The Knight
His Erotic Energy States
A
Knight has lots of different ways of feeling and handling his
erotic energy.
Some of these energy states are the 'normal' response to a situation. Devotional Sex also has some new energy states which are part of what makes Devotional Sex unique.
Part of being a Knight is him deliberately moving between energy states so that his state is the right one for the current situation. Also his Princess can move him from one state to another to suit her wishes.
Some of these energy states are the 'normal' response to a situation. Devotional Sex also has some new energy states which are part of what makes Devotional Sex unique.
Part of being a Knight is him deliberately moving between energy states so that his state is the right one for the current situation. Also his Princess can move him from one state to another to suit her wishes.
Rather than being in one state or another there is a continuum between most states. So in practice a Knight will often be somewhere in between two states.
Hopefully my giving names to the following twelve points on the energy continuum will be useful in explaining how Devotional Sex works.
If a state has (More) at the end, click that link for an expanded explanation.
Vanilla & Devotional Sex
Attentive - He is thinking about sex and feeling desire but he is not (yet) fully hard.
Here his energy ranges from mild desire up to being slightly hard.
With Vanilla Sex this often fairly quickly leads to him becoming Eager and then activity. But with Devotional Sex a Knight will often be Attentive without anything further immediately following.
One of the joys of Devotional Sex is that he can be Attentive for many hours each day. This can be celebrated at home with Affirmation (when he isn't fully hard). There are also many ways a Princess can keep her Knight feeling Attentive when they go out together.
With Vanilla Sex this often fairly quickly leads to him becoming Eager and then activity. But with Devotional Sex a Knight will often be Attentive without anything further immediately following.
One of the joys of Devotional Sex is that he can be Attentive for many hours each day. This can be celebrated at home with Affirmation (when he isn't fully hard). There are also many ways a Princess can keep her Knight feeling Attentive when they go out together.
Eager - He is aroused and erect and is either engaged in sexual activity or is eager for it to start soon:
It is thoughts of desiring sex which get him hard, and as an Eager
Knight is keen for sexual activity, whatever it is, rather than her Wishes making him do
something they are allowing
him to do it.
As a Knight never knows what is going to happen, even just waking up or getting into bed with his Princess may be enough to get him Eager. This is good because if she wants something to happen then he is already eager to please, and if nothing happens he has built up the erotic energy enabling him to relax into Adoration.
One of the fun things of being a Princess is that it is always very easy to quickly make him Eager. For example during Adoration all she needs to do is play with him a little more actively and he will quickly become Eager, and during Affirmation it may take no more than her talking about sex for her to be able to see him move from Attentive to Eager.
As a Knight never knows what is going to happen, even just waking up or getting into bed with his Princess may be enough to get him Eager. This is good because if she wants something to happen then he is already eager to please, and if nothing happens he has built up the erotic energy enabling him to relax into Adoration.
One of the fun things of being a Princess is that it is always very easy to quickly make him Eager. For example during Adoration all she needs to do is play with him a little more actively and he will quickly become Eager, and during Affirmation it may take no more than her talking about sex for her to be able to see him move from Attentive to Eager.
Edging - He is on the edge of having a Climax:
With
Vanilla Sex this is his energy state just before he ejaculates. Some
couples enjoy getting him to this state and then keeping him there
(with the kink of tease and denial denying him release at the end).
With Devotional Sex if he is Eager or Energized and she says "Release" he will first move into Edging and from there ejaculate. But if she wishes she can first say "Edge" and he moves into Edging and stays at this level until she finally says "Release".
Edging which isn't followed by a Climax is likely to leave a Knight feeling at least some frustration. Thus I recommend that Edging is avoided until a Princess wants him to end a Session with him Climaxing.
A Knight doesn't miss out on the energy of Edging as with Devotional Sex he gets to spend lots of time in the Energized state.
With Devotional Sex if he is Eager or Energized and she says "Release" he will first move into Edging and from there ejaculate. But if she wishes she can first say "Edge" and he moves into Edging and stays at this level until she finally says "Release".
Edging which isn't followed by a Climax is likely to leave a Knight feeling at least some frustration. Thus I recommend that Edging is avoided until a Princess wants him to end a Session with him Climaxing.
A Knight doesn't miss out on the energy of Edging as with Devotional Sex he gets to spend lots of time in the Energized state.
Climaxing - Having an orgasm and ejaculation:
This
is a normal male orgasm and ejaculation except that as Devotional Sex
has him build up his energy for much longer than normal his Climax is
usually much more powerful and pleasurable. This is not only great for
him but it makes it more fun for her to give him this pleasure.
Once his Climax is over his energy goes to Flat.
Once his Climax is over his energy goes to Flat.
Flat - Having no erotic energy after ejaculating:
With
Vanilla Sex a man spends most of his time flat. He will have times
going from Flat to Attentive then back to Flat. And sometimes he goes
from Flat to Attentive to Eager to Edging to Climaxing then back to
Flat.
