List of Preferences

See About Preferences for discussion of how Preferences (things that she wishes to always happen) work within Devotional Sex.

Note that as nothing suggested below is in the definition of Devotional Sex, everything below is optional.

It's impossible to cover every variation a Princess may want. So rather than reading this as menu from which to choose, treat it as a collection of recipes which can all be modified to suit your taste.

 

Enjoying a cuddle every day builds and maintains a deep intimate connection between the couple. Hence making a daily cuddle a normal part of your life is highly recommended.
 
 

This means that not only does he always sleep in the nude, but, for example, if his Princess is lying on the bed clothed and he gets onto the bed to give her a brief cuddle he must first quickly undress.
 
 

Not only does this Preference apply in bed but also when he is Affirmed. So when with her he only ever plays with himself when she has wished him to do this or he has requested permission to do it and she had granted this.

This is a rule that I've always done just because I have thought that it is the Courtly thing to do. But of course if her Knight doesn't just do this she can set it as a Preference.
 
 

The default (and usual) is that a Knight is allowed to play with himself when he is alone. That he can't ejaculate at the end always has him feeling hers even though he isn't with her. With this Preference a Princess bans such self-play.
 
 

For example a Princess who doesn't like being cuddled until she has woken up can set that he has to wait for her ask for a cuddle. And a Princess may want him to always ask for permission before he holds her breasts.

This an area where each Princess must discover what works best for her.
 
 

Getting this right has her always feeing in control and not pestered by him, yet has him initiating activity just as she wishes.

This is another area where each Princess must discover what works best for her.
 
 

A Princess can set Preferences so that things that she doesn't like about how he does a sexual activity no longer happen (for example he must never thrust into her mouth when she gives him a Desire Kiss), and she can set some things that she wants to always happen.
 
 

A Princess can set that each morning or bedtime her Knight must do a specified sexual activity to himself or to her. Sometimes she may chose to have the activity continue for a while and other times she may end it fairly quickly. It is that the activity is started every day which creates a powerful ritual.
 
 

A Princes can experiment with Affirmation Preferences to find out what works best for her. It can also be fun to set a much stronger Preference than usual for a week or two just to challenge her Knight.
 
 

So if she says "Caress" or "Pleasure" when she is wearing panties he can only touch or kiss her panties. This means that she can enjoy him touching or kissing her knowing that he won't break the mood by going further.

If she wishes him to go further she can say "Unwrap".
 
 

A Princess can set the way her Knight greets her with both a public method and a private method.
 
 

She can set that when practicable that when he is out of the home with her he always wears a special item, etc.
 
 

A man can have his pubic hair shaved just because he likes the look (and some Devotees do this). But much more significance is attached to him being shaved if this is done as the couples private symbol that he is her Knight.

I recommend that this is only done if he has pledged to himself that he will be her Knight whenever she wishes. So her Preference is to let him know that she wants him shaved IF he has pledged this.

 
You can discuss or ask questions about Preferences, share your experiences, suggest a Preference to add to the above list, or request that I say more about a Preference in this topic on my forum.