of Devotional Sex for HER - Page 1
Devotional Sex is a new sexual technique and lifestyle which enhances
your and your partner's sexual life whilst also building and
maintaining intimacy and connection.
As the roles, rewards, and responsibilities are very different for
men and women within Devotional Sex, I've written two overviews - one
for her, and one for him.
Whilst the One Page Summary says what is done
the overall benefits, this much longer overview also explains why it
works for you and what
you can do to make it work best for you and your partner.
This overview is
from HER point-of-view
provides many rewards for a woman ...
HE may find this informative as well).
Better sex (ie what happens before an
activity is tailored to your desires and wishes - it becomes much more
sensual, pleasurable and fun,
Usually many more orgasms:
Sex enables you to be as orgasmic as you wish and
are able, and so most women enjoy many more orgasms,
Builds and maintains intimacy and
though sex becomes
much better, most women say that their biggest benefit is the increase
in intimacy and connection and thus a better
You enjoy this while making your partner
just as happy as you:
of the joy of Devotional Sex is that it becomes easy and fun to please
Combine all of the above and love blooms -
exploring Devotional Sex can be like having a second honeymoon!
This overview takes
a step-by-step approach
to show how all
these rewards are created:
rest of this page looks at what powers Devotional Sex, and why you will
always enjoy sex because you decide what happens and when.
replaces consent with the aim of mutual happiness and talks about
shows why he will be as happy as you when you decide what sex happens.
explains why what happens after sex ends is important for generating
intimacy and connection.
looks at how you can enjoy the dynamic when sexual activity doesn't
happen - both in bed and outside the bedroom, and how this is also a
key part of the intimacy and connection.
6 looks at enhancements to Devotional Sex, your next steps,
and tells you how you can leave
comments or ask questions.
To practice Devotional Sex both you
and your partner must commit to doing your role.
It's like riding a tandem
person) bicycle - it only
happens when you both agree to get on the bike, and if one gets off
then the ride is over. And just like doing a tandem bike ride, to do
Devotional Sex the first step is for you to both agree to start doing
it and for how long you will
do it for (after which you return to normal).
It will sometimes require some effort to fulfill your role, especially
when it's all new to you. But on the whole it is so easy to do that many women find
that it very quickly starts to feel natural - it becomes a new normal.
Because your role has you feeling pampered and special I've called a
woman who is doing Devotional Sex a Princess.
Your partner's role is much more challenging - he has to agree to be
honor-bound to keep his commitments and this takes mental strength.
With Devotional Sex he proudly kneels in front of his Princess and
devotes himself to her - and thus I've called him a Knight.
Each role has four key
unique dynamic of Devotional Sex is what happens when these are
all in place. So this overview presents these commitments and
shows how each works in practice and how they all interact with each
The starting point and powerhouse
of Devotional Sex is his first commitment:
- He commits to having
far fewer ejaculations than he used to.
example, if you both agree to do a Devotional
then he commits to not ejaculate until the end of Sunday evening (how
long he has to last depends on when you agree to start this Spell).
And when living Devotional Sex an
year old will only, on average, ejaculate every two days, and for a 50
year old it will be about every ten days!
The obvious consequence of so few ejaculations is that your partner
will become very
eager for sex! He will be wanting it all of the time!
Some might find this
fun for a short time, but for most this would very quickly become a
For Devotional Sex to be livable
and fun for you some balance is needed so that you don't feel pressured
into having sex all of the time. So when he does Devotional Sex:
Part of the reason this technique
is called Devotional Sex is that he is devoted to you
and will do all
that you wish! If you want a back rub or to receive oral sex then your
wish is his command!
- He commits to
fulfilling all your sensual and sexual wishes
(within what he is willing to do).
But before looking at what you can have him do, where this makes the
biggest difference is when you wish for nothing to happen or activity
When in bed, even if he has not ejaculated for many days and is very
eager for activity, if you wish for nothing to happen or nothing more
than a cuddle, then as he has committed to fulfill your wish he accepts
that no sexual activity will happen.
As he has fewer ejaculations
before, most sexual activity will now end without him ejaculating.
