Jill and Tom's Survey Results

The results of the four surveys they filled in, augmented by some further detail in her diary are:

 
Jill is 33 and Tom is 48, and they live in the United States.

First exploring Devotional Sex was his idea and she was willing to give it a go.

They now practice Devotional Sex most of the time and have been doing so for about 3 years.

Their overall feeling about practicing Devotional Sex is that she is extremely happy and he is between extremely and very happy.

For her the biggest benefit arising from their Devotional Sex life is her having more orgasms.

His biggest benefit is feeling erotic energy all of the time as a positive life force.

They added that:


When he is her Knight he only ever ejaculates when he is with her and when she decides. (In their three years of doing Devotional Sex he has only deliberately ejaculated without her permission a few times.) They both feel that this has formed a very powerful bond between them which is now an important part of their relationship.

Given this long term success they are now interested in exploring Living this way.
 
 
Her style of control is that she is in control but never (or rarely) acts or feels dominant.

His pubic hair is shaved as the couple's private symbol that he is her Knight and her pubic hair is trimmed.
 
 
Each week there are seven times a couple go to bed at night and seven times they wake up.

This couple's typical week consists of:

• 1 session where they have Joy as well as doing some other activities,
• 6 sessions where the main or only activity is him giving her a Pleasure Kiss,
• 1 session where the main activity is a (short) Desire Kiss,
  
• 2 sessions where the main activity is that she actively plays with his erection,
• 3 sessions where they just have a Devotional Cuddle, and
• 1 session which is just a cuddle (if he is hard she ignores his erection).
  

This couple are a bit more sexually active than most Devotee couples. But it is fairly common for a Devotee couple to have some intimacy every wakeup and bedtime (even if this is just a cuddle).



 
 
As with many Devotees, Pleasure Kisses now happen much more often than before Devotional Sex, and are a major focus of their DevS life.

To start a Pleasure Kiss she says "Ritual".


Most of the times he gives her a Pleasure Kiss she has him lying between her legs, but every once in a while she squats over or sits on his face

Pleasure Kisses are the sexual activity that they now spend the most time doing and they enjoy this about 9 to 12 times each week! About 3 of these sessions each week are medium to long Pleasure Kisses which are the only (or vast majority) of the sexual activity of the session.

Because they only have Joy about once a week, and because she has him use mouth to pleasure her much more often than he uses his hands, Pleasure Kissing is their main sexual activity.

Only a few Pleasure Kisses happen mainly to please him.

Apart from very short sessions, she reaches orgasm most of the time he kisses her.

Of course she decides how long a Pleasure Kiss will last, and she has lots which only last about a minute, lots that last about 5 minutes, a 15 minute kiss a few times a week, and a few times a month she has one which lasts 30 minutes or longer.

So this couple are spending almost 2 hours each week enjoying Pleasure Kissing!

They write:



 
As mentioned above and in her diary entry for day 1, they sometimes enjoy him kissing her Bud.

They write:



 
Desire Kisses are a focus of their Devotional Sex activities, but they now happen a lot less than they did before they started Devotional Sex.

She gives him a 1 minute Desire Kiss a few times a month as well as a few 5 minute kisses each month. A few times a year he gets a 15 minute Desire Kiss and a few times a year she does it for 30 minutes or longer.

A few times a year she will allow him to Climax from a Desire Kiss.


Facials are a cliche of porn, and both think that a facial is the opposite of mutual devotion and so neither wants this to happen.


 
As his Princess she enjoys an orgasm about twice a day or more which is much more often than before they did Devotional Sex.

She is multi-orgasmic (ie can she have multiple consecutive orgasms). After her orgasm activity usually continues for a while even though an orgasm most often has her feel tired. She never fakes an orgasm, and she sometimes brings herself to orgasm when she is alone.


Her most common way of reaching orgasm is when he gives her oral sex just using his mouth, and her 2nd most common way is him giving her oral sex and at the same time using fingers or toy.


She now gives him fewer Desire Kisses than before they did Devotional Sex, but when she does this she likes doing it and enjoys doing it much more than before. (This suggests that she didn't particularly enjoy giving him lots of oral sex before.)

With Devotional Sex about half the times she gives him a Desire Kiss it is done mainly to please him.


 
When he is her Knight he only ejaculates, on average, about every 13 to 15 days.

If she didn't need to take into account his feelings she would have him ejaculate a little less often than happens now. His preference would be to ejaculate much more often.



When first exploring Devotional Sex unwanted ejaculations used to be a problem. But this now happens rarely or never.


With Devotional Sex he now enjoys giving her Pleasure Kisses much more than before, and he now really loves doing this. He also enjoys giving her an orgasm much more than he did before they did Devotional Sex.

Even though he very often gives he Pleasure Kisses, if given the choice he would like to do it a bit more often.

When giving her a Pleasure Kiss he is usually hard.


With Devotional Sex he gives her control over what happens, but if he could change things he would like her to give him oral sex much more often.


When sexual activity ends and he has not got to ejaculate that session they almost always have a Devotional Cuddle. During this cuddle he most often feels intense intimacy and connection which slowly becomes relaxed intimacy.

As they have lots of sessions each week and he rarely ejaculates he very often enjoys Exaltation - (a pleasure I believe is unique to Devotional Sex).

They are interested in one day learning the Multi-Orgasmic Man technique which would enable him to orgasm without ejaculating.


When the Knight is alone he plays with himself (without ending in ejaculation) about 3 or more times a day.

And, as mentioned in the diary, Jill likes to message or phone him to get him hard thinking about her.


When his Princess decides to give him release this is almost always done during Joy.

The second most common way is from her giving him oral sex and him ejaculating in her mouth. But this only happens a few times a year.

Compared to before Devotional Sex he now enjoys having an ejaculation much more when it does happen. (She enjoys giving him release a bit less than before).

They write:



 
They enjoy some Affirmation most mornings as Jill prepares for work, and also do this many evenings.

At the start of Affirmation he usually gets hard from the excitement of the situation.

He is kept erect by playing with himself plus the Princess playing with his erection whenever she feels like it. So he stays hard most of the time.

They both enjoy Affirmation and doing this has him feel hers while also feeling proud to be her Knight.


As told in day 2 of her diary, she sometimes has him Gaze at her during Affirmation. In the survey results her Knight wrote:



One important aspect of Affirmation which my Affirmation Survey doesn't ask about is what happens after Affirmation when the couple go to bed.

Jill's diary shows that rather than Affirmation only being done as a prequel to her enjoying activity in bed later, Affirmation is often done with no activity happening later in bed.

Rather than this being cruel to her Knight, he will feel pleased that at least something was done with his energy that evening - so for him much better to have Affirmation then nothing than just nothing.


They often do Affirmation outside - mainly away from home (eg on a nude or deserted beach, out in nature, etc).


 
As said in her diary, they have told others about their practice of Devotional Sex. But (at least so far) no-one they told has decided to give it a go.

They write:



 
They have, at least once, enjoyed some activities with others with her having him be Affirmed and fully aroused in front of one (or more) female visitors.

The visitor(s) were told that this was part of Devotional Sex (ie they knew that he fulfilled her sexual wishes and that she decides when he can ejaculate, etc).

(Note that this adventure might have been done with someone other than the people Jill said had been told in her diary.)