Male Orgasm Denial
Male orgasm
denial is when a male agrees not to ejaculate until his partner says he can,
and his
partner denies him permission to ejaculate most
times there is sexual activity.
Male orgasm denial within BDSM
Male orgasm denial is part of the BDSM world. BDSM and Devotional Sex is
the subject of Chapter 14.
Most people think that male orgasm and ejaculation are two parts of the one
process. When this is the case, male orgasm denial is the same thing
as ejaculation denial.
Chapter 14 includes a section on BDSM-style male orgasm denial, and there are further pages on the joys
of male orgasm denial, and problems with male orgasm denial.
Some
people use the term `orgasm denial´ to mean something different
from the above definition, and these other meanings are presented in
the page on related techniques and descriptions.
Male orgasm denial on this site is a sex positive technique - erections are always
good, and the main benefit of orgasm denial is that it improves a
couple's sex life.This is very different to male chastity - were erections are bad (or even prevented by wearing a chastity device). You can read more about male chastity here.
Male orgasm denial within Devotional Sex
Ejaculation denial
is a key component of Devotional Sex, and a man who practices Devotional Sex is not allowed to ejaculate most times he has
sexual activity.
If he is in a Devotional Relationship his Princess decides when he will ejaculate. She uses this power over her Knight
to manage his erotic energy. If she wants a quieter time she has him
ejaculate a few days earlier than usual, and if she wants to play with
a very eager man she keeps him going for a few days longer than
usual.
When using Devotional Sex in dating, or
with a friend, a Knight never ejaculates when with his date or friend.
Devotional
Sex is very
different from standard BDSM-style male orgasm denial.
The first difference is that with Devotional Sex the Knight learns to be able to orgasm
without ejaculating.
Within
Devotional Sex the Princess controls when her Knight may ejaculate, but
he is free to have a non-ejaculatory orgasm whenever he wishes. Thus
the term `orgasm denial´ is no longer accurate, and the correct
term to use is ejaculation denial.
If
BDSM-style male orgasm denial is practiced mainly to deprive the man
the pleasure of an orgasm, then Devotional Sex will not provide the
same experience. But if it is practiced mainly for the fun and
excitement of keeping a man horny for many days, then this fun is
shared with Devotional Sex.
Having
some non-ejaculatory orgasms during some of the sessions where he is
not allowed to ejaculate slightly calms a Knight's erotic energy, and
this makes it
easier for him to go many days without ejaculating.
Another
difference compared to the BDSM world is that because the Knight's
erotic energy is now calmer, he no longer needs a strong
dominant women to control him. With
Devotional Sex his ejaculations are easily and happily controlled by a
confident (but non-dominant) woman.
For
many men, BDSM-style orgasm denial remains just a fantasy because
he is not with, or cannot find, a dominant women (Mistress) who wants
to control his ejaculations.
But
a woman who does not want to be a Mistress might very much enjoy life
as a Devotional Sex Princess. By replacing the hard-core domination of
the BDSM Mistress with the more loving and mild dynamic of Devotional
Sex, ejaculation denial can become a normal part of your sex life.
Stories
This site has many real-life and fictional stories about ejaculation denial.
For a list of stories which illustrates how ejaculation denial is a fun and natural part of Devotional Sex, click here.
Learning More
For an outline of Devotional Sex, which also gives an overview of this site, click here.
For more on how Devotional Sex relates to the world of BDSM, click here.
