Circulating his Erotic Energy

How he manages his erotic energy is up to him

Part of the definition of Devotional Sex is that a Knight commits to take prime responsibility for keeping his erotic energy under control.

My recommended way for him doing this is to learn to circulate his erotic energy.

This page looks at other ways a Knight can manage his energy:

Using an alternative method

The definition of Devotional Sex doesn't say how a Knight learns to manage his erotic energy. So if he finds that another method to manage his erotic energy then that is fine.

You may find that without learning to circulate your energy that as you get used to practicing Devotional Sex then over time it naturally becomes easier to manage your own energy, and eventually you end up having great control and no longer feeling any frustration.

Learning to circulate your energy is likely to be a quicker way to eliminate frustration, but it's not the only way.

A mix of Vanilla and Devotional Sex

With 'normal' sex if a man has lots of sexual activity and doesn't get to ejaculate at the end he is very likely to feel frustrated.

With Devotional Sex it is usual for sexual activity to end without him ejaculating but rather than nothing further happening it is usual to have a Devotional Cuddle, and this cuddle generates intimacy and connection.

When you first start to explore Devotional Sex you will enjoy the feelings of intimacy and connection during a post-activity Devotional Cuddle. But as you haven't yet learned to circulate your energy you are also likely to feel some frustration.

If you have no interest in learning to circulate your energy and you can put up with feeling a bit of frustration during post-activity Devotional Cuddles then this can become the way you practice Devotional Sex.

The second of the Three Freedoms for those doing Devotional Sex is the freedom to include bits of other techniques. So here you are continuing to include some Vanilla (the frustration) as well as enjoying the intimacy and connection of Devotional Sex.

A mix of BDSM and Devotional Sex

With Tease and Denial (part of the BDSM world) the man is denied ejaculation by his dominant partner. His feelings of frustration are deliberately built up as this kink is about him 'enjoying' feeling denied and him feeling submissive. So Tease and Denial doesn't end with a Devotional Cuddle and it's not about directing his energy into feelings of intimacy and connection.

Tease and Denial has a very different dynamic and feel to Devotional Sex. But rather than there being one technique or the other there is a continuum between these two techniques.

So you and your partner may enjoy having a touch of Tease and Denial and instead of learning to not feel any frustration during a post-activity Devotional Cuddle you deliberately create some feelings of frustration (as well as the intimacy and connection).

Once again this is using the second of the Three Freedoms so that a couple can do what works best for them, but this time the mix is some Tease and Denial with their Devotional Sex.

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