Last updated: 10 April 2008
Sex is a new sexual technique and lifestyle. It is a combination of the
practices of male orgasm without ejaculation (Taoist multi-orgasmic
some Tantric sex, and a mild form of female erotic power. A
Devotional Knight has a constant sexual energy which he directs to
pleasing his Devotional Princess. Both enjoy increased intimacy,
sensuality, and an enhanced sex life.
page provides a short summary of each chapter of the Devotional Sex
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Sex is an new sexual technique and lifestyle for loving couples.
practice Devotional Sex will gain pleasure from an enhanced sexual and
sensual life, with sexual energy becoming a constant positive influence
within the relationship. In an established relationship it will build
and maintain a high level of intimacy and passion. It is also very fun
and exciting to use when starting a new relationship.
Devotional Sex creates a
dynamic, experience and lifestyle
which is different from all other practices and techniques. It is so
new that there are no other books or websites on Devotional Sex.
female Devotee is a Princess. Her main benefits are a better
relationship with increased intimacy, a much better sex life, and
sensual experiences with her Knight. But being a Princess does require
effort and commitment.
A male Devotee is a Knight. His main benefits are a
significantly more intense and better sex life with much more sexual
activity, a constant energizing sexual feeling throughout the day, and
a better relationship. All these joys also come at a price, but one
that every Knight is willing to pay.
The three pillars on which
Devotional Sex is built are the Taoist multi-orgasmic man
technique, Tantric practices, and
giving the female power over all sexual and sensual
activities. All three combined produce a strong and stable balance of
sexual and relationship forces such that the Princess is always wanting
to be a Princess, and the Knight is always wanting to be a Knight.
The (optional) public symbol of a Devotee is a gold ring with a red
garnet stone which is worn on the little finger of the left hand.
Vanilla Sex is sexual activity
which does not involve any advanced technique. Vanilla sex is 'normal'
This chapter looks at the base level of 'normal' sexual
order to be able to compare and contrast it with Devotional Sex.
A Devotional Knight does not ejaculate during most sexual encounters.
brings a significantly increased intensity and pleasure to all sexual
activity. The Knight also learns to
orgasm without ejaculating, and as this maintains his sexual energy, he
is able to orgasm again and again.
real Tao, the man
uses the Taoist techniques
to calm his sexual energy. When he has sex, this is done for long
enough for him to feel satisfied. And the man decides when he will
With Devotional Sex, the Knight deliberately
does not perfect these calming techniques, so that he always has enough
energy to be wanting of his Princess.
A Knight does need to use the calming techniques to ensure that his
energy is not uncomfortably high during normal daily activities, and so
that when he is spending ordinary time with his Princess he is not
pestering her for sexual activity.
One of the main challenges in learning Devotional Sex if for the Knight
to get the balance right, and for the Princess to learn to stay relaxed
and correctly handle her Knight if his energy gets too high at an
Real Tantric Sex is using the
Tantric techniques to reach a higher state from very long, slow
Devotional Tantric Sex is not full Tantra (which can take years to
master). It is longer, slower, more sensual sex, which
follows on naturally from the Knight not ejaculating. Devotional
includes touching and oral sex done in the same slow and sensitive
Devotee couples will be happy to just enjoy the more sensual sex
arising from Devotional Sex. If a couple want to explore real Tantric
Sex, this can be done within Devotional Sex.
Occasionally a Devotee couple may choose to enjoy short, fast, 'rough'
but this type of sex will be seen as ‘fast food’.
As the Knight is always wanting sexual activity, the Princess is given
the power to
control when and how sex takes place.
power is a very mild version of the Mistress of the BDSM world. In BDSM
Mistress is dominant and always in control. Her slave is sexually
submissive, and enjoys being controlled.
With Devotional Sex, the
Princess does not need to be dominant, just quietly in control when she
feels this is needed. When she uses her power it is done like
real Princess - quietly knowing her
wishes will happen.
Princess is not required
to take control over all sexual activity (though she can if she wants).
Instead it can be the Knight who 'suggests' most of what happens. When
she wants she can just follow his lead, but anytime she says 'no', or
makes a 'suggestion', her Knight will oblige.
To maintain her power, a Princess controls when her Knight ejaculates.
This also enables her to manage his sexual energy. When she wants her
Knight to be very keen and have high energy, she makes him go longer
than usual without climax. When she wants him less keen and to not have
high energy, she has him climax earlier than usual.
She also uses her
power to enjoy sensual activities, to have days when no sexual
activity takes place, and to end sexual activities when she has had
For Devotional Sex to work, the Knight does not need to be submissive,
just willing to obey his
Princess so that he can enjoy the significant sexual benefits of being
If the Knight does enjoy his Princess having power over him
(ie he enjoys sexual submission), this can be exploited in the
Devotional Sex dynamic, and activities which would not work for a
non-submissive Knight can be enjoyed.
