Devotional Sex

 
The Princess
 

About Preferences

A Preference is something she wishes to always or usually happen -
which he thinks of as a rule to always be followed.

A Princes can only set a Preference if this is something her Knight is willing to do. And though she may set a Preference which is challenging for her Knight, she must still ensure that he remains equally happy with their overall Devotional Sex life.

Most Preferences are things she wants to usually happen.

So instead of saying a Wish Word, or asking for something every time, she instead sets a Preference for this to always happen. Now it's only those times she doesn't want this to happen that she needs to let her Knight know.



For example, if a Princess sets a Preference that he is always naked in or on the bed, then if she asks him to join her in or on the bed she doesn't need to also ask him to undress first - he will always just do it.

Setting this Preference means that her Knight will always be naked in bed (something I highly recommend).

But it also means that if, for example during the afternoon she lies down on the bed still clothed for a nap, and her Knight joins her for a cuddle, he will also always undress before he joins her on the bed.

If she doesn't want him to undress then when she asks him to give her a cuddle she has to add "and keep your clothes on".

Alternatively, if he was in a hurry, he could say "I'm running late. Can I keep my clothes on?" and she would let him know her wish.



Preferences can also be set for the default of what happens in bed.


For example my first Princess set a Preference that I had to always ask before I could hold her breast during a cuddle. But Princess Ada set a Preference that whenever I was in a suitable position I should always hold her breast during a cuddle. (Of course some Princesses won't want to set a Preference about this.)



Though usually few in number, the Preferences that are in place can have a big impact to how a couple enjoy their Devotional Sex life. They not only effect what happens, but setting a Preference can change the feel of they dynamic.

 

It must be something that SHE wants to always happen

A Princess should only set a Preference when she likes the idea of it always happening or she thinks it would be fun to experiment and see how it feels.

A man with high erotic energy can think up lots of mild to wild ideas which he would like his Princess to 'make him' always do. She can listen to all his suggestions (or have him write them all down so she can read his list at her leisure) and of course she can try anything she thinks would be fun.

But if she agrees to set a Preference mainly because her Knight is keen for it then this is taking away her control and it won't make her feel like his Princess.



For example, she can set a Preference that Affirmation always happens at a specified time. This works wonderfully when she is the one who wants to set this Preference. Him then always fulfilling this enhances her feeling that she is his Princess and he her devoted Knight.

So one use of her control is to set those Preferences
which she wants to happen.

But if he wants Affirmation to be compulsory and she sets the Preference mainly to please him, then not only will there be times when he is naked and she would prefer him to be dressed, but this takes away her power to decide whether or not he will be Affirmed at that time, and she misses out on the fun of surprising her Knight by saying "Reveal" and watching her Knight fulfill her wish.

But equally important is her power to REJECT many or most
of her Knight's suggested Preferences.



For a Knight it can feel that she has forgotten that she has the power to set a Preference as each time he suggests something she says no or ignores him. Then one day she says "I want to set a new Preference. From now on I would like you ...."

Though this may be something full-on it's more likely to be some minor thing like how he dresses or how something is done. But even just setting a minor Preference enhances the dynamic as it proves that she will set a Preference whenever she wishes.

 

Minor for her, big for him

A Preference can be something which is just a bit of fun for her - just set and forget, but which is slightly or very challenging for him.



For example, my first Princess set a Preference that whenever I was out of the house with her that I would wear a male G-string (and I would wear normal underwear when out alone).

For her this was a fairly minor thing - she just liked the look as I undressed afterwards and that I would do this for her.

But this was powerful for me because it meant that I always reminded that I was her Knight when out with her because of the very different feel of the G-string. And though having to change my underwear so often was an inconvenience, doing so was a test of my devotion and commitment.

 

Preferences by default

A Knight may start always doing something because he feels that is the right way to behave as her Knight.

If she notices this and doesn't like it she should tell her Knight to not do this or to not always do it.

But it can go the other way, in that she never asks him not to do this, and then one day her Knight doesn't do it, she doesn't like the change, and so she decides to set this as an official Preference.



For example,  Princess Ada never set the Preference that I had to always be naked in or on the bed. I just started doing this. She never asked me not to do this, so I just kept doing it.

Then one day she wanted an afternoon nap and lay down on the bed still fully clothed. I asked if she would like a cuddle before her nap, and she replied "just a very quick one". It didn't seem worth taking all my clothes off for just a minute so I started to lie down beside her with my clothes still on.

This surprised her and she said "Hey, what are you doing on the bed with your clothes on?"

So my unofficial rule to myself had just become an official Preference.




Another example is that I think it is unknightly to start playing with myself (*) when I'm with my Princess, either in bed or during Affirmation, unless she either wishes me to do this or I ask whether I can and she allows this.

* I feel that my playing with myself when with her is imposing this sexual activity upon her and I know that even though sometimes she may not mind there will be times when she would not.

Because I've always done this I've never had a Princess tell me that this is something which she wishes to set as a Preference. On the other hand when I've asked for permission I've never had a Princess tell me that I don't need to ask and that I can do as I like.

 

Fun to experiment

It is easy for a Princess to experiment with setting Preferences because she can amend or end a Preference just as easily as she can start one.

Some Preferences may take time for him, or her, or both to get used to. So part of experimenting can be trying something for long enough for it to start to feel like a new normal.

As well as setting Preferences that remain in place and become the couple's new normal, she can have fun setting some more challenging or fun Preferences which will only be in place for a weekend, week, or month.

 

A Preference which is a rule for her

If a Preference is also thought of as something which applies to all of the couples Devotional Sex life, then there can be some Preferences which only work if they always happen, ie no exceptions.

In this case this isn't just a rule for him but is setting a rule for herself.

For example, she could set a Preference that her Knight will never get to ejaculate when they are away from home unless they are away for a long time (*). The power of this Preference is that both know that he won't get release until sometime after they get home.

* If away together for a long time I recommend that the Knight just be made to last much longer than usual. So if his usual is once every 7 days, a two week trip may be possible. But if away for a month then sometime at or before 14 days he does get release.

This changes how they both feel about any activity which happens while they are away from home, and creates a fun and powerful Devotional Dynamic whenever they are away together.

But if one day she makes an exception, then from then on her Knight will know that she may one day make another exception. So instead of him knowing that he won't get release while away together, it's back to the usual which applies at home - that he gets release when his Princess decides.

So the power of this Preference only works if she decides that this is a rule she will apply to herself.

But, of course, if a Princess decides that she doesn't like this Preference she can just cancel it.

 

List of Preferences

For a list of preferences, some of which may be just right for you, see:

List of Preferences

 

 
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