Without ejaculating he is likely to want to go on forever. So him
committing to fulfill your wishes also means that when you want
activity to end it does.
You don't need to act or feel dominant when at bedtime you say "just a
cuddle tonight" or when, if you are having intercourse, you say "that's
all for now". Though he may sometimes find it challenging, having
chosen to be your Knight he is honor-bound to do as you wish. If it
takes effort to make his body behave, then he exerts the effort to
control his own energy.
So when you wish for nothing to happen or sexual activity to end you
can enjoy a relaxing cuddle even though your partner is usually aroused
and erect (and you will see later why this is guilt free).
Your Knight fulfilling all your
sensual and sexual wishes also means that when you want some sexual
activity to happen it will.
Once again you don't need to act or feel dominant when you ask your
Knight to do something.
His built up erotic energy usually means that he is eager for activity
- any activity - and so to have something happen you just gently say
what you want and he will eagerly oblige.
To make this even easier for
you Devotional Sex has a collection of Wish Words.
Just say any of these words and it is clear to your Knight what you
want. And as you only say one or two words it is almost as if he just
magically fulfills your wish.
He also fulfills your
sensual wishes so you can have him give you a foot massage or a back or
body massage whenever you wish.
Clearly him keeping his first two
commitments will often be challenging for him. But what about your
commitments? Do you face something similarly challenging?
The first of four things you must commit to
isn't too burdensome - as Devotional Sex will only work and continue to
happen if you enjoy it much more than 'normal' sex:
With sexual activity you not only
it happens, you now have control of what happens
(and thus what does not happen), and how it
is done. And as he usually doesn't get to ejaculate at the end, you
decide when the activity will end, be that after just a few minutes or
a few hours.
- You commit to using
the control he has given you to enhance
YOUR sensual, sexual,
and intimate life.
Note that your partner can still make
suggestions and requests for activity.
His enthusiasm may inspire you to accept his suggestion, but it may
inspire you to
have something different happen or you can decide that nothing will
So how does the woman having such control change a couple's sex life?
with most couples who practice Devotional Sex is:
- Intercourse tends to happen
about as often as before,
- Her giving him oral sex
either stays about the same or happens a lot less,
- Him giving her oral sex
happens much more often,
- She has more or, for about
half the women, many more orgasms,
- And, of course, he ejaculates
far less often than before.
his erection no longer
means that penetration and ejaculation are expected, most
many extra sessions each week - some short, some long - which don't
include intercourse, and
- It's not uncommon for these
extra sessions to be only or mainly one activity.
For example, when they wakeup she may
decide to actively play with his
erection (for say 3 minutes) and that's all that happens before they
get up, and then that
evening when they go to bed she could have him give her oral sex (for
say 25 minutes), she
orgasms, and all that happens afterwards is a cuddle.
With you deciding what
happens and how it is done you can guide your partner in how best to
bring you to orgasm and have him do this whenever you wish. So with
Devotional Sex most women orgasm many more times than their partner
doesn't tell you what activities to do or how often -
it's up to each
Princess to discover what works best for her.
What works best for each women varies incredibly. For example:
So there is huge variation
in what Devotee couples do, and it's up to you to find out how to reach your peak of
- A few women (of all ages!)
have decided that intercourse won't happen at all
- and a few enjoy it four or more times each
- A few women don't like
receiving oral sex and so this never happens
- and a few have him give her oral
sex twice a day!
- Some women never give him any
oral sex -
- whilst just a few
give him this once a day, and
- Some women like having him
play with her sex with his hand,
-whilst some decide that "as I can have him use his mouth whenever I
why let him use his hand", and so he never or rarely uses his hand on
With Devotional Sex it is usual for
her to receive much more oral
sex than she gives, and her to have many more orgasms then him. Clearly
this is a very unbalanced and unequal sex life.
So why would he be willing or even eager to do Devotional Sex?
Click continue (below,
right) to find out how balance is restored and why he is likely to
enjoy Devotional Sex just as much as you.
updated: 3 July
© MichaelK 2007-17