Erotic fun - Play ideas
Devotional Sex enables a huge amount of variation on how things are done within a Devotional Friendship. Each couple will find what works best for them, and so every couple will do things in a unique way.
The following play ideas might seem strange. The reason for suggesting them is not just to do things differently. Rather it is to find fun ways to better explore and enjoy the sharing of erotic energy. It is not what is done that is important. It is the feelings and emotions that arise whilst you are doing the activity.
Of course to play these games requires that the game is within the Knight's limits, and that either the Princess `requests´ the game, or the Knight suggests it and she agrees to play it.
The play ideas are intended to get you started and to inspire you to think of your own ideas or variations on these ideas. You are not doing Devotional Sex `right´ if you follow the suggestions below. You are doing it `right´ when it feels right to you and your partner.
Please ignore all the ideas you do not like, and I hope you enjoy the ideas that you think sound fun.
Index of play ideas:
- Talking about arousal (More)
- Taking your time (More)
- Teasing (More)
- A nude or partially undressed Knight (More)
- A nude or teasingly dressed Princess (More)
- Knight self play (More)
- Princess self play (More)
- Desire Play over undies (More)
- Teasing Desire Play (More)
- Pleasure Kiss over panties (More)
- Foot Kiss to Princess (More)
- Body Kiss (More)
- Wearing a blindfold (More)
- More extreme (and maybe more fun) play ideas (More)
Even if the Devotional Friendship is mainly just sharing intimacy and sensual pleasures, the Knight will sometimes become aroused. The Princess talking about her Knight's arousal is one way of including an erotic component without the Princess needing to do anything other than talk.
If the Princess becomes aroused, then talking about this with her Knight will turn them both on even more.
It can also be fun to talk about fantasies or past sexual experiences. An experienced Knight is used to being very open with a Princess (some may have a personal rule that they must always be open if asked). So this can be a fun opportunity for a Princess to explore his mind. The Princess has no equivalent obligation to be open, but may choose to also enjoy sharing her past experiences and fantasies.
When you start a new activity, the strongest feelings will be from starting that activity. While starting something different might at first feel strange, it can also feel exciting. The adventurous will find this the most fun time. Others might find that they need to be brave to start something new, and the rewards will come later.
Devotional Sex works best if you take your time at each activity.
This is because it gives you both the opportunity to become used to what you are doing. After a while what initially might have felt strange will start to feel comfortable. The feelings from the activity being new and different become less strong, and instead you start to enjoy the activity for what it is. The activity becomes not a step on the way to something else, but a place to stop (for a while) and enjoy.
This is when intimacy and connection thrive. And this is when Devotional Sex is the most special.
Taking your time also ensures that there is no rush for the Princess to decide whether or not to do something else. She can keep enjoying the current activity until it starts to feel right to do something else or to go a bit further.
Even if you know you want to do lots of things, it is usually more fulfilling to take your time at each activity.
Taking your time also leaves the Knight not knowing if more will happen. This makes it feel real to him that it is the Princess's decision whether or not to go further. And if he feels that the current activity might be as far as things go that night, he will find it easier to focus on fully enjoying the moment.
So before moving on to another activity, ask yourself whether or not it would be fun to continue with what you are doing for a little longer.
With Devotional Sex it works best to start the journey much earlier in the evening than you might start normal sexual activity. This gives you the time to enjoy a long journey. Starting early does not mean that you will go further, just that you have a longer time to enjoy what does happen.
The fun of teasing is that it raises the erotic energy, and creates anticipation for the possible next step. Within a Devotional Friendship any teasing need not lead on to anything further.
With `normal´ sex, teasing leading to male arousal will have many men thinking "you got me aroused, so now you owe me satisfaction (ie ejaculation)". The biggest frustration for a teased male in `normal´ sex is when he does not get to Climax at the end.
A Devotional Friendship is very different because the friends both know that no-matter what happens, the Knight will not Climax at the end.
By eliminating this `normal´ end-point from a Devotional Friendship, the Knight is freed to enjoy his erotic energy without being distracted by his future Climax. For him teasing has all the fun and erotic energy of before, but now none of the frustration.
