There is a zone of a man's erotic energy and behavior within which
Devotional Sex all comes together.
A Knight is in the zone when:
He feels erotic energy due to having ended at least one Session without Climaxing,
He has learned to calm and control this energy so that most of the time when he isn't aroused he feels Enlivened,
With just a little physical or mental stimulation he will quickly become erect and Eager,
He isn't expecting to Climax at the next Session, and
When a Session ends without him Climaxing he can direct his energy to feeling Exaltation and/or Adoration instead of frustration.
When he is in the zone his Princess
uses the control he has given her to enhance her sexual, sensual and
intimate life whilst also keeping him equally happy.
Devotional Sex then follows
Getting into the zone is something
a new Knight needs to learn to do. Most of the work to do this is him
managing himself - it is an internal challenge. Once he is in the zone
the dynamic and activities of Devotional Sex follow naturally ...
Because he is desiring sex all the time and he knows that this can't happen, it makes sense for him to give her control over when sexual activity happens.
When she doesn't feel like sexual activity his eagerness and arousal often lead to lots of cuddles and Devotional Cuddles
without anything further happening. This, combined with the Devotional
Cuddles after sexual activity ends, generates lots of intimacy and
Because he is keen for any activity to happen it also makes sense for him to give her control over what
activities happen as when she feels like doing just one activity she
can then enjoy this with him without feeling anything else is expected
to follow. This usually results in much more sexual activity.
Because he is giving her control for good practical reasons which are
nothing to do with domination or submission, she doesn't need to act or
feel dominant when she uses her control.
And because he is always eager for activity and he isn't expecting to ejaculate at the end, she feels that she is pleasing him whenever she gets him aroused (so this isn't the kink of tease and denial).
For most Devotee couples the fact that he only ejaculates when with her
and when she decides becomes a powerful bond between them which is
an important part of their relationship.
If his energy was so calm that
most of the time he had no urge to ejaculate (as happens with Tao and
Tantra) then I don't think this bond would form. That he is hers and
she has control within Devotional Sex is powered by him having enough
energy for both to feel that without him being her Knight he would
For him to experience Exaltation
just after sexual activity ends his mind and body need to have built up high energy and to feel at
least some physical urge to ejaculate. (If his energy isn't that high
then when sexual activity ends he just goes straight to Adoration.)
Affirmation also becomes fun when he is in the zone. This is enjoyed by
him as it enables him to do something with his energy and celebrate his
desire for her. And this is easy for her to enjoy because he isn't
expecting that this will lead to full sexual activity or his Climax.
When a couple agree to do a Beginner or Intermediate Spell
this sets when he gets to ejaculate. The last Session of these Spells
has a different feel because both know that he gets to Climax.
But he still feels in her hands during this last Session because he doesn't know exactly when or how she will have him Climax.
Before the Zone at the very start of a Season
When a Season
starts immediately after he has ejaculated his energy will be low.
Though he is her Knight he isn't yet in the zone because he hasn't
built up enough erotic energy to be eager to do her wishes.
Sometimes his Princess will enjoy having a rest from having an
energized Knight. So, for example, she might have him Climax on
Saturday morning because she wants to have a break from his energy
during that day.
In this case it works best for her Knight to recognize what she wants
and to keep his energy low until she decides to fire him up.
When his Princess wants him energized at the start of a Season all she
needs to do is get him aroused and Eager, and when this first Session
of the Season ends without him ejaculating he will once again be in the
When he isn't energized
When he is in the zone his erotic energy powers the dynamic.
If his energy is low either because he hasn't yet built it up at the
beginning of a Season or because he has gone such a long time without
Climaxing and has fully calmed his energy (as is done with Tantra or
Ta0) then things that are enjoyed by both when he is in the zone will
no longer work.
For example if she says "Pleasure" in
bed then he will only move down to give her oral sex because he has
committed to be her Knight. It may feel like a chore. And Affirmation
will just feel silly to him when he doesn't have enough energy to be
feeling the dynamic.
Thus the length of a Season, that is how long he goes before he
ejaculates, should be long enough for most of his time to be within the
zone, but not so long that he gets so used to not Climaxing that his
mind and body no longer feel the energy which powers Devotional Sex.
Taking all of this into account, the next page gives some guidance on how often a Knight should get to ejaculate.