Every Devotional couple will have
their own unique power dynamic, and this flexibility enables many to
Part of being a Princess is
ensuring that her Knight is gaining enough
satisfaction from being her Knight that he always wants to continue the
role. So a Princess will give as well as take. Her role will make her
feel special, but for many it will feel much more like a new type of
equality than being in charge.
Devotional Sex is the fully consensual sexual and sensual lifestyle
enjoyed by a Devotional Princess and her Devotional Knight, where
A Devotional Princess is a woman who:
A Devotional Knight is a
- confidently uses
her Princess powers to take pleasure in life as a Princess,
- ensures her
enjoys being her Knight to such an extent that he is always wanting to
remain her Knight,
- always accepts
and appreciates her Knight’s
- controls when her
Knight will Climax, and does not allow him to Climax during most sexual
- never uses her
Princess power to get `revenge´ for other relationship issues.
Though all Devotional Sex activities are
fully consensual, the Knight may have negotiated his consent at an
- always lovingly
obeys his Princess’s commands in all aspects of their sexual
and sensual life (within his agreed limits),
- only Climaxes
(ejaculates) when allowed by his Princess,
- enjoys Cresting
(orgasms without ejaculation),
responsibility for keeping his sexual energy under control, and
communicates with his Princess on all aspects of their Devotional
The Knight always wanting to be a Knight does not mean that he likes
every moment and every activity. If it pleases the Princess, she
can include some things that the Knight does not like. The
Knight must accept or reject the whole package of their Devotional Sex
lifestyle as defined by his Princess. Open communication,
including detailed discussion about what each likes and does not and
why, is important input to the Princess creating their lifestyle.
Always wanting to be a Knight means that even when doing something he
does not like, the Knight is still certain that he enjoys the complete
package much more than not being a Knight.
If you do ALL
of the above, then you are living Devotional Sex - no other enhancements are
If you do most (but not all) of the above, please do not call
what you do Devotional Sex.
Devotion: a Spiritual View (More)
Devotional Sex can be spiritually enhanced by using it to celebrate the
Tantric feminine forces of the universe.
How to start a Devotional Relationship, either for an established
couple, or when meeting a new lover.
9: Living Devotional Sex (More)
A Devotional lifestyle is only possible if the Princess is always
wanting to be a Princess, and the Knight is always wanting to be a
Devotional activities include Supreme Bliss, Bliss, Blissettes,
Devotional Cuddle, Teasing, and Sensual.
There are many things a couple can do to enhance their Devotional
relationship. The summit is your own personal peak of happiness, not
taking Devotional Sex as far as it can go.
Challenges and tests can add to the intensity and the pleasure (this
depends on the couple).
Commands are useful short hand for the Princess to take control. Some
are special (eg Ritual).
Problems and Difficulties (More)
This chapter discusses problems and challenges you might encounter in
learning Devotional Sex, and in living the lifestyle.
Rituals and Ceremonies (More)
Rituals and ceremonies can add depth to a Devotional relationship.
Rituals are things that are done on a regular basis.
A ceremony is a set of actions done by following the rules of that
ceremony. Each ceremony is designed to enhance a specific feeling or
aspect of Devotional Sex. They can be very powerful due to
exaggerated nature. Some ceremonies are ideal for a new couple to first
explore early intimacy in a very fun, sexy and powerful way.
Most ceremonies are just for the couple. Shared ceremonies involve
other people. Some shared ceremonies might only be suitable for those
who follow Tantric Devotion.
chapter first discusses if, and how, to mention your Devotional Sex
lifestyle to other people. It then shows how your Devotional
relationship can be acknowledged when with select friends.
For more adventurous Devotee couples, it shows how Devotional Sex can
be used to share from mild to full-on sexual activities with
chapter describes how a Devotional couple can enhance their sexual play
using toys and techniques such as blind folds, mild bondage, butt
plugs, different types of clothing, using chance to determine what will
happen, and more.
and Devotional Sex (More)
This chapter first gives an overview of BDSM style female dominance. It
then shows how and why Devotional Sex is usually very different.
For those interested in much stronger female control and Devotional
Sex, they can be practiced together (though the power dynamic, and
possibly activities, will be very different from most Devotee couples).
Devotee couples interested in other BDSM practices can include these
activities as part of their lifestyle.
Life Experiences and Stories (More)
life stories and experiences from people who have practiced Devotional
Sex, and some stories used to illustrate different aspects of