This website uses so many new terms that it is as if Devotional Sex is a new language.

I've given all the new activities and feelings which arise from Devotional Sex a name - using words that I hope capture the feel and flavor.

And as the English language doesn't have words which are suitable for describing sensual, connected sex, I've given some body parts and common sexual activities new names as well.


The major new terms are Devotional Sex, Princess and Knight.

 
The word Devotional was chosen because Devotional Sex requires both to put in some effort to make the other happy. Fortunately this is rarely a chore as within Devotional Sex giving pleasure also makes the giver happy. So key to the technique being a success is that each is devoted to the other.

Sex is in the name because it is desire for the usual sexual activities that drives the dynamic - and the increase in intimacy and connection derives from sex.

Having sex in the name also makes clear that this isn't about BDSM and that her control is only over the couple's sensual and sexual lives.

 
I've called a man who is practicing Devotional Sex a Knight because he is honor-bound to keep his commitments and this takes strength. Though Devotional Sex has him feeling hers, he also feels proud to be her Knight.

The name has been borrowed from the ideal of Medieval /Fairy Tale Knight. And one can thus see the Knight kneeling at the feet of his Princess promising his devotion (as in this drawing from the 14th century).

Princess is also a very appropriate term for her role in Devotional Sex as she never has to act nor feel dominant to have her Knight fulfill her wishes, and being his Princess has her feel very special. And as in times of old, she respects her Knight and is also devoted to him.

The English language doesn't have good words for talking about loving, sensual, connected sex.

We have words for going to the doctor (eg penis, vagina, intercourse) but these words are too cold and clinical to use here. We have words that work for rough sex (eg fuck, cunt) but these are far too vulgar. And we have common terms (eg, cock, pussy), but some readers of the early drafts of this website found these words too crude.

There are also Eastern words (eg Lingam, Yoni) but these words feel, at last to me, too strange.

My solution was to invent my own terms ...

The new words used on this website are:

Desire - Penis

Pleasure - Vagina

Bud - Anus

Joy - Intercourse

Play - To give sexual pleasure using your hands
 
    Pleasure Play - Using hands to pleasure her Pleasure
 
    Desire Play - Actively using hands to pleasure his Desire   

Kiss - To give pleasure by using your mouth, lips, and tongue
 
    Pleasure Kiss - Oral sex to her Pleasure (cunnilingus)
 
    Desire Kiss - Oral sex to his Desire (fellatio)

Climax - Orgasm with loss of sexual energy:
         for a male - an orgasm with ejaculation
         for a female - an orgasm after which she wants to end sexual activity

Crest - Orgasm without loss of sexual energy:
        for a male - an orgasm without ejaculation
        for a female - an orgasm after which she still has sexual energy

I think these new, friendly words work very well on this website, and, once a couple get used to them, they can also work well in the bedroom.



As well as new terms for the basic sex acts and sexual parts, Devotional Sex has new words to describe the many new activities and new feelings of Devotional Sex.

All of these new terms are listed in the Glossaries, and when there is a page describing this term the Glossary entry includes a link to that page, making the Glossary also an index for this site.

Glossary of Terms -


Glossary of Wishes  -


Glossary of Spells  -



When a word is used at this website with a special Devotional Sex meaning then that word will start with a capital letter. For example:


When a word has a link that isn't bold (such as in the line above) that link will take you to one of the Glossaries where you will see the definition and a short explanation. The word is only given a link the first time it is used on a page.

If there is a page with lots more information on that term the Glossary entry will include a link to that page.  A link in BOLD takes you directly to a page with much more information (ie not to a Glossary).


Though these new words are used throughout this website, and in the forum, Devotees are free to use whatever terms they wish if, for them, a different term works better.

So, for example, if a Devotee couple don't like the term Princess they can use instead My Lady, Queen, or anything else that takes their fancy.