And the Princess is able to enjoy getting and keeping her Knight aroused freed from any expectations that this must lead to her having to `satisfy´ him.
Devotional Sex is all about enjoying the erotic energy, and teasing creates energy. So even if it goes no further, teasing in Devotional Sex is fun for both.
If the teasing does lead on to activity, it is much more fun to be teased and then to enjoy, rather than to go straight for it. Teasing makes the journey much more exciting!
A Princess can tease her Knight during their final activity of the night about the activity which would happen next if the Princess had decided to go one step further.
This is especially the case if the undressing happens near the very beginning of your time together, so that he is undressed during any early sensual activities or cuddles, and at the beginning of any mild warming-up erotic activity. And very differently from `nomal´, he will also be undressed while doing any non-erotic activities (eating dinner, just talking, or watching a DVD).
Having the Knight naked or partially undressed for most of the evening does not imply any other activities will happen. For example, just because he is naked does not mean that the Princess will ever touch his Desire.
The Princess decides whether she prefers her Knight to keep his underpants on or to be fully naked. If she is wanting her Knight to feel very much under her control it is much more effective to tell him to be naked. A naked Knight will always feel a bit vulnerable, whilst a Knight in his underpants will feel more relaxed.
If the Princess is likely to soon be partly undressed herself (eg to receive a back or body massage), then she may prefer her Knight to keep his underpants on.
For the Princess the feeling from having her Knight nude may change throughout the evening. At times it might just be fun, at other times she might feel powerful or sexy. She might also very much enjoy his vulnerability, and that he is prepared to do this for her.
A nude or partially undressed Knight will feel a mixture of vulnerability and excitement. And as the evening progresses, the balance between these will constantly shift. If he is naked, the Princess will have a visually indication of the rise and fall of his desire throughout the evening!
A fully dressed Knight who is eager for some erotic activities has his normal male confidence and so is more likely to make the Princess feel under pressure to move to the sexual. His being naked will probably make him even more eager for some erotic activities! But it also removes his male confidence and makes him feel under her control. So having the Knight naked can make the Princess feel under less pressure to engage in other erotic activities as it is now very clear to both who is in charge.
If the Knight does feel very vulnerable, he will very much be wanting some comfort.
If he is very wanting, and the Princess does not want a body to body cuddle, then she can let him sit at her feet and just cuddle her legs.
The best comfort is just to enjoy a real cuddle. A cuddle with a fully dressed Princess and a naked Knight feels very different from any other cuddles!
Of course during the cuddle he would like her to touch and play with his exposed Desire. It is up to the Princess as to whether she never touches him, she holds him but does not play with it, or if she actively plays with him. Whatever she decides is a very powerful example of her control.
Cuddling her Knight and never touching his Desire shows the power of Devotional Sex to enable such an erotic cuddle, but to go no further.
One way of helping a Princess to feel comfortable about not touching his Desire during a cuddle is for her to decide before the cuddle starts what will happen during the cuddle (she should keep this decision to herself). If she decides before-hand that she will not touch him, she can just relax during the cuddle without thinking about this again.
If the cuddle is the end of activities, and especially if the Knight's erotic energy is very high, it can be very intimate to share a Calm-Down Cuddle (where she holds his Desire but does not play with it). This final Devotional Cuddle might be the first time the Princess touches his Desire.
And if the Princess chooses, she can do what her Knight is hoping - actively play with his Desire.
Some women may find this play extremely liberating as it frees her to enjoy a mans Desire without further expectations being placed upon her.
Spending some time cuddling with a fully dressed Princess playing with the Desire of her naked Knight is a powerful experience. She feels and controls his energy and passion with her hand. Because she is is in control her Knight becomes her plaything. It is an opportunity for a Princes to enjoy playing with his Desire and his passion without being expected to then have to "get him off".
She can enjoy touching him without this leading on to any other sexual activities. In this case it is important to ensure that during the cuddle the Knight is not allowed to move his hand under the Princess's clothing. Whether or not he is allowed to touch her breasts over her clothing is up to the Princess.
