1: Common Female Concerns
Equality is important to me, and this is not equal
When practicing Devotional Sex a Knight must obey every sensual and sexual wish of his Princess. This female erotic power over her partner is called Princess Power.
A female reader might be thinking "Equality is important to me. This is not equal, and so Devotional Sex will not be for me."
In fact Devotional Sex works best when the female wants equality, and Devotional Sex will usually feel to a Princess more like true equality than her exerting power over her partner.
Having both people be exactly the same is only true equality when both people want to be exactly the same.
Devotional Sex achieves equality by having both people get equal satisfaction from playing their different roles.
The highest level of equality with Devotional Sex is that both the Princess and her Knight must want to practice Devotional Sex. If either do not want to start Devotional Sex then it will not happen, and if either decide to end practicing Devotional Sex it will end.
Though the role of a Princess and a Knight are different, the main reasons for wanting to play your role are the same - because you both find that Devotional Sex creates a much better sex life and relationship.
Having Princess Power become a part of your sensual and sexual life is very equal in that it can only happen if you both choose to practice Devotional Sex.
You cannot impose Princess Power over an unwilling man. Your Princess Power only becomes real if your partner freely chooses to become your Knight.
But what about equality within the practice of Devotional Sex?
One of the main reasons that Princess Power is needed within Devotional Sex is to balance the Knight's higher-than-usual erotic energy.
After a few days without ejaculating many Knight's reach a state where they would like some sexual activity every morning and every bedtime (and in the afternoon and evening as well).
Most couples are not going to have sexual activity a few times a day every day.
As the Knight is willing all the time, Devotional Sex leaves it up to the Princess to decide when sexual activity will take place.
Princess Power enables a Princess to feel comfortable and relaxed cuddling her aroused Knight because both know that sexual activity will only happen if the Princess wishes.
It is not equality for a woman to be pressured into having sex when she does not want sex, so it is very reasonable that she often chooses to enjoy just a cuddle without any sex.
Devotees will usually enjoy more sexual activity than before they started Devotional Sex, so the Knight is enjoying not just better sex, but more of it. So a part of being a Knight is to accept that he does not get sex every time he desires it.
`Normal´ sexual activity is often unequal as it is common for a male to exert too much control.
Another time Princess Power can be used is to direct how sexual activity takes place, and this balances any male dominance.
A Princess can choose to control everything, and it is this image of her controlling everything that makes many woman say "not for me".
But the Princess controlling everything is not how most couples will practice Devotional Sex. For many couples most of the activities in bed will still be initiated by the Knight's suggestions.
The difference from `normal´ is that when the Princess sometimes says "no" to a suggestion then what was suggested does not happen, and that whenever she makes a `suggestion´ it will happen.
Especially when most of what the couple does in bed is initiated by the Knight's suggestions, the dynamic does not feel like the Princess is controlling what happens. Rather the occasional use of Princess Power makes things feel more equal.
When Princess Power is used to balance the dynamic, many Princess's will enjoy their sex lives more because Devotional Sex creates real equality - not equality of power, but a feeling that she plays an equal part in their dance of erotic enjoyment.
Devotional Sex works best when the female wants equality because this means that she wants her Knight to get as much pleasure from what they do as she does.
Activities which create pleasure in sex can be split into activities which bring equal pleasure to both, activities which are mainly pleasurable for her, and activities which are mainly pleasurable for him.
Princess Power can be used by a Princess to often enjoy some activities which are mainly pleasurable to her. Equality of pleasure does not mean not doing those activities, but ensuring that these are balanced by doing some activities which are mainly pleasurable for him.
Practicing Devotional Sex changes what is pleasurable for a man, and this makes it easy for a Princess to keep her Knight happy. Something as simple as a Devotional Cuddle can be very appreciated by a Knight, and as a Knight learns to love giving oral sex there can be times when allowing him to give you oral might be done mainly for his pleasure.
The inequality of the roles of Devotional Sex makes it very easy for a couple to reach equality in sexual pleasures and satisfaction.
