Devotional Sex reverses the Orgasm Gap in her favour

[Devotional Sex]

The Orgasm Gap is the gap between orgasms within conventional sex. Studies consistently show that 95% of heterosexual men report usually or always orgasming during sex, compared to only 65% of heterosexual women.

Devotional Sex doesn’t just enable a women to close this gap - it enables her to reach her orgasmic potential and to enjoy many more orgasms than her partner.

This post first looks at how she can reach her orgasmic potential and then examines the ORGASM RATIO.

Devotional Sex is new sexual technique where the man commits to having far fewer ejaculatons than before. This increases his erotic energy so that he is always keen for sexual activity - any activity. To balance his eagerness for sex he also commits to fulfil the sexual and sensual wishes of his partner. So sexual activity only happens when she wishes, and what happens is what she wishes, done in the way she wishes, for as long or short as she wishes.

This means that whenever she would like an orgams her partner will eagerly pleasure her the way she wishes and for as long as she wishes. For 71% of the women living Devotional Sex the way they most often reach orgasms is from receiving oral sex. When she can enjoy an orgam without this having to lead to intercourse and his ejeculation the couple enjoy many more sessions of activity and she enjoys many more orgasms.

There are two limitations limiting how many orgasms she will have:

The first is that not all women can orgasm whenever they wish. So even with a partner wanting to pleasure her as she wishes, 8% of women living Devotional Sex have less than one orgasm per week. It’s worth noting that going from zero to one every say 10 days is still a significant improvement for these women.

The other limitation is how many orgasms she wants. Sexual activity only happens when she wishes, and even when she enjoys an activity which could lead to orgasms she can decide to end the activity without an orgasm. So, for example, one night she might wish to enjoy 30 minutes of receiving gentle oral sex, and to end this without an orgasm. And if she wakes up feeling that she would like an orgasms then as he wakes up with the energy of the previous night he will be keen to give her more oral and she may quickly reach orgasm.

For women living Devotional Sex the median is 4.5 orgasms per week ie half the women have this many or more, half this many or fewer.

When she wants lots of orgasms and is able, the sky is the limit. 41% of the women living Devotional Sex enjoy seven or more orgasms each week. 6% enjoy two or more orgasms per day!

The Relationship Orgasm Ratio:

The orgasm gap looks at what happens when a couple has sex.

One problem with the orgasm gap figure is that the 95% of men who usually or always orgams will mainly be men who almost always or always orgasm, yet many of the 65% of women who usually or always orgams will be those who orgasm just 60 or 70% of the time. Research suggests that only 25 to 30% of women always or almost orgams, and so there is also an orgasm gap for those women in the 65%.

If we look at all orgasms within the relationship the ratio becomes even worse.

For the 50 couples who responded to my survey comparing sex before and after starting Devotional Sex, the median was that sex happened once a week and this resulted in 0.5 orgasms per week for her. Most men in a committed relationship will masturbate to orgasm alone. Including both his orgasms from sex with his partner and his solo play, the median for the males was 2.4 ejaculations per week.

So the median orgasm ratio for the 50 couples who did my survey was 4.8 male orgasms for every female orgasm!

For women living Devotional Sex the median is 4.5 orgams per week. But the orgasm ratio isn’t close to equal because with Devotional Sex he has far fewer ejaculations.

For men living Devotional Sex the median is that he only ejaculates once every 11 days, which is 0.6 ejaculations per week.
So the median ratio with Devotional Sex is that she has 7.5 orgasms for every male orgasm.

As seen above there is great variation in how many orgasms each women enjoys each week. There is also variation in how many days each man lasts before his orgasm.

So there is no ideal orgasm ration for couples who practice Devotional Sex. Rather there are two ideals;

1 - Her enjoying as many orgasms as she wishes, and 

2 - His frequence of ejaculation being set to what works best for them as a couple.

The Bigger Picture:

One problem with discussing the orgasm gap is that it makes it seem that reaching orgasm is the main benefit of sex.
For the women living Devotional Sex who have 7 or more orgams per week, only 23% said that having lots of orgasms was their biggest benefit. 55% said that their biggest benefit was the increased intimacy and connection and thus a better relationship, and 21% said their biggest benefit was better sex (ie what happens before her orgasm).

So Devotional Sex is much more than just lots of orgasms for her. Overall 89% of women living Devotional Sex are either extremely happy or very happy with this lifestyle.

For those interested, the women who had one or fewer orgasms per week said that that their biggest benefit from Devotional Sex was more orgasms (14%), increased intimacy and connection (45%), better sex (36%), and better sex for him (5%).

But what about him?

This post has focused on the female experience of Devotional Sex. I’m sure some of you are thinking that though this sounds amazing for her, surely this comes at his expense.

Devotional Sex only works because he enjoys his role as much as she enjoys hers. 92% of the men who are living Devotional Sex say that overall they are either extremely or very happy.

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