Devotional Sex is like energized and more fun Tantra!

[Devotional Sex]

Devotional Sex didn't arise from female domination but from Tantra and Tao. With these Eastern techniques the man decides to have far fewer ejaculations and learns to control his erotic energy so that his sexual energy becomes a spiritual energy. And when sex happens it's slow and spiritual.

I started to climb this Eastern mountain and discovered that half way up the mountain wasn't half way along my journey but a new destination. I enjoyed my energy not being fully under control so that each wake up and bedtime I would get hard with desire for my partner. I enjoyed thinking about sex all the time (like a teenage boy again).

The difficulty at this halfway point was that my wanting sexual activity two or more times a day was, of course, too much for my partner. As I wanted it all the time and she didn't, it made sense to let her decide when activity happened.

The next step to Devotional Sex arose from her. She now had a partner always keen for activity - any activity. He had decided that he wouldn't ejaculate most of the time, so she could start activity without feeling that once started it had to progress as it always did before - that is to intercourse and his ejaculation. So she started exploring having some sessions which didn't include intercourse.

She sometimes found it fun and connecting to play with me, and maybe give me some oral sex, but without anything else happening.

And if she asked me to give her oral sex this could now be done without anything else being expected to follow. Also, instead of it happening as a quick bit of foreplay, she could now enjoy it for as long as she wished.

At first when she had me give her oral I would be hoping that this would lead to something more. I still had the mentality that I was doing this for her pleasure and that my turn would happen next. But with higher energy and wanting activity so much, giving her oral became more and more enjoyable. My enjoying it more enabled her to feel that having me give her oral was pleasing me as well as her. For most men it gets to the stage where they wish they could give her oral sex more than happens!

Before Devotional Sex the activity we spent the most time doing was intercourse. But as her Knight the activity that happened most often and that we spent the most time doing became Pleasure Kissing.

When she ended sexual activity I was, of course, still very hard and charged up. Now I was the one who craved a cuddle after sex. We discovered the joy of Devotional Cuddles - a cuddle where she holds my erection.

Like with Tantra the Devotional Cuddle is using sexual energy to feel connected. But unlike Tantra my energy was much higher. I discovered that when my energy was very high I could direct what would have been frustration into very strong feelings of intimacy and connection. This is almost like an intimacy orgasm.

With my having far fewer ejaculations, and her having far more ograsms, I started to gain satisfaction from her orgasms.

If you do a tantric workshop then one of the reasons that it feels special is that you do lots of exercises where only one thing happens and you both focus just on that one thing without any thoughts of moving to the next.

When what happens is decided by her I found that she often has one activity start - and we just enjoy that activity for as long as she wishes. I have no idea of what, if anything, will follow. So like the tantric exercise, I just focus on what is happening. She is also in that tantric mode as she enjoys what she has had happen without needing to think of next steps - so she is also in the moment.

There were lots more discoveries, but the key one for both of us is that even though we were having lots more sexual activity and she was having many more orgasms, one of the biggest benefits was how this increased and maintained such strong intimacy and connection. And this led to a better relationship.

I welcome any comments or questions.