral sex, as she deemed it much more intimate than intercourse. To her, intercourse was for making babies. Oral sex, performed on her, was the ultimate gift that she could give to her lover or partner. We actually had intercourse a few times before she let me go down on her. It gave me a completely different appreciation and perspective for oral sex and how to please a woman that way. And I knew that when she gave me oral sex it meant something very special to her. I guess in some ways unknowingly that was kind of an early introduction to a part of DevS for me.

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Thanks for a great reply.

These posts are getting my ideas down - sort of a first draft for both the eBook and additions to the website. So I'm actually refining my ideas about Devotional Friends for writing these posts.

I need to do a post soon about the differences between Devotional Friends and Devotional Dating. What both have in common is that both not only take intercourse off the menu, but both also take away male ejaculation. These are the two things which drive a male forward in sexual encounters.

When dating (when it is exploring forming a relationship) the huge benefit of DevS is the QUALITY of the sex. That sex happens is part of dating, such it 'just' the quality which changes.

I think Devotional Friends is the biggest breakthrough because this is a new way to enjoy the playground in between nothing or friends-with-benefits casual sex. This enables people to have an amazing erotic based experience when otherwise nothing would have happened. And Devotional Friends enable much more variation on what each couple get up to, so it creates many ways for just friends to explore the sensual, intimate, sexual, and erotic fun possibilities.

I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was 20, and we progressed very slowly in going a little bit further each time. This made each new step extremely significant and rather than rushing forward each new thing was fully enjoyed.

With my 2nd significant relationship my partner had not had any prior sexual experience, and had grown up in a conservative household. So with her things again moved forward very slowly and at her pace.

So these were really my first DevS experiences of desiring something, having to wait, and then with each new step, because that is as far as we went that time, relaxing into fully enjoying what we were doing.

It was in the last few years of my third significant relationship, which lasted just over 10 years, that I discovered what I've since called Devotional Sex. After this relationship ended I was brave enough to talk about Devotional Sex before we did anything with the first date where I thought something might happen. So we started with DevS, and it worked amazingly. Because she was visiting Australia from overseas we ended up living together, with DevS, for about 2 months.

Since then I used DevS with all my dating. At first I feared that this would result in less activity. I thought that this risk was worth it as it was so much more satisfying to start with DevS than the old standard first sex with intercourse way of dating. To my surprise I think I ended up with more activity than if I had been dating normally. With DevS I was used to not ejaculating. So the one thing that I missed out on was that I got far less intercourse as most dating didn't last long enough to get to that stage.

I've also enjoyed being a Devotional Friend with an old friend. And I've had dates where it was clear that there would be no relationship but she was interested in some activities as Devotional Friends.

Oral sex, performed on her, was the ultimate gift that she could give to her lover or partner.

I think most women are used to men who either don't want to go down on her or do so to 'say' "I've given you pleasure, so now it's your turn to pleasure me". So if they get a man who is eager to do this (because he enjoys doing it) they are very happy to let him.

But this all goes to show that there is huge variation in how men think about Pleasure Kissing and huge variation on how women think about it.

What is proven is that becoming a Knight can take man from thinking that giving a PK is ok to the state of wishing they happened more often and lasted for longer. And it's also very clear that when a Princess can receive a PK without having to follow this by other activities to satisfy him and make him cum, that they chose to have them far more often.