of the What Happens in Bed? Survey
When Living or doing a long Stretch of Devotional Sex
there are 7 times each week when you wake up together and 7 bedtimes.
So far I have 25 valid replies to
my survey. (To be valid the answers must add up to 14.)
That's 14 opportunities each week for some Devotional activities!
This survey finds out what happens during those 14 opportunities within
real-life Devotional Sex.
this survey has only a few replies, the amounts of intercourse and oral
sex are close to the results of my Oral Sex survey which has many
more responses. So here this survey is about right.
Where this survey provides new
information is that it discovers what happens when the couple are not
having intercourse or oral sex, which for most Devotee couples is the
majority of their mornings and bedtimes.
average of what Devotees do in bed:
The 14 sessions of 7 mornings and 7
bedtimes are, on average, made up of:
sessions of Joy (intercourse) and maybe other
mainly him giving her a Pleasure Kiss (him
giving her oral sex),
mainly her giving him a Desire Kiss (her
giving him oral sex),
of mainly him giving her Pleasure Play (him
using his hand on her sex),
mainly her actively playing with his erection,
2.8 Devotional Cuddles (she gently holds his his
erection as they cuddle),
just a cuddle, and
nothing happens at all.
that if a session includes
Joy then that is counted as a session of Joy even though it may also
include Pleasure Kissing and other activities.
So all the other types of sessions do not include any Joy. But they may
include some other activities as well as the activity on which most
was spent (eg a 15 minute session of her actively playing with his
erection may have included a minute of her giving him oral sex).
is huge variation in what real-life Devotee couples do:
This survey is particularly useful
in showing the huge variation in what real-life couples do when living
Click 'more' to see a page which presents some of the individual
responses to the survey which illustrate this huge variation. (More)
different from 'normal sex':
Though no Devotee couple does the
average (and in fact there is huge variation in what couples do), the
average is very useful in comparing Devotional Sex with 'normal sex'.
On average, for
those who did this survey:
- 12% of mornings and bedtimes
- 78% of the times they engage in sexual
activity (not including Devotional Cuddles)
they do not have
- 58% of mornings and bedtimes
have sexual activity (not including just a Devotional Cuddle),
- 78% of mornings and bedtimes
have either sexual activity or just a Devotional Cuddle.
And if we assume that there is a Devotional Cuddle
just before and/or just after each session of sex, then
- 78% of all sessions include a
- 91% of mornings and bedtimes
have at the least a cuddle.
- 84% of sexual activity and
just a Devotional Cuddle does not include Joy.
- 34% of mornings and bedtimes
are either just a cuddle or a Devotional Cuddle.
- 64% of couples have at the
least a cuddle every
morning and bedtime, and
- 28% have at the least a
Devotional Cuddle every
morning and bedtime.
In the community overall for those in a
heterosexual relationship the average frequency of intercourse is 1.4
week. So having Joy 1.7 times a week isn't significantly more often
So for most couples living Devotional Sex doesn't significantly change
how often they have intercourse.
activity without Joy
With Devotional Sex the
Knight is usually eager for some sexual activity - any activity - every
morning and every bedtime. To balance this the Knight has given his
Princess control over when something happens and what. Thus she can
enjoy whatever sexual activity she wishes!
Perhaps the biggest surprise for
many is that though the amount of Joy
remains about the same as before there is a huge increase in sexual
activity - almost all of which are sessions that do not include Joy.
In the wider community 94% of sessions include intercourse. So the
average week is 1.4 sessions which include intercourse and 0.1 sessions
So the first huge difference between those living Devotional Sex and
'normal' is that there is a huge increase in the amount of sexual
activity other than Joy, and that most sessions don't include Joy.
The most common session with Devotional Sex is no Joy and mainly him
giving her oral sex. Then just as often as the couple have a session of
Joy and other activities there are sessions without Joy where the main
activity is her actively playing with his erection.
Cuddles are VERY common
For most Devotee couples it is
usual to start a session of sex with a Devotional Cuddle. And, apart
from a morning where they have to get up quickly, it is usual to end
any session of sexual activity with a Devotional Cuddle.
Most couples also enjoy several sessions which are just a Devotional
So, on average, 78% of mornings and bedtimes include a Devotional
Many Devotee couples spend
more time in bed enjoying a Devotional Cuddle than they do engaging in
What keeps a
Devotional Cuddle exciting for a Knight
When living Devotional Sex a Knight
will only ever ejaculate when with his Princess and when she says. For
most Devotee couples this has become 'a very powerful bond between them
that is now an important part of their relationship'.
is that he never knows if it will lead to some sexual activity.
And a Devotional Cuddle feels special for a Princess because
he is desiring her without any expectation of further activity or
Lot's of Devotional Cuddles is a mutual celebration of this powerful
(without sexual activity)
In the community overall some
couples have non-sexual cuddles often and at the
other extreme some couples hardly every cuddle. Unfortunately I've not
been able to find any figures on what happens most often. (Though there
is lots of research showing that lots of cuddles are good for the
With Devotional Sex when a
Princess doesn't feel like any sexual activity she can either have
nothing happen at all, have just a cuddle, or she can explicitly
acknowledge and enjoy his arousal with a Devotional Cuddle.
What this survey shows is
that almost all Devotee couples usually have at least a cuddle every
morning and bedtime, that about two-thirds always have at
least a cuddle, and almost one-third always have at least a Devotional
Though it is easy to focus on all the sessions which include sexual
activity, it is the many erotically charged 'just a cuddle' and
Devotional Cuddles, and that these happen almost every morning and
bedtime, that is a key reason that intimacy and connection thrive
within Devotional Sex.
orgasms and his ejaculations:
This survey didn't ask about her
orgasms or his ejaculations.
My Orgasms Survey found that the median number of orgasms for her
when living Devotional Sex is 4.5 per week, so she will be enjoying
many orgasms with all this activity.
Though most women enjoy more or many
more orgasms, the most popular key benefit of living Devotional Sex was
'increased intimacy and connection and thus a better relationship'. But
key benefits were 'better sex (what happens before her orgasm)' and
'more orgasms', so for some the better sex is key.
My Orgasms Survey also found that the median for how often a Knight
ejaculates when living Devotional Sex is 11 days. Thus the average week
described here could happen without him ejaculating at all (but he will
do so next week).
As with the
women, the most popular key benefit of Devotional Sex was 'increased
intimacy and connection and thus a better relationship'.
Other common key benefits were 'giving her a better sex life and more
orgasms', 'us both having a better sex life', 'feeling erotic
all the time as a positive life force' and a few chose 'having much
more powerful ejaculations when they do happen'.
Thus for men who chose to practice Devotional Sex there are major
benefits that make up for having far fewer ejaculations.
Comments, questions and discussion
about the results of the What
Happens in Bed? survey results are welcome here on my forum.
in this survey:
If you Live
or do long Stretches
of Devotional Sex it would be
wonderful if you filled in this anonymous
Not only will more responses make the averages more accurate,
but more responses will capture the variety of what real-life couples
some of those who fill out the survey miss the key point that with 7
mornings and 7 bedtimes the total of each
response must add up to 14.
Have a look at the individual
responses and they all
add up to 14. So if you fill out the survey, please remember that each
session only gets one count, and that count is for the main activity of
To do the survey at PollMill.com CLICK HERE.
updated: 29 December
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