The Supplicant Knight - for when she wants just normal sex

[Devotional Sex]

What can a man do if he is keen to explore Devotional Sex but his partner either isn't willing to try Devotional Sex with him or she does try it but keeps things conventional?

Keeping things conventional could be, for example, her using her control to enjoy a few nights of cuddling but nothing else, then having sex much the same as before and wanting him to ejaculate.

In this case though he is fulfilling his commitments as her Knight, she isn't doing her role. She isn't using her control to have extra things happen in between sessions with intercourse, she isn't having him not ejaculate at the end of most sessions, and because what happens is so close to normal sex, she isn't keeping him equally happy.

One thing he could do is just give up. But as Devotional Sex is so different from conventional sex it may take time for her to start to explore the new possibilities. Thus the halfway point is him becoming her Supplicant Knight. In many cases this may eventually lead to full Devotional Sex.

A Supplicant Knight is a man who tries to live as close as he can to Devotional Sex even though his partner has not accepted the role of being his Princess.

A Supplicant Knight keeps control over his own ejaculations and commits to himself to have far fewer ejaculations. She can't tell him what he has to do with his body anymore than he can tell her - both can decide what they will and won't. So if he decides not to ejaculate at the end then she has to accept this.

A Supplicant Knight tells her that he will fulfill all her sexual and sensual wishes. So if she asks for something he will gladly do it and if she wants an activity to end he will end it. Thus intercourse will end when she decides rather than when he decides to cum.

Given that she isn't his Princess it may still be needed for him to suggest activities and also to ask her if she would like to end an activity or a session (as the usual ending of him ejaculating won't happen).

He has the right to enjoy feeling higher sexual energy and thus get hard every morning and bedtime. But she has the right for this not to make her feel pressured for sex and for this not to annoy her. So it is essential that a Supplicant Knight learns to control his energy enough for her to be able to feel relaxed about his arousal and energy. He should do what he can to have her be able to ignore his energy whenever that is what she wishes.

If his normal sex life doesn't have sex happen very often, then a Supplicant Knight can enjoy doing masturbation meditation as is taught as part of the Taoist method of learning to become mutli-orgasmic. (more on this has to be left to another post).

His right to become a Supplicant Knight is matched by her right to not have to respond with extra cuddles and extra sexual activity. So one possibility is that she doesn't take any steps towards being a Princess.

But there are two big steps that are very easy for her to explore, and so hopefully over time things will change.

The first is greater intimacy when sex doesn't happen. A Knight is always keen for a cuddle, and so she can use his higher energy to enjoy much more cuddling in bed. Once she has got used to him being hard when in bed with her she will hopefully learn to ignore his erection and just enjoy the energized intimacy of the cuddle.

The next step, which is very easy if she cares for him, is to turn some of these just cuddles into Devotional Cuddles. This is when she gently holds his erection during a cuddle. He can lead her to this by saying that it would be really nice for her to do this sometimes, and this will only ever lead to sexual activity if she wishes. So Devotional Cuddles are about enjoying this energized intimacy - not about taking the first step towards sex.

Even for women who use Devotional Sex to enjoy one or more orgasms each day, their most chosen biggest benefit from DevS is the increase in intimacy and connection and thus a better relationship. So if he thinks mainly about the sex then he might not be focussing on her biggest benefit.

The other huge step which can happen is for her to explore enjoying just one sexual activity which doesn't lead to intercourse or any other activity (other than a cuddle at the end).

She might find that sometimes a Devotional Cuddle inspires her to more actively play with him. She might find that is it fun for her to have him play with himself.

The other big step is for her to explore enjoying receiving sensual and sexual pleasures.

So he lets her know that he is very happy to give her any sensual (ie massage) or sexual pleasure whenever she wishes for as short or long time as she wishes, without anything else happening (other than a cuddle).

She needs to know that he is keen for this, but he has to be careful that she doesn't feel pressure. So it can be good to get used to just the energized cuddling first.

She needs to know how he feels about all this and what is in it for him. So his decision to have far fewer ejaculations is because he likes feeling the energy and that he loves desiring her so much more. Being aroused with her is always good, so anything which uses his arousal, even just giving her a foot or back massage, makes him happy.

So with his energy he is wanting to be ALLOWED to do things. But he wants her to only allow him when it's something which makes her happy.

Unless she doesn't like receiving oral sex, he should let her know how what he is doing is changing how he thinks and feels about sex, and that his energy from fewer ejaculations has made him really keen to give her oral sex. She should know that he would love to one day have a session where this is the only activity. If she allows this one day then during the cuddle afterwards he should thank her and tell her how special and wonderful it was for him. Hopefully she will have this happen again (and again ...).

He also tells her that his higher energy makes him think of giving her an orgasm much more, and that he would love to use his energy to give her as many orgasms as she wishes. He likes the idea of reversing the orgasm gap and her having many more orgasms than him.

Until now sex has always been foreplay, intercourse, maybe her orgasm, and him ejaculating. That is what sex is! So it can take a long time for her to start thinking and feeling outside this box. So if there is progress, it may be very slow. By very slow I don't mean days or weeks. It may be months. And it can take her so long to really feel comfortable with this new way that some steps forward may happen years after you start.

Perhaps one day the old way will shatter and she will leap at the new possibilities.

Eventually she may feel that this new way makes both her and him much happier and closer. So the final step is for her want to become his Princess, at which time he gives her control of his ejaculations.

I welcome any questions or comments. This post was a response to a question on Reddit, so the above post was copied from my Reddit post.

PS - This is a quick brain dump so I may edit it over time.