With far fewer ejaculations the recovery time for a Knight may be longer than normal. So if she wants him to begin a new Season feeling like her Knight it works best to have him Climax just before sleep, and then to give him a Devotional Cuddle (or more) in the morning to rebuild his energy.
Sometimes a Princess may want a rest from his energy and so have him Climax on, say, Saturday morning. In this case her Knight should recognize that she wants him flat and try to to avoid rebuilding his energy until she is ready.
With far fewer ejaculations the recovery time for a Knight may be longer than normal. So if she wants him to begin a new Season feeling like her Knight it works best to have him Climax just before sleep, and then to give him a Devotional Cuddle (or more) in the morning to rebuild his energy.
Sometimes a Princess may want a rest from his energy and so have him Climax on, say, Saturday morning. In this case her Knight should recognize that she wants him flat and try to to avoid rebuilding his energy until she is ready.
Not ejaculating with untamed energy
Frustrated - The feelings immediately after sexual activity ends without him Climaxing when his energy is untamed:
When
first starting Devotional Sex this is the natural reaction to not
ejaculating at the end of sexual activity. Not only does he feel
frustrated, but if this happens at bedtime his erection can remain very
hard for ages and it can be impossible to get to sleep.
If this happens within normal sex then he will only feel frustration (and, if denied ejaculation by his partner, rejection as well).
When first exploring Devotional Sex he doesn't feel rejected because he has committed to not ejaculate as often (so she isn't denying him). Though he will feel some frustration this will be balanced by also feeling intimacy and connection during the post-activity Devotional Cuddle.
Over time, as his body gets used to this new way of ending sex and if he learns to circulate his energy, the frustration becomes less and less until eventually there is no frustration at all. Instead he feels only Exaltation and Adoration, and it's always easy to go to sleep.
If this happens within normal sex then he will only feel frustration (and, if denied ejaculation by his partner, rejection as well).
When first exploring Devotional Sex he doesn't feel rejected because he has committed to not ejaculate as often (so she isn't denying him). Though he will feel some frustration this will be balanced by also feeling intimacy and connection during the post-activity Devotional Cuddle.
Over time, as his body gets used to this new way of ending sex and if he learns to circulate his energy, the frustration becomes less and less until eventually there is no frustration at all. Instead he feels only Exaltation and Adoration, and it's always easy to go to sleep.
Blue Balls - The hours and days after sex ends without Climax when his energy is untamed:
Blue
Balls are the feelings of being on edge and frustrated in the hours and
days once his erection has gone down after having had sexual activity
without ejaculating. As well as possibly feeling moody and irritable,
and being unable to concentrate on normal things in life (eg work)
there can be a physical ache in the balls.
Again by his body getting used to this, and if he learns to circulate his energy, both the physical ache and the mental symptoms pass, and instead of Blue Balls a Knight enjoys feeling Enlivened.
Again by his body getting used to this, and if he learns to circulate his energy, both the physical ache and the mental symptoms pass, and instead of Blue Balls a Knight enjoys feeling Enlivened.
Devotional Sex
Energized - He has very high erotic energy but is always at least 30 seconds away from being able to Climax:
With normal sex a man having high erotic energy without feeling he is just
about to ejaculate requires him to stay just below Edging. Him staying in control means
holding back.
The Energized state is when his energy builds without him ever feeling he is about to ejaculate and thus he always remains in control and won't accidentally Climax. In this state if he wants to ejaculate he can't do so instantly but instead he first needs to mentally change gears to move across to Edging.
Being Energized enables him to enjoy the energy of Edging but without his Princess having to do the 'work' of keeping him at that high energy level while also being careful to not push him over the edge.
As well as being calm when he is highly energized, both may enjoy him sometimes feeling desperate. Though he acts and feels desperate he is still in control as he won't accidentally Climax and if his Princess says "be Calm" he can calm himself and move to Exaltation or Adoration.
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The Energized state is when his energy builds without him ever feeling he is about to ejaculate and thus he always remains in control and won't accidentally Climax. In this state if he wants to ejaculate he can't do so instantly but instead he first needs to mentally change gears to move across to Edging.
Being Energized enables him to enjoy the energy of Edging but without his Princess having to do the 'work' of keeping him at that high energy level while also being careful to not push him over the edge.
As well as being calm when he is highly energized, both may enjoy him sometimes feeling desperate. Though he acts and feels desperate he is still in control as he won't accidentally Climax and if his Princess says "be Calm" he can calm himself and move to Exaltation or Adoration.
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Exaltation - Turning his high erotic energy when sex ends without him Climaxing into an emotional orgasm of intimacy and connection:
Exaltation can be as powerful and pleasurable, albeit in a
different way, as a Climax. But unlike a Climax which leaves the Knight feeling flat after the
physical pleasure of orgasm and ejaculation, with Exaltation he remains energized
and his energy then calms to become Adoration.
