Circulating his Erotic Energy

Circulating his energy is part of Tao which is thousands of years old.

Starting to learn this technique was what led me to discover Devotional Sex when, rather than perfecting this technique to fully calm my energy, I got halfway and created balance by giving my partner control over what sex happened and when.

 
The Microcosmic Orbit dates back to prehistoric times in China and is taught as part of Tao (see Wikipedia).

I learned this technique from the book The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams Araya as the first step towards learning to orgasm without ejaculating is to learn the Microcosmic Orbit.


Devotional Sex is very different from full Taoist Sex. With Devotional Sex the aim is only to learn enough to calm and control his energy so that he doesn't feel frustration after sex ends and his energy is calm enough to live a normal life.


 
Part of the definition of Devotional Sex is that a Knight commits to take prime responsibility for keeping his erotic energy under control. It's not part of the definition how he does this, so finding another way to manage his energy is fine.

Some Knights may not mind that that during their post-activity Devotional Cuddle that as well as intimacy and connection they feel some frustration, and a few may actually 'enjoy' some frustration.
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With normal sex your erotic energy is mainly felt in your genitals. This energy is relieved by ejaculating, and if you are very aroused and don't get to ejaculate it's likely that you will feel frustrated.

Learning to circulate your erotic energy diffuses the energy and circulates it around your body so that it is felt in your head as much as your genitals.


As you can see from the diagram, the energy flow is from your genitals, to your PC muscle, your bum, then up the back of your spine and neck to your head.


Once the energy reaches the head think of it circulating around your head.

If the energy in your head is too much this can be lessoned by touching your tongue to the top of your mouth and you thinking of the energy flowing down your front to your genitals.
 
 
There are lots of ways a man can learn to circulate his energy (and perhaps take this to the next step and learn to orgasm without ejaculating). As well as the two methods I describe below (one similar to the Multi-Orgasmic Man and one my own) there are many books and articles on the internet - each providing their own take.

Many authors write what works for them as if this is the way.

My view is that everyone needs to find what works best for them, and for some several different approaches may work equally well. So feel free to experiment and to look elsewhere.

And remember that the aim with Devotional Sex is to only go halfway - far enough to remove frustration and to make normal life livable - but keeping enough energy for a Knight to need a Devotional Cuddle after activity ends and for him to always have enough energy to be keen for any activity his Princess wishes.

 
Learning to circulate your energy requires you to have full control over how you stimulate yourself and to focus all your attention on what is happening within you. So this isn't something that can be done with your partner.

So the best way to learn is during Floating (the Devotional Sex term for a Knight mediating as he gently plays with himself).

This section presents two sets of exercises. Each has the same beginning and ending, but differ in whether the focus is on draining your energy from your genitals or learning to pump the energy up to your head.
 
 
Perhaps the easiest thing to learn is to drain the energy away from your genitals.

This is great for keeping your energy below the Edging state (ie very close to ejaculation) and for regaining control if you do find yourself Edging. But it isn't as good at moving the energy to your head.

 

 
Pumping the energy up is the best way of moving energy up into your head. This makes it easier to feel Enlivened (ie feel your energy as a positive life-force during normal times) and to take Tao one step further and lean to orgasm without ejaculating.

 
 
 
Like learning to ski it will probably work best to first learn the easy technique and then progress to learning the more advanced technique. So I recommend that you try Draining first.

But feel free to also try Pumping because you may find that this is what works best for you.

Which ever way ends up working for you, once you can move the energy around your body you will be able to do this just by thinking about this happening and without any muscle clenching or breathing. So the end point of either method is the same.
 
 
The technique of breathing in while clenching the PC muscles, then breathing out and having the energy flow out of the genitals, is a good way for a Knight to regain control during sexual activity if he accidentally moves into Edging (ie is about to lose control).
 
 
Not ejaculating after most sexual activity means that a Knight always feels some background erotic energy. Learning to circulate your energy has most of this energy felt in your head, and thus instead of feeling on edge or frustrated the energy is felt as a life energy without which life feels flat.

So while the first bit of the energy circulation of the Draining exercise (the flow from genitals to buttocks) is great for lowering the energy in your genitals, it's learning to move the energy from your buttocks up into your head (with either exercise) that helps you to feel Enlivened.
 
 
You can ask questions or share your experience about which method worked best for you here at my forum.

And if you have tried a different method you then please let us know how it went.

 
 
If, during a Devotional Cuddle a Knight feels he is Edging (ie close to losing control) he can use the internal circulating of his energy to regain control.

But most of the time during a Devotional Cuddle there is a very different flow of energy.

During a Devotional Cuddle it works very well for him to think of his energy flowing out of his erection and into her hand. The energy then passes through her and is returned by her cuddling him.

When he is very Energized this can have him feeling intense intimacy and connection without feeling any frustration. I've called this 'emotional orgasm' Exaltation.

When his energy is lower the energy flow is the relaxed intimacy and connection of Adoration.
 
 
If she gives him a Devotional Cuddle when he is soft or only slightly hard then, for me, I feel the energy flow going the other way - the energy flows from her hand into my genitals.

Of course this is a very different feeling for both him and her. A Princess may enjoy doing this as it reminds them both that he is hers even when he isn't hard.