of Devotional Sex for HER
your sessions of sex
Because your Knight usually doesn't
ejaculate he always feels some erotic energy in-between your sessions.
This makes a big difference when in bed together and it also changes
how you both feel outside the bedroom.
This page looks at what happens in bed when you don't have any sexual
activity, and how the dynamic can be enjoyed outside of the bedroom
When doing Devotional
Knight never knows what is going to happen when you go to bed together
at night or wakeup together in the morning. With his built up erotic energy
just the excitement of you being in bed with him and the possibility
that something might
happen can sometimes, often, usually, or for some always have him
becoming aroused and erect.
So with Devotional Sex it becomes normal to have many bedtimes and
wakeups where he is erect and aroused before you indicate that
something will happen.
This is great for you because if you
decide you want some sexual
activity he is already eager to do anything you wish. (If he isn't
already erect then his built up energy ensures that it takes very
little encouragement to get him hard.)
But as explained on page one
of this overview, his commitment to fulfilling your wishes also means
you wish you can enjoy a bedtime or wakeup without any sexual
Though it is essential that you can have time off from acting on his
arousal, him being aroused so easily and often is a natural part of
Devotional Sex. Thus the last of the four things you commit to when
Devotional Sex is that:
his arousal no longer has an expectation of activity, but is now just
proof that your Knight desires you, when you don't feel like sexual
activity you can either ignore his arousal or enjoy it.
- You commit to always respect his arousal.
So when in bed at bed time or when waking up and you don't feel like
any sexual activity you have three options:
Him agreeing to fulfill your wishes
means that he has committed to accept your decision.
- You do nothing (ie you don't
even have a cuddle).
- You have a cuddle. Even
though you can tell that he is erect you ignore his erection and you
just enjoy the energy of the cuddle.
- You make the cuddle a
Devotional Cuddle by holding his erection as you cuddle.
But what about his erotic energy?
The last of the four things
he commits to when doing Devotional Sex is:
managing his own erotic energy means that when you decide that no sex
will happen (as well as when you decide sexual activity will end) he
has to work to bring his energy under control.
- He commits to taking primary
responsibility for keeping
his erotic energy under control.
As will be explained in the Overview for HIM, Devotional Sex is
a higher energy version of Taoist and Tantric practices where his
energy is tamed to become an enhancement to life.
Thus in bed, though he starts off eager for
activity, once he realizes that no sexual activity will happen (which
may be because you say "just a cuddle tonight") he relaxes into
ie even though he is aroused his energy is directed into enjoy relaxed
intimacy and connection.
your dynamic with Devotional Cuddles
doing long Stretches or Living
Devotional Sex your partner commits to only ever ejaculate when with
you and when you decide. For most
Devotee couples this forms a very powerful bond between them which
an important part of their relationship.
A Devotional Cuddle which goes no further becomes a celebration of this
bond. His energy is in your hands not just literally (as you are
holding him) but because he won't ejaculate until you decide.
For many Devotee couples it will be usual for a Princess to give her
Knight a Devotional Cuddle before any sexual activity. So a Devotional
Cuddle has him feeling very much yours because you can feel his
excitement that something further might happen, while also feeling that
he is devoted to you and accepts that what if anything happens next is
up to you.
So just a Devotional Cuddle becomes a celebration of your devotional
bond and the intimacy and connection with flows from this.
As presented on page 4,
a Devotional Cuddle immediately after sexual activity enables him to
channel his energy into Exaltation and Adoration. These Devotional
Cuddles plus any Devotional Cuddles that happen immediately before
sexual activity plus the many Devotional Cuddles that go no further
means that many Devotee couples will spend much more time enjoying
Devotional Cuddles than they do engaged in sexual activity.
So though the sexual activity with Devotional Sex is
wonderful, it is likely that it is the many Devotional Cuddles which is
what makes doing Devotional Sex feel most special for you both.
For many Knights it
will be usual for him to get out of bed in the morning with an
erection. This shows that he will be carrying erotic energy all day.
And this is special for you because it means that he will be thinking
about you all day.
As a Knight he learns the Eastern practice of having his energy
under control enough for it to become a positive life force without
which life feels a bit flat.
He is likely to have times when he gets hard when he isn't with you,
and he feels
his commitment to be your Knight very much then because he cannot end
this arousal with an ejaculation.
When you are apart it can be
phone or message him and say something about your dynamic and know that
this is enough for him to get hard.
When he is with you then he is
always at least slightly aware that he
is your Knight. His erotic energy combined with all the intimacy and
connection makes going out together for dinner have the feel of a
second honeymoon. It's not uncommon to have friends notice a difference
in your relationship - for some reason you both seem happier and more
It doesn't sound very Knight like, but some Princesses think of him as
being a like an eager puppy - always desiring you and always extremely
happy for any attention. Like with a real puppy, you enjoy times of
playing with his energy and you have lots of time when you ignore it
and do other things.
Playing with his energy is anything that increases his arousal and
starts to get him hard. Anything that arouses him is good for him and
is using and celebrating his energy, and he knows the price he has to
pay is that this play may end at any time.
optional, most Devotee couples celebrate their dynamic outside the
bedroom by enjoying Affirmation, which is spending some time together
with him naked and her dressed.
To enjoy this you only need say one word - Reveal
- and he removes all
his clothes and stays that way until you say he can get dressed. Part
of the fun, for both you and him, is that he never knows when you will
With Devotional Sex there is no humiliation involved and though he of
course feels yours he also feels proud to be your Knight.
His arousal is part of Affirmation, but whether he is hard for just
some of the time or most of the time is up to you (unless he remains
aroused just from the excitement of the situation).
Affirmation doesn't mean you have to touch him - you can tell him to Display
for you or to play with himself to keep him hard. Part of the fun for
you is that as he is naked you can see every little rise and fall in
his arousal, and
it can be fun to get him hard and then to watch to see how long he
takes to go down.
Note that having Affirmation in the evening doesn't imply that there
will be any sexual activity that night in bed. So as well as being fun
for you, Affirmation is a way to let you Knight do something with his
energy when you don't feel like sexual activity.
Just one more page to go .....
updated: 3 July
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