of Devotional Sex for HER
a Knight usually doesn't ejaculate at the end of a Session, with
Devotional Sex it is the man who most wants a cuddle afterwards! Apart
from those times when you have to get up immediately, the after sex
cuddle is an important part of the whole dynamic.
In Jill's story on page 2 she
wrote that after her orgasm they had a cuddle.
The magic of Devotional Sex comes from this not being just a cuddle but
Cuddle. This is a cuddle where she gently holds (and perhaps
lazily plays with) his erection.
For Jill giving her Knight a Devotional Cuddle was so automatic and
normal that she didn't mention that she held his erection during her
post-orgasm cuddle. She just lay back and relaxed after her orgasm and
enjoyed their now normal Devotional Cuddle and her Knight's powerful
feelings of intimacy and connection
So why does giving your Knight a Devotional Cuddle just after sexual
activity ends, and there is time to have a cuddle, make such a
difference to him?
happens to him
Tom moves up to cuddle Jill after giving her a long Pleasure
orgasm he is highly aroused. And this isn't just the energy generated
from this session because as he has not ejaculated for several days he
is carrying the energy from the previous sessions as well.
How does Tom cope with the frustration of no release?
Jill giving him a cuddle ensures that he doesn't feel rejected by Jill.
But if Jill just gave him a normal cuddle though he wouldn't feel
rejected by her his high erotic energy still has no release and so he
is likely to
feel strong sexual frustration.
Jill holding his erection is her acknowledging and accepting his erotic
energy. The cuddle is a 'thank you for being my partner' whilst her
hand holding his erection is a 'thank you for being my Knight'.
With the Devotional Cuddle Tom is able
to enjoy a pleasure which I believe is unique to Devotional Sex - Exaltation.
This is when his high energy is
directed into intense feelings of intimacy and connection. It is so
intense that it is like an emotional orgasm!
Exaltation is not the same as an ejaculation, but it can be more
satisfying and pleasurable for him than just a normal ejaculation.
An evening which is him giving her a 30 minute Pleasure Kiss, her
orgasm, and then a cuddle without her having to 'get him off' sounds
like just a
female fantasy. But when she gives him a Devotional Cuddle afterwards
and he experiences Exaltation this becomes an evening which he enjoys
just as much as her.
But this isn't all .....
Exaltation takes the edge off his high
energy, but once he relaxes
after this he is still very hard and aroused. He now knows that no
further sexual activity is going to happen that session, so rather than
thinking about what he would like to happen now but won't, he directs
his thoughts to fond memories of what has happened in the past, desire
for what will happen in future sessions, and to using his erotic energy
to enjoy the relaxed intimacy and connection of the Devotional Cuddle.
Him being aroused and directing his energy into a relaxing cuddle
without expectation of things going further is called Adoration.
If his energy isn't high
when you end sexual activity and you give him a Devotional Cuddle he
will go straight to Adoration.
Devotional Cuddle generates intimacy and connection
A few men will be able to enjoy Exaltation and after sex Adoration
without receiving a Devotional Cuddle. But most, especially beginners,
who don't get a Devotional Cuddle when sex ends and they have high
energy will feel frustrated - especially if they were expecting a
This is why I recommend that part of your being devoted to your partner
is that you make it a habit to always give him a Devotional Cuddle
after sexual activity ends and you have time to have a cuddle.
With Devotional Sex the sex is wonderful (and more intimate) but it's
what happens after sex which builds and maintains most of the
there is no time for a cuddle afterwards
you have a few minutes of sexual activity in the morning and there is
no time for a post-activity Devotional Cuddle then this is unlikely to
lead to him feeling frustrated.
For a start he knew that there was no time for a cuddle, and he will
feel that the pleasure of the sexual activity more than makes up for
the having to handle his energy just after sex ends. Also he will be
distracted from his energy by having to get up and get ready for the
You may very much enjoy seeing him get out of bed with an erection
after you morning sexual activity as
this proves that he will be thinking about you and desiring you for the
rest of the day.
So far we have looked at what happens
during sex and what happens immediately after sex.
But this is only part of Devotional Sex - most Devotee couples spend
more time each week enjoying the dynamic when they are not engaged in
sexual activity, and this is discussed on the next page.
updated: 3 July
© MichaelK 2007-17