Devotional Sex takes a big chunk of Tao and Tantra, and this leads to the focus on intimacy and connection. And as with female domination, Devotional Sex has the female in control.

Full Tantra / Tao is wonderful for those couples who want to take that much more spiritual path. But not everyone wants to go this far. And BDSM is powerful mutual fun when bothyou and your partner enjoy domination, submission and other kinks. But it is common for one or both of you not to be interested in these 'dark arts'.

But if full Tantra, Tao, or Femdom isn't for you or your partner, then Devotional Sex is an easy and fun way of getting some of the benefits of these other techniques. Though it requires some effort, especially from the male, it is much easier to learn and practice than full Tantra or Tao. And as Devotional Sex isn't about domination, submission, or kinky activities, it's something that many women are likely to enjoy.

Devotional Sex isn't just a lite form of these other techniques. It creates a new dynamic which has many new benefits and joys. And so many will prefer it over the better known techniques.

 
For female readers there is a 6 page Overview of Devotional Sex for HER which not only presents what is done but explains how all the parts work together from her perspective.

For male readers, and those who want a quick summary, the starting point for Devotional Sex is that the man commits to not ejaculating nearly as often as before. This builds up his erotic energy and as part of Devotional Sex he takes responsibility for keeping this under control. But rather than fully calming himself (as in Tantra) he keeps his energy at a level which has him desiring sex most of the time.

To balance his constant desire for sex he GIVES his partner control over what happens and when.

She uses the control he has given her to both increase her sensual and sexual pleasures and to ensure that her partner is equally happy.

So Devotional Sex isn't about her fulfilling all his kinky fantasies or her exploiting her control for just for her own pleasure - Devotional Sex is all about enhancing mutual happiness.


I've called his role a Knight because he is the one who needs the strength to keep the dynamic working. Her role is called a Princess because she doesn't act nor feel dominant to have him eagerly fulfill her wishes - she just feels very special.

Though it creates a much better sex life for both, and often many more orgasms for her, the most popular main benefit, for both men and women, is the increase in intimacy and connection and thus a better relationship.

The length of his commitment to be her Knight, and how it ends, depends on the Spell which the couple have agreed to do. Rather than always negotiating Spells a couple can choose to Live this way.

Doing Devotional Sex usually leads to a big inequality in activities and orgasms. This is fine because the aim of Devotional Sex is to achieve equality in happiness. Each is devoted to the other and wants to make them happy, which is why I've called the technique Devotional Sex.

The language of Devotional Sex includes many new terms, including special Wish Words.

When doing long Stretches or Living Devotional Sex he only ever ejaculates when with her and when she decides. For most couples this forms a very powerful bond between them which has become an important part of their relationship.
 
 
A Princess directs his increased passion and desire into them enjoying a new mix of sensual and sexual activities.

Each couple will enjoy the mix and frequency of sexual activities that works best for them, and thus there is huge variation in what Devotee couples do. But there are some overall trends:

• Intercourse tends to happen about as often as before,
  
  
• Most couples enjoy many extra sessions each week which don't include intercourse, and
  
  
• It's not uncommon to have a session which is only one activity eg: all that happens is:
      -  she actively plays with his erection or
      -  he gives her oral sex.
  

Practicing Devotional Sex changes how he thinks and feels about sex. One of the new joys - for both - is that most Knights come to enjoy giving her oral sex as much as she enjoys receiving it - it becomes a mutual pleasure. Thus, for most couples, this happens more (or even much more) often than the couple have intercourse, and this is why the Devotional Sex logo shows this act.

The other big change from 'normal sex' is that as most sessions are no longer about him heading towards ejaculation, his focus moves to the pleasures of each moment. And as he wants these moments to last as long as they can he focuses on her pleasure so she doesn't quickly end the session. As a result sexual activity tends to become slower and more sensual - a step towards Tantra.

It also changes how she thinks and feels about sex, and as a result her sexuality can bloom leading to the big increase in sexual activity and her having many more orgasms than before.

Though he misses out on ejaculations, when he does ejaculate it is much more powerful and pleasurable for him - which also makes it more fun for her when she does let him have release.
 
 
As a Knight usually doesn't ejaculate at the end of a session, with Devotional Sex it is the man who most wants a cuddle afterwards. So that his erotic energy doesn't feel rejected she will usually gently hold his erection during this cuddle (a Devotional Cuddle).

A Devotional Cuddle after sex ends enables him to direct his still high erotic energy towards intense feelings of intimacy and connection - an emotional orgasm I've called Exaltation. As his energy falls this becomes relaxed intimacy and connection (Adoration).

Thus much of the increase in intimacy and connection happens after the sexual activity ends.
 
 
Devotional Sex is a lifestyle because he always carries enough erotic energy to desire his Princess. She can quickly get him hard and eager whenever she wishes, and many Knights will usually get hard every bedtime and morning.

Devotional Sex is a celebration of the erection because his arousal is often enjoyed in-between sessions of sexual activity. Most couples enjoy many bedtimes and mornings where they have a cuddle or a Devotional Cuddle and nothing further happens.

And most couples take this celebration outside the bedroom with Affirmation - spending some time together with him naked, and erect for at least some of the time, while she stays clothed.

The fun and erotic intimacy of enjoying his arousal in-between full sexual activity is a key part of what makes Devotional Sex feel special to both.
 
 
As well as enhancing life within a relationship, Devotional Sex is also wonderful to use when Dating, and it makes it fun and easy for Friends to share some intimacy and sensuality without ever going all the way.

Devotional Sex also provides a platform upon which:
 
Of course a one page summary cannot explain why all this works so well. So to find out more ...