Asking her Knight to take off his clothes for the first time may not be easy for a new Princess. So if the idea of a nude Knight is attractive, my best advice is to be very brave and get the nervousness about issuing the command over with. You could ask something like "Are you really my Knight?" Unless he replies "no", then you could next say "Then prove this by taking all your clothes off." Once he has done so, you could always return to the previous conversation as if nothing had happened.
A Knight being told to take his clothes off for the first time may also feel nervous. This is part of the adventure. Again my best advice is to just take a deep breath, and do what you have been told.
If the Knight is naked and the couple go to bed later in the evening, it often works best if the Knight is told to put his underpants back on just before getting into bed. It is then up to the Princess whether or not they come off later while they are in bed together.
A fully dressed Princess having her Knight be naked is a very easy way for a Princess to exert control and have them both feel that things are very different.
If it is the Knight who is very keen to be Devotional Friends, and the Princess is thinking of using her Princess Power over him only to enjoy a foot massage (and maybe body massage), and perhaps a cuddle which goes no further, then her Knight might be left a bit unsatisfied. For an experienced Knight this dissatisfaction might be more about him not feeling the Princess Knight dynamic than missing out on going further.
Making her Knight be nude instantly creates a strong Princess Knight dynamic which lasts all night. If only the same mild other activities are now done (foot massage, cuddle) the feeling is very different as it is clear that the Princess is now very much in charge, and is powerfully choosing to enjoy just simple pleasures.
A man who is keen to be a Devotional Friend mainly with the expectation of sexual pleasures would find being nude but not doing much an experience that he may not want to repeat. Such a man might decide he no longer wants to be a Devotional Friend.
A man who is keen to be a Devotional Friend so he can enjoy intimacy with and pleasing his Princess, will be satisfied by the evening, and want to be her Knight again. Of course he may have hoped that some sexual activities had happened. But his nudity would have made him feel that the Princess Knight dynamic was very real, and he would have enjoyed some very real, albeit mild, Devotional Sex.
So Knightly nudity can be used to expose (pun intended) men who are really just after sex, and to provide satisfaction to Knights who see their role as mainly pleasing their partner.
The Knight will be teased and excited by looking at his Princess. He is not allowed to touch her unless she says. Visually teasing him with her body is a fun way for a Princess to feel both sexy and powerful.
We live in a world where sexily dressed (or partially undressed) women are used to sell products. This advertising is all around us. Yet it is also normal for women, even when with very close friends, to always dress modestly (compared to the sexy advertising). And when a women does dress in `something more comfortable´, this is usually a prelude to some sexual activity which often follows fairly quickly.
Within a Devotional Friendship a woman can reclaim from the advertising world the freedom to enjoy dressing in a very sexy way. She can enjoy visually teasing her Knight, and her Knight can enjoy the visual tease. And what happens afterwards, if anything, is totally up to the Princess.
Even if she dresses extremely provocatively, the activities which follow can remain fairly mild. For example, a Princess who decides to limit activities to only receiving a foot massage, could tease her Knight by not wearing any panties under her dress. Depending on how she placed her legs and the dress while getting the foot massage, her Knight would either be teased by occasional glimpses of her Pleasure, or he would be able to enjoy looking at her throughout the foot massage.
Just as it works well if the Knight is to be undressed for this to start early on, and then to enjoy this part of the adventure while you are doing some other (non Devotee) activities, it can work well if the Princess presents herself in a sexy way from early in the evening.
If the Knight can Crest, then the Princess can ask him to demonstrate this as he plays with himself.
This can all be done with the Princess many feet away, or it can be while they cuddle. She could even lay her head on his tummy and watch him from very close (which is a good way to demonstrate him Cresting as then she will feel his shudders when he Crests).
This might be in a chaste way with her hand down her trousers or inside her panties. Or it can be very explicit if she is naked and she allows her Knight to watch her from only a few inches away.
She might further tease him by wetting her fingers in her Pleasure and letting him just have a smell, or allowing him to lick her fingers clean.
Desire Play over undies
A Princess can take her time playing with her Knight's Desire over his underpants. This is a great tease, especially if her Knight does not know if she is going to go any further.Some couples may have done this quickly on the way to real touching. But the power and fun of this type of touch only happens when it is done for a while. It becomes a sexual massage - too explicit for just a massage, but too tame to be real sex.
