world of intimacy, passion, and pleasure:
Devotional Sex is a new
sexual technique and lifestyle.
Though it creates a much better sex life
for both, and often many more orgasms for her, the most popular main
benefit, for both men and women, is the increase in intimacy and
connection and thus
a better relationship.
Sex is when HE commits to:
K1: having far
fewer ejaculations than he used to, and letting her (or their agreed Spell) decide
when he does so,
primary responsibility for keeping his erotic energy under control,
fulfilling all her sensual and sexual wishes (within what he is willing
to do), and
and honestly communicating with her on all aspects of this lifestyle,
SHE commits to:
P1: using the
control he has given her to enhance HER sensual, sexual, and intimate
HIS sexual and intimate life so that he is equally happy,
P3: always respect
his arousal, and
P4: not having him
ejaculate at most Sessions.
The length of this commitment, and how it ends, depends on the Spell which the couple have agreed to do. Rather
than always negotiating Spells a
couple can choose to Live this way.
I've called a man who is practicing Devotional Sex a Knight
because he is honor-bound
to keep his commitments and this takes strength. I've called her a Princess
because she feels special and she doesn't need to act or feel dominant
to have him fulfill her wishes.
Doing Devotional Sex usually leads to a big inequality in activities
and orgasms. This is fine because the aim of Devotional Sex is to
achieve equality in happiness. Each is
devoted to the other and wants to make them happy, which is why I've
called the technique Devotional Sex.
The language of Devotional Sex includes many new terms,
including special Wish Words.
When doing long Stretches or Living Devotional Sex he only
ever ejaculates when with her and when she decides. For most
couples this forms a very powerful bond between them which has become
important part of their relationship.
Princess directs his increased passion and desire into them enjoying a
new mix of sensual and sexual activities.
will enjoy the mix
and frequency of sexual activities that works best for them, and thus
there is huge variation in what Devotee couples do. But there are some
Practicing Devotional Sex
changes how he thinks
and feels about sex. One of the new joys - for both - is that most
Knights come to enjoy giving her oral sex as much as she enjoys
receiving it - it becomes
a mutual pleasure. Thus, for most couples, this happens more (or even
much more) often than the
couple have intercourse, and this is why the
Devotional Sex logo shows this act.
- Intercourse tends to happen about as often as before,
- Most couples enjoy many extra Sessions
which don't include intercourse,
- It's not uncommon to have a Session which is only one activity
eg: all that happens is:
- she actively plays with his erection or
- he gives her oral sex.
The other big change from 'normal sex' is that as most Sessions are no
longer about him heading towards ejaculation, his focus moves to the
pleasures of each moment. And as he wants these moments to last as long
as they can he focuses on her pleasure so she doesn't quickly end the
Session. As a result sexual activity tends to become slower and more
sensual - a step towards Tantra.
It also changes how she thinks and feels about sex, and as a result her
sexuality can bloom leading to the big increase in sexual activity and
her having many more orgasms than before.
Though he misses out on ejaculations, when he does ejaculate it is much
more powerful and pleasurable for him - which makes it more fun for her.
As a Knight usually doesn't ejaculate at the end of a Session, with
Devotional Sex it is the
man who most wants a cuddle afterwards. So that his erotic energy
doesn't feel rejected she will usually gently hold his erection during
this cuddle (a Devotional Cuddle).
A Devotional Cuddle after sex ends enables him to direct his still high
towards intense feelings of intimacy and connection - an emotional
orgasm I've called Exaltation. As his
energy falls this becomes relaxed intimacy and connection (Adoration).
Thus much of the increase in intimacy and connection happens after the sexual
Devotional Sex is a lifestyle
because he always carries enough erotic energy to desire his Princess.
She can quickly get him hard and eager whenever she wishes, and he will
usually get hard every bedtime and morning.
is a celebration of the erection
because his arousal is often enjoyed in-between sessions of sexual
activity. Most couples enjoy many bedtimes and mornings where they have
a cuddle or a Devotional Cuddle and nothing further happens.
And most couples take this celebration outside the bedroom with Affirmation - spending some time together with
him naked and her dressed.
The fun and erotic intimacy of enjoying his arousal in-between full
sexual activity is a key part of what makes Devotional Sex feel special
As well as enhancing life within a
relationship, Devotional Sex is
also wonderful to use when Dating, and it
makes it fun and easy for Friends to share
and sensuality without ever going all the way.
Devotional Sex also provides
a platform upon which:
- a Knight can learn to orgasm
without ejaculating (the Taoist
- sessions of Tantric sex can
- some mild kinky play
can be included, and
- some activities
in front of or with others can, when both are willing, be enjoyed
(usually without ever
going the whole way).
different from other techniques:
Devotional Sex isn't living Tantra or Tao
because, amongst other things, with Devotional Sex he has given her
control over what happens and sex usually ends leaving
him with much higher energy than happens with Tantra or Tao.
And it isn't FemDom
/ BDSM because it's not about dominance, submission,
humiliation, or any other kinky activities.
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updated: 3 July
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