Her Orgasm:How often she has an orgasm is one of the biggest differences between Karezza and Devotional Sex.
Karezza is the only sexual technique I know of where the ideal is that she doesn't have any orgasms. On the other hand Devotional Sex enables her to reach her orgasmic potential and, I believe, is thus the sexual technique which leads to her having the most orgasms.
If you look up Karezza on Wikipedia you get the page for Coitus Reservatus (also known as sexual continence). This is because Alice Stockham, who coined the term karezza, was just renaming an existing technique. Her only significant addition to Coitus Reservatus, and something which no other technique did, is adding the ideal that the women should also not orgasm.
Comparing Karezza with vanilla sex shows many benefits. But what is ignored in the books on Karezza is comparing Karezza with Taoist and Tantric practices. As I'm doing here, it's also useful to compare Karezza with Devotion Sex.
The Gentleman's Guide has a short section on '
Do Women Need Orgasm?' The book says:
Orgasm is the most addictive drug in the world, so everybody should benefit from kicking the habit and restoring balance.
If a man were locked in a cell where he could masturbate to his heart's content, and if he were deprived of food or sleep, I'm pretty sure that he would eventually have no interest in orgasms. So it's pretty silly to say orgasms is the most addictive drug. But getting back to the comparison, the key question is whether or not orgasms are highly addictive to women. More from
Gentleman's Guide:
As a gentleman, you are the leader. .... A good leader can get a woman to follow him. A great leader and true gentleman remembers that what’s good for the goose is usually good for the gander ...
For another post I'll look at how both
Way of the Superior Man and
Gentleman's Guide are obsessed with the male leading, and in fact dominating, everything about sex. But what we see here is a classic case of the author having no understanding that what applies to males doesn't always apply to females.
In the NoFap community orgasm is "the most addictive drug in the world", but my experience (and the research) says that almost all women are not addicted to orgasms. They enjoy orgasms, and rightly would like to have one whenever they wish to when having sex. But a woman who has sex once a week, and doesn't orgasm with him most times, isn't at all likely to be masturbating twice a day to get her orgasm fix. The book says:
Ultimately, it’s unlikely that women need orgasm any more than men do.
The key word is "need". For example if two people hook-up for some normal sex, and at the very end she ends things without him ejaculating, the man will feel that he really
needs to ejaculate. And this is particularly the case for the young. But if a couple hook-up, they have sex, he ejaculates, and sex ends without her having an orgasm? Well that's what usually happens with a hook-up. The man who missed out on ejaculating will get himself off as soon as he can. The women might masturbate once alone, but I don't think most women would.
What my DevS surveys prove is that when a woman has a man always eager to pleasure her in any way he can, she will use the control he has given her to enjoy many more orgasms per week than before DevS. In fact my orgasms survey found that 41% of women living DevS (ie always practicing it) have 7 or more orgasms each week. 20% have 9 or more each week. (DevS is enjoyed overall just as much by the women who can't or just don't want to have this many orgasms.)
The main benefit of Karezza (before NoFap) was the connection. So how does DevS do with this?
Not surprisingly, 26% of the women who have 7 or more orgasms per week rated 'More Orgasms' as their biggest benefit of DevS. The significant thing about this result is that 74% didn't say that lots of orgasms was their biggest benefit. (Note that other benefits can be almost as key, so the the women who did pick more orgasms will also be enjoying the other benefits.)
So what are the other benefits which these highly orgasmic women chose?
21% of the women who have 7 or more orgasms per week said that their biggest benefit is 'Better Sex' (ie what happens before their orgasm).
And the importance of connection within DevS is proven as
55% of the women who have 7 or more orgasms per week said that 'the increase in intimacy and connection and thus a better relationship' is their biggest benefit.
That the majority of women living DevS who have lots of orgasms each week rate intimacy and connection as their biggest benefit I think proves the hypothesis that her not having orgasms is best at increasing intimacy and connection is false.
This is just a first draft to get some words down. I may go back and edit this post so over time it improves
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