of Devotional Sex for HER
On page one
we looked at how Devotional Sex has:
committing to have far fewer ejaculations than he used to and to
fulfill all your wishes, and you committing to using the control he has
given you to enhance your life, all of which has him devoted to you.
This is likely to lead to a
very unbalanced sex life, with, for example, you receiving much more
oral sex from him than you give him, and you having many more orgasms
Devotional Sex doesn't aim for
balance in orgasms or activities, but aims to enhance happiness for
both and to
have both equally happy.
Thus the second of the four points which you commit to when practicing
Devotional Sex is:
This takes sex beyond just being
consensual to sex being about mutual
happiness. This is achieved by your using the control he has given you
to both enhance your happiness and to do your best to keep him equally
- You commit to enhancing HIS sexual and
so that he
is equally happy.
In practice keeping him equally happy can be very easy because any
activity which has him erect is something that he is likely to enjoy.
If there is something you used to sometimes consent to that you didn't
like then that can be something that never happens within your
Devotional Sex life.
Having something happen mainly to please your partner can still happen
- but the feel is very different because you are deciding what this
will be, when it happens, how it is done, and for how long. And as you
will only chose
things that you don't mind doing you can gain happiness from pleasing
It's the same for what you have your Knight do. Keeping him happy means
that you shouldn't ask him to do things that he really doesn't like,
but that it is fine to sometimes have him do something he doesn't mind
doing when him doing so makes you happy.
So Devotional Sex has this name not just because he is devoted to you,
but because you are also devoted to him.
To make it much easier to keep your
commitment to keep him equally happy one of his four commitments when
he is your Knight is that:
of his vulnerability of being your Knight is that he no longer has any
sexual secrets and must honestly tell you what he likes and what he
doesn't like and, if you wish, his sexual fantasies.
- He commits to openly and honestly
communicate with you on all aspects of this lifestyle.
His fantasies are no longer threatening because he has given you
control of what happens you can decide that some things will never
Of course it is good to tell him when you like something that you are
doing. But rather than tell him your fantasies you find out how he
feels about doing things you think you might like. You then have the
freedom to explore any of your fantasies which are within what he is
willing to do.
Even if it is your partner who is most keen to explore Devotional Sex,
he will need your help to learn to manage his energy. Thus him
communicating honestly is very important when starting to explore
is done to keep you both happy?
How you use the control he has
given you to enhance your happiness depends on what you enjoy.
shows the huge variation in sexual activity - so I'll
leave it to you to explore what works best for you.
Perhaps unsurprisingly men are much more simple. The key to mutual
happiness within Devotional Sex is your understanding how to keep your
partner equally happy, and the answer is the same for most men who do
One obvious way to keep him happy is to engage in some sexual activity.
Sex diary Jill wrote that:
went to bed and I had Tom give me oral sex which
about 20 minutes until I had a lovely
we cuddled and kissed until we fell asleep".
It's easy to see how this was wonderful for Jill. But how could this
make Tom not only happy, but equally happy?
Devotional Sex works because it significantly changes how he thinks and
feels about sex. And it's these changes that lead to most of the
rewards for both you and your partner.
The next page, page 3,
shows why engaging in any sexual activity, even something that
traditionally is thought of as being mainly about her pleasure, always
makes a Knight very happy.
But key to keeping him happy is what happens immediately after sexual
activity ends. Page 4
shows how your doing one simple thing not only enables him to deal with
his energy but also generates most of the intimacy and connection
enjoyed by Devotees.
And Devotional Sex isn't just about sex and immediately after sex
because lots of erotically charged intimacy and connection is enjoyed
in between your sessions of sex, and this is covered on page 5.
But first, lets look at how Devotional
Sex makes sexual activity better for you both ...
updated: 3 July
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