Language of Devotional Sex
This website uses so
many new terms that it is as if Devotional Sex
is a new language.
I've given all the new activities and feelings which arise from
Devotional Sex a name - using words that I hope capture the feel and
And as the English language doesn't have words which are suitable for
describing sensual, connected sex, I've given some body parts and
sexual activities new names as well.
words for new activities and feelings
The major new terms are Devotional Sex, Princess and Knight.
`Devotional´ and why `Sex´?
The word Devotional
was chosen because Devotional Sex requires both to put in some effort
to make the other happy. Fortunately this is rarely a chore as within
Devotional Sex giving pleasure also makes the giver happy. So key to
the technique being a success is that each is devoted to the other.
Sex is in
the name because it is desire for the usual sexual activities that
drives the dynamic - and the increase in intimacy and connection
derives from sex.
Having sex in the name also
makes clear that this isn't about BDSM and that her control is only
over the couple's sensual and sexual lives.
I've called a man who is practicing
Devotional Sex a Knight
because he is honor-bound
to keep his commitments and this takes strength. Though Devotional Sex
has him feeling hers, he also feels proud to be her Knight.
The name has been borrowed
ideal of Medieval /Fairy Tale Knight. And one can thus see the Knight
kneeling at the feet of his Princess promising his devotion (as in this
drawing from the 14th century).
also a very appropriate term for her role in Devotional Sex she never
has to act nor feel dominant to have her Knight fulfill her wishes, and
being his Princess has her feel very special. And as in times of old,
she respect her Knight and is also devoted to him.
words for talking about sex
The English language doesn't have good
words for talking about loving, sensual, connected sex.
We have words for going to the doctor (eg penis, vagina, intercourse)
but these words are too cold and clinical to use here. We have words
that work for rough sex (eg fuck, cunt) but these are far too vulgar.
And we have common terms (eg, cock, pussy), but some readers of the
drafts of this website found these words too crude.
There are also Eastern words
(eg Lingam, Yoni) but these words feel, at last to me, too strange.
My solution was to invent my own terms ...
The new words used on this website are:
Desire - Penis
Pleasure - Vagina
Bud - Anus
Joy - Intercourse
Play - To give sexual pleasure using your hands
Pleasure Play - Using hands to pleasure her Pleasure
Desire Play - Actively using hands to pleasure his Desire
Kiss - To give pleasure by using your mouth, lips, and tongue
Pleasure Kiss - Oral sex to her Pleasure (cunnilingus)
Desire Kiss - Oral sex to his Desire (fellatio)
Climax - Orgasm with loss of sexual energy:
for a male - an orgasm with ejaculation
for a female - an orgasm after which she wants to end sexual activity
Crest - Orgasm without loss of sexual energy:
for a male - an orgasm without ejaculation
for a female - an orgasm after which she still has sexual energy
I think these new, friendly
words work very well on this website, and, once a couple get used to
them, they can also work well in the bedroom.
well as new terms for the basic sex acts and sexual parts, Devotional
Sex has new words to describe the many new activities and new feelings
of Devotional Sex.
All of these new terms are listed
in the Glossaries, and when there is a page describing this term the
Glossary entry includes a link to that page, making the Glossary also
an index for this site.
Glossary of Terms
lists, with a definition and explanation, the new Devotional Sex words.
Glossary of Wishes
lists all the Wish Words a Princess can say to have her Knight quickly
fulfill her wish.
Glossary of Spells
lists all the different ways a couple can agree to enjoy some time doing Devotional Sex.
track of these new terms
When a word is used at this website with
a special Devotional Sex meaning then that word will start with a capital
letter. For example:
He felt desire for his wife as he watched her undress and his Desire started to get hard.
When a word has a link that isn't bold (such as in the line above) that link will take you to one of the
Glossaries where you will see the definition and a short explanation.
The word is only given a link the first time it is used on a page.
If there is a page with lots more information on that term the Glossary
entry will include a link to that page. A link in BOLD takes you directly to a page with much
more information (ie not to a Glossary).
can use your own terms
Though these new words are used
throughout this website, and in the forum, Devotees
are free to use whatever terms they wish if, for them, a different term
So, for example, if a Devotee couple don't like the term Princess they can use instead My Lady, Queen, or anything else that takes their fancy.
updated: 20 July
© MichaelK 2007-17