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Other techniques compared with Devotional Sex
 



This section compares and contrasts Devotional Sex with other techniques.

The other techniques look at are Vanilla Sex, Taoist Sex, Tantric Sex, BDSM / kinky sex, and Female Led Relationships.

The aim is not to somehow prove that Devotional Sex is better than other techniques, but to make clear how and why each technique is different so that each person / couple can decide what works best for them.
 

 
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One of the difficulties in comparing techniques is that there is huge variation in what people do under each technique. Some people even significantly soften or even ignore aspects that most would consider a defining part of a technique. Taking the inclusive approach makes each technique so variable and undefined that it becomes difficult to compare and contrast techniques.

So for this section I have refined each technique down to what I think are the core aspects of each technique, what I've called the PURE version.

For example, kinky activities are core to BDSM. As both Devotional Sex and a Female Led Relationship can be done without any kink, kink is not part of the pure definition of either.
 

 
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Defining pure forms of each technique doesn't restrict people because anything they wish to do can be described as a mix of the pure techniques.

So there is a continuum between, for example, Devotional Sex and BDSM. Some couples may even be halfway which means that what they do is very different from both pure Devotional Sex and pure BDSM.

The second of the Three Freedoms for those doing Devotional Sex is the freedom to add bits of other techniques. So instead of striving to do Pure Devotional Sex the aim for each couple should be to find out what works best for them as a couple.


 

Vanilla Sex

Vanilla Sex is  normal or conventional sex. Pure Vanilla Sex is sex without including parts of any other technique.

Many mainly vanilla couples add a touch of Tantra for intimacy and connection and/or a touch of kink for fun and variety. So real-life vanilla is more interesting and varied than the pure form.

Those who think that the advanced sexual techniques are imposing rules forget that vanilla sex has its own set of  behaviors and expectations which form a set of unwritten (and unthought-out) rules.



Taoist Sex

The book which led me to discovering what grew into Devotional Sex is The Multi-Orgasmic Man which teaches a man the ancient Taoist technique of having multiple orgasms without ejaculating.
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Though Devotional Sex can use some Taoist sexual techniques there are major differences between Devotional Sex and Tao. So each leads to a very different dynamic and lifestyle, and each has their own set of benefits and challenges.
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Tantric Sex

Adding some Tantric moments or sessions to a relationship adds intimacy and connection. Full Tantra goes much further and uses sexual energy to enhance spirituality.

Full Tantric Sex can have the man not ejaculating for over a month. With Tantra he calms his energy to such an extent that it becomes spiritual rather than erotic. When sex happens it is usual long and very slow, and during sex the couple's erotic energy can be built up until it's the same energy as having an orgasm.

With Devotional Sex a couple doesn't keep having to agree to do some Tantric Sex, and Devotional Sex isn't about how to breathe, etc, but many Tantric like moments just drop out of practicing Devotional Sex. So Devotional Sex also creates lots of intimacy and connection, and as far as intimacy and connection go, Devotional Sex can be like living Tantra.

Though Tantra has many rewards, especially spiritual, it doesn't include the Devotional Sex joys of Exaltation and Adoration, and the everyday joys of lots of Devotional Cuddles in bed and Affirmation out of bed.

Tantra also has the woman avoid explosive orgasms (to instead focus on inward energy) whilst one of the benefits of Devotional Sex for a Princess is that she can have as many normal orgasms as she wishes.

 

BDSM and other kinks

BDSM is a complex acronym for Bondage & Discipline / Dominance & Submission / Sadism & Masochism. It also includes Tease & Denial, Humiliation, Chastity and more.

This is the world of kinky sex, which I define as 'gaining sexual feelings from something most dislike or don't understand'. Though serious BDSM is powerful fun for a few, it isn't something which most want to do.

The big difference between Devotional Sex and the BDSM world is that Pure Devotional Sex is not kinky.

Some mild kinky fun can be added on top of Devotional Sex without changing the feel of the dynamic. But adding any serious BDSM will significantly change the feel.

For example, BDSM style CFNM (Clothed Female Naked Male) is about domination, submission and humiliation. Though Devotional Sex's Affirmation has the same look (him naked, her dressed) a Princess doesn't need to act or feel dominant, and he
is proud to be her Knight - pride is the opposite of humiliation.

 

Female Led Relationships

A FLR is when the female is the leader and ultimate authority in all (or many) aspects of the relationship. So not only is she in control of sexual activity, but she has him do most of the housework and she can even have control over all finances.

A FLR can be practiced without doing any kinky activities and with him ejaculating most of the times they have sex. So my definition of a Pure FLR doesn't include kink or strong ejaculation restrictions.

What is left is a different type of female control - the naturally bossy women - and this has a very different feel, dynamic, and base activities from the managing sex for mutual happiness role of a Devotional Sex Princess which not only enhances sexual activity but also significantly increases intimacy and affection.



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