"Stay Chaste"

 
Fulfilling this wish means that when alone the skin of his hand will never sexually touch the skin of his Desire or balls. This makes the skin-on-skin touching by her hand feel even more special and so increase his desire for Devotional Cuddles, etc.

Though he can move his underpants around, he won't ever slip his hands inside or move the fabric aside to properly touch himself.

When he is alone he can touch himself non-sexually for washing and going to the toilet, and he can put his hand into his underpants briefly if he needs to adjust his position for comfort.

Him Staying Chaste doesn't change what happens when he is with his Princess. Whenever she wishes she can touch and play with him, skin-on-skin, as usual. And when he is with her she can have him play with himself skin-on-skin.

Note that if she doesn't want him touching himself at all when alone - ie not even over his underpants - she can have this happen by wishing him to Abstain.

 
 
When alone and his is Staying Chaste he can play with himself over his underpants as often and for as long as he wishes. Playing with himself this way when alone will have him thinking of his Princess, and that he this touching is only over fabric is a nice reminder that he is her Knight.

Just as the only thing stopping a Knight from ejaculating when alone is his commitment to be her Knight, when he is Staying Chaste the only thing preventing him from some sexual skin-on-skin touching is his commitment to fulfill his Princess's wish.

I recommend that a Princess ask her Knight to let her know if he ever lapses. There is no need for any punishment, etc, as him telling his Princess that he failed to live up to his Knightly standards will shame him enough to give him the incentive to do much better in the future.

 
 
The main aim of him spending some time Staying Chaste isn't to deny him pleasure when alone but to significantly enhance his pleasure when he is with his Princess.

Only being able to touch himself over fabric when alone of course makes him crave some skin-on-skin contact, and during a period of him Staying Chaste he only gets this pleasure when with his Princess. So her touch (and even him being allowed to Play with himself when with her) now feels extra special.

For most couples who practice Devotional Sex the fact that he only every ejaculates when with her and when she decides is a powerful bond between them which has become an important part of their relationship.

When he Stays Chaste this may create another powerful bond - that the significant pleasure of skin-on-skin sexual touching of his Desire and balls only happens when he is with his Princess.

 
 
When she wishes him to Stay Chaste this continues until she lets him know he can go back to normal. How long she has him stay this way is up to to her (as long as he is willing to keep going).

It can be done for just a day or a few days. Or it might work well to sometimes do this for a whole week. It can even be done for a whole month.

She can set a Preference that, for example, Stay Chaste applies every Friday to Sunday (so it doesn't apply the rest of the week). And if him Staying Chaste works very well for the couple then she can even set it a Preference that he always Stays Chaste.

But for him Staying Chaste to enhance a couple's Devotional Sex life doing this needs to make both him and her happy. This is discussed in the next two sections.

 
 
The second point of the definition of being a Princess is that 'she enhances his sexual and intimate life so that he is equally happy'.

A Knight is only committed to fulfill his Princess's wishes for those things he is willing to do - and so if this makes him so unhappy that he isn't willing to do it then it doesn't happen (and he remains happy).

At the other extreme some Knights may enjoy the challenge of Staying Chaste and so her having him do this makes him happy. If this is the case his Princess may even have him do this mainly to keep him happy (which is easy for her as this can be just 'set and forget').

What happens with a Knight who is willing to do this but meeting the challenge doesn't make him happy or even makes him unhappy? The answer depends on how much he enjoys the enhanced pleasure of having skin-on-skin touching when with his Princess.

If he doesn't think the enhanced pleasures are worth it then him Staying Chaste doesn't enhance his overall happiness from being her Knight and so him having to Stay Chaste should either not happen or not happen very often.

But if he finds the enhanced pleasure of Devotional Cuddles and other activities with his Princess more than makes up for the challenge of having to Staying Chaste, then his overall happiness is increased and so his Princess can have him do this whenever she wishes. But for this to happen he may need lots of touching when with his Princess ....

Devotional Sex increases his desire for sexual activity (due to him not ejaculating as often) and Staying Chaste adds to this by even further increasing his desire for some skin-on-skin touching of his Desire and balls when he is with his Princess.