If she eventually does go further and puts her hand under for a real touch, the first touch can be electric.
Even if she does not want to go further it can be lots of fun to go this far, and her Knight will get some pleasure from her touching. Going this far and not further is a good example of how a Devotional Friendship can on one hand be very erotic and sexual, but at the same time still be fairly tame.
If this is a final activity to reward a very aroused Knight, then the Princess might can just hold his Desire over his underpants during a final cuddle. If she does this, her Knight will enjoy this most if she holds his Desire fairly tightly. This would be a chaste version of a Calm-Down Cuddle.
Teasing Desire Play
As a tease before going further, or too have fun without going as far as serious sexual pleasure, a Princess can play with her Knight's Desire in a teasing way. Just because she does not want to move to more serious play does not prevent some fun touching - there is no slippery slope.Of course there is no defined point at which a tease becomes serious play. If you do not mind how far you go then it does not matter. The Princess can go as far as she likes, and even include moments of real pleasure giving. More is said about serious Desire Play here.
Pleasure Kiss over panties
A Knight can be very keen to give a Pleasure Kiss. A fun tease is to have him give a Pleasure Kiss over panties. This is more symbolic for both than full pleasure, but if you like the idea it is very powerful to experience.Rather than go straight for it, the Princess could have him kiss up her legs towards her Pleasure. She could then have him stop before he reaches it, and tell him to wait until she says.
If the Princess intends to enjoy a long Pleasure Kiss later in the evening, having him kiss her panties earlier in the evening is a great way to increase desire for doing the real thing later on.
Foot Kiss to Princess
One of the fun things with Devotional Sex is that the Knight's high erotic energy from not having Climaxed for many days can power some unusual activities. Using his mouth, lips and tongue to give pleasure to his Princess's feet is one such activity. The Knight can get very aroused doing this intimate act and the Princess will feel both pleasure and power in receiving it.Of course a man with a foot fetish will love to do this, But a man who normally has little interest in feet can also get very aroused if her feet becomes his substitute for other parts of his Princess's body he would love to use his mouth on. In this case it will only work if he has very high erotic energy and the only place he can touch (at that time) is her feet.
A Foot Kiss can follow a foot massage. Perhaps a very wanting Knight will offer one, or the Princess who is confident that her Knight has high enough energy can `request´ one.
It is a very different experience for both the Princess and her Knight, and so I recommend that anyone who has the opportunity to enjoy a Foot Kiss gives it a try.
To read a real-life story that includes a Foot Kiss click here.
Body Kiss
An intimate and sensual follow-on to a body massage is for the Knight to use his mouth all over her body. This is particularly powerful if it is not rushed.The Princess is in control and should give guidance when it comes to taking longer on one part, moving on to another part, or whether or not to include the intimate parts.
If the Princess stays lying on her front the whole time, and is wearing her panties, a body kiss is still very erotic but also remains fairly chaste. If she rolls over, the body kiss can now include her breasts. If she opens her legs the body kiss would end with a Pleasure Kiss over panties. And if she is not wearing any panties, the body kiss can end with a long and slow Pleasure Kiss.
Wearing a blindfold
Having one person wear a blindfold is a very effective way of changing the dynamic. The person wearing the blindfold will feel slightly vulnerable, and with sight gone, all the other senses become more sensitive. The person not wearing the blindfold will feel in control, and can enjoy the effect on their partner as they enjoy other activities.The effect of wearing a blindfold is most enjoyed once the wearer becomes used to not seeing. So if you play with a blindfold, try to keep it on for at least thirty minutes.
A blindfolded Knight can still give sensual and sexual pleasures.
Wearing a blindfold may make some things easier for him to do, for example to play with himself in front of his Princess.
The Princess is in control over what happens, but this does not prevent her from enjoying any activity she chooses. So a Princess can choose to be the one to wear a blindfold.
More extreme (and maybe more fun) play ideas
The ideas presented in this section are more extreme than the earlier erotic play ideas.The adventurous who are excited by one or more of these ideas may find them even more fun due to a feeling of playing at the edge. (More)
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