A Session where she has an orgasm and he doesn't Climax seems one-sided. But if she orgasms and he ends with Exaltation the Session becomes a Delight to both.
Most Knights will only be able to feel Exaltation when they are also enjoying a Devotional Cuddle. So here he relies on his Princess to look after him. Fortunately this is fairly easy for her as all she needs to do is gently hold his erection as they cuddle which doesn't require much effort even if she is exhausted after her orgasm.
Exaltation is easiest to reach once a Knight has learned to enjoy being Energized. To feel Exaltation during a post-activity Devotional Cuddle he uses the energy generated from the sexual activity to feel a peak of desperate energy of wanting more sex now (which she will feel as he is likely to give some desperate thrusts into her hand) and he then suddenly relaxes this energy, accepting that this is all for now, and directing all his energy into feeling intimacy and connection with his Princess.
This sudden relaxing of high energy has some similarity with the sudden fall of energy with ejaculation and with the release of tension of Cresting. Both of these have the physical shuddering of orgasm. Exaltation has no such physical orgasm but it can be thought of as a mental emotional orgasm.
As far as I'm aware it is only Devotional Sex which teaches a man how to experience Exaltation and creates a lifestyle where he can enjoy this often.
A Session where she has an orgasm and he doesn't Climax seems one-sided. But if she orgasms and he ends with Exaltation the Session becomes a Delight to both.
Most Knights will only be able to feel Exaltation when they are also enjoying a Devotional Cuddle. So here he relies on his Princess to look after him. Fortunately this is fairly easy for her as all she needs to do is gently hold his erection as they cuddle which doesn't require much effort even if she is exhausted after her orgasm.
Exaltation is easiest to reach once a Knight has learned to enjoy being Energized. To feel Exaltation during a post-activity Devotional Cuddle he uses the energy generated from the sexual activity to feel a peak of desperate energy of wanting more sex now (which she will feel as he is likely to give some desperate thrusts into her hand) and he then suddenly relaxes this energy, accepting that this is all for now, and directing all his energy into feeling intimacy and connection with his Princess.
This sudden relaxing of high energy has some similarity with the sudden fall of energy with ejaculation and with the release of tension of Cresting. Both of these have the physical shuddering of orgasm. Exaltation has no such physical orgasm but it can be thought of as a mental emotional orgasm.
As far as I'm aware it is only Devotional Sex which teaches a man how to experience Exaltation and creates a lifestyle where he can enjoy this often.
Adoration - Erotic resting during which he is aroused and erect and his erotic energy is focussed on feeling relaxed intimacy and connection with his Princess:
He will have got aroused from being Eager. But once he feels that it is unlikely that sexual
activity will follow, rather than desiring immediate activity and
feeling frustrated that this isn't happening, he accepts that nothing further will happen now, and he deliberately channels
his
thoughts to intimacy and connection (and looking forward to activities
at future sessions).
It is easier for him to feel Adoration if his energy is accepted with a Devotional Cuddle, but as his energy isn't high 'just a cuddle' will be ok for some Knights.
As Adoration is enjoyed both after sexual activity ends and with session of just a Devotional Cuddle, some couples will spend more time enjoying the intimacy and connection of Adoration than they do enjoying sexual activity.
It is easier for him to feel Adoration if his energy is accepted with a Devotional Cuddle, but as his energy isn't high 'just a cuddle' will be ok for some Knights.
As Adoration is enjoyed both after sexual activity ends and with session of just a Devotional Cuddle, some couples will spend more time enjoying the intimacy and connection of Adoration than they do enjoying sexual activity.
Enlivened - The feeling of relaxed erotic energy felt throughout the day by a Knight who has learned to calm his energy:
When his energy is calmed rather then feeling blue balls or him being on edge he feels a pleasant background energy without which life feels a
bit flat.
Being Enlivened is deliberately a more energized version of the experience of those who don't ejaculate often as part of Tao or Tantra. The extra energy is needed with Devotional Sex because it is this that ensures that a Knight can always quickly become Eager and thus keen to fulfill any of his Princess's Wishes.
Being Enlivened not only has him desiring and appreciating his partner more but it can also create a greater appreciation of and 'oneness' with the rest of the natural and human world.
Being Enlivened is deliberately a more energized version of the experience of those who don't ejaculate often as part of Tao or Tantra. The extra energy is needed with Devotional Sex because it is this that ensures that a Knight can always quickly become Eager and thus keen to fulfill any of his Princess's Wishes.
Being Enlivened not only has him desiring and appreciating his partner more but it can also create a greater appreciation of and 'oneness' with the rest of the natural and human world.
Cresting - For a male this is having an orgasm without ejaculating:
Learning to orgasm without ejaculating (the multi-orgasmic man) is an optional enhancement to Devotional Sex.
As he doesn't ejaculate his erotic energy is maintained and he can keep having orgasms or move on to other activities.
As he doesn't ejaculate his erotic energy is maintained and he can keep having orgasms or move on to other activities.
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