When he is Staying Chaste a wake-up or bedtime which is just a cuddle (ie she ignores his erection) or is not even a cuddle will have him feeling that not only is he missing out on skin-on-skin touch when alone but he is also missing out when with his Princess. If there are too many such sessions rather than Staying Chaste enhancing his pleasure he will feel frustrated and denied.

So him Staying Chaste is likely to work best when all or almost all wake-ups and bedtimes include at least a Devotional Cuddle.

This way he gets lots of skin-on-skin touching when with his Princess and as this feels even more special rather than having him feel frustrated and denied he will enjoy not only enhanced pleasure from the Devotional Cuddles but feel enhanced intimacy and connection as well.

An alternative to her always giving him at least a Devotional Cuddle is to sometime say "Play"and have him get the pleasure of some skin-on-skin touch but from his own hands.

 
 
Of course a Princess will only have him Stay Chaste if it also makes her happy (or if it will make him very happy and she doesn't mind so she has it happen mainly to please him).

She may enjoy having him Stay Chaste because it enhances her feeling of being in control ie she likes knowing that when alone he is aroused and thinking of her but can't properly touch himself.

But the most likely reason for a Princess to enjoy having him Stay Chaste is the way it increases his craving to be touched when he is with her. So she enjoys him needing her touch and she enjoys being able to please him so greatly by just giving him a Devotional Cuddle.

And, as mentioned above, when his enhanced need to be touched by her is fulfilled this increases the intimacy and connection of the Devotional Cuddle.

But having him Stay Chaste will not make her happy if she doesn't enjoy either giving him a Devotional Cuddle or having him play with himself every, or almost every, wakeup and bedtime.

If she doesn't want this level of erotic intimacy then it's best to reduce his craving to be touched by her by letting him play with himself normally when he is alone.

 
 
Perhaps the only way to find out whether or not having him sometimes Stay Chaste makes him and her happier overall is to try this and see what happens.

Note that it may take some time for him to get used to Staying Chaste when alone and for her to get used to giving him enough Devotional Cuddles for him to be happy. So if you think this might work, give it enough time and perhaps a few goes before you decide not to do it.

 
 
If him Staying Chaste is something which happens occasionally or fairly regularly then him Staying Chaste can be indicated by him wearing special underwear.

It's up to each couple to decide what special underwear works best for them.

It could just be his normal type of underwear but him Staying Chaste being indicated by the color (eg he only wears red underwear when he is Staying Chaste).

It could also or instead be indicated by him wearing a differently type of underwear than usual. Types of male underwear include boxers, briefs, and a male G-string, and some may enjoy his Stay Chaste underwear being female panties.

Not only does him wearing a different type of underwear create a special look, but it creates a different feel for him as even when doing normal things his underwear will feel different.

When he plays with himself over his underwear what he can do and how it feels depends on the type of underwear he is wearing. For example l0ose underwear enables him to grip his erection over the fabric whilst tight underwear will prevent this.

Having his special underpants made from a different type of fabric from his usual underwear will also change the feel both during normal life and when playing with himself.

So, if a Princess is interested in having this much control it's worth thinking about what sort of experience she wishes her Knight to have when deciding what his special underwear will be.
 
 
When he wears special underwear for Staying Chaste, rather than his Princess telling him to "Stay Chaste" she could just lay out the special underwear and he will then know to put this on and from then on, until she tells him otherwise, he will Stay Chaste.

And if he Stays Chaste often or when he he does so it lasts for several days, if you decide on special underwear remember to buy enough pairs so that he always has some clean special underwear that he can use.

 
 
An alternative to using the fabric of his underpants to ensure that there is no skin-to-skin touching is for him to be able to touch and play with himself as long as he is wearing gloves.

Just as the type and fabric of underpants makes a big difference, the type of gloves that are chosen  makes a huge difference. They could be cloth, leather, gardening gloves or thick rubber gloves.

I recommend that thin latex gloves are not allowed as this is far too close to a skin-on-skin touch.

 
 
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