Talking about DevS with others - why most talk isn't online

[Devotional Sex]

How do men and women talk to others about Devotional Sex? Thinking about this I've realised that there is a significant difference. And this explains why so few women post online, why most talk is face-to-face, and how the practice of DevS is spreading without me knowing.

By talking about DevS I mean talking with someone who isn't your partner. Talking includes both real-life and online. For online it means posting (not just reading).

For someone practicing DevS you can only talk with someone if the Knight is ok with this and the Princess decides it can happen. But those who don't (yet) practice Devotional Sex can talk about it with others as they wish.

DevS is basically enhanced vanilla / normal sex. DevS leads to her reaching her orgasmic potential, better sex (what happens before orgasm), and for many the biggest benefit is increased intimacy and connection and thus a better relationship. So this is like telling someone about Tantric Sex (which most don't want to do, but most can see the benefits for those who do it). This is very different from telling someone about BDSM, FLR or Chastity where many won't understand why you like this. That DevS is much easier to talk about explains why 27% of those living DevS have told someone about this, and another 46% say they have not yet told someone but might one day.

Surprisingly it's only 26% of couples living DevS who say that never tell anyone else about it.

MEN:

What I don't recall any mention of is a man talking about DevS with another man in real-life. The big exception is when he is a Knight and his Princess has asked him to talk to another man, and this is most likely when she is also present.

There are a few examples of a man telling a female friend about DevS. One recent case is a man who is interested in DevS but not yet practicing it, and who told two female friends who had just started relationships. They were both not only very interested but started practicing DevS with their partner!

Men go online to read about sex and he is much more likely to post about it than to tell others in real-life.

WOMEN:

Women are much less likely to post online. Very few women have joined my forum, and almost all of the comments posted on my Reddit and Tumblr are from women.

But many women do like to talk about DevS with their female friends. Once told many female friends are very interested and often ask how things are going. For those living DevS who have told friends, one third have had one or more friends try DevS for themselves. One Princess from the USA wrote (in a comment to a survey) that she had told four couples and "at first there was expressions of awe and slight disapproval." She must have explained it well as she then adds that "three of the four couples are now enjoying this new life style".

When two (or more) couples are both practicing DevS it is common for them to share notes. The Princess above also wrote "The Princess's share successes when we have lunch."

I've also had comments left by some men who filled out my surveys along the lines of 'when she has a girlfriend over they often talk about DevS and it feels very strange to hear them talking about when I get to ejaculate, etc'.

One of the few women who posted in the forum over a period of few years shared her adventures of being a Devotional Hotwife (she can have sex with others and he enjoys being aroused by this). She introduced two other couples to DevS, and they would often get together. As well as enjoying Affirmation as a group (the men naked, the women dressed), they also did some Knight swapping (where each borrows the others Knight for an evening). A big part of this was the Princess's sharing notes afterwards.

So where is all the female to female advice on practicing DevS? It's not online. Unfortunately this makes it harder for couples who want to take up DevS having discovered it online.

But it is wonderful that it is being talked about between women in real-life, and that many couples are starting to practice DevS not from discovering it on the internet but from hearing about it from friends.

As always I welcome any comments or questions.

Note that this topic is in the part of the forum which can be read by anyone. See HERE for how you can reply to this post (which can be totally anonymous).