About the Mild Kinky Activities

 
As with all the Enhancements to Devotional Sex, all the mild kinky activities are fully consensual. So something can only happen if, at the least, he is willing to do it and if she decides to have it happen.

Especially with kinky activities one person's trash may be another person's treasure. So please don't be put off by the ideas that are not to your taste - just keep browsing and see if you can find some treasure!

And if you do find something that you like, their more adventurous nature means that they may be some of the more powerful and fun things you do within your Devotional lifestyle.

 
Once a Princess is fully confident that her control is real it can be interesting and fun for her to find out what he is willing to do and how he feels about doing those things he is willing to do.

She can ask him to go through the list of mild kinky activities and rate each with:


She can then ask him about some of these kinks to further explore his feelings.

If she does this while giving him some gentle Desire Play, his arousal will make it easier for him to open up and she will be able to feel in her hand when something is very arousing for him.

With the items he rates '3' she may find that his words are about the scary/reluctant side but his erection gets very hard showing that this is also very arousing for him.
 
 
If there is something that very much excites him then talking about this as she plays with him adds a huge amount of energy. So even if, as Princess, she has decided that this activity will never happen, it can still be fun to sometimes talk about this with him, especially as he doesn't know that it won't happen.

And of course her talking about things that she would like to happen one day will be arousing for her. And if he isn't keen on doing what she would like, some talk about this as she plays with him may get him more used to the idea that this might happen, and him hearing her enthusiasm may make doing this more exciting for him.

 
The aim of Devotional Sex is for both be very happy with their Devotional Sex life.

 
 
Any mild kink which makes both happy is an easy thing for her to decide to have happen, as clearly this makes both happier.

 
 
If there is something which she would like to have happen but he rates it as only 1 or 2, then she can still have this happen, but she needs to ensure that there are other parts of their Devotional Sex life which reward him for being a good Knight and keep him happy overall.

Especially when first exploring a kink which is fun for her but he isn't keen to do, if she has something he likes happen either during or immediately after the kinky activity then next time she wants to do the kinky thing he may not mind as much as he will be looking forward to the reward.

A simple an easy reward could be giving him a Desire Kiss - and if this is a rare treat for him then even just a short Desire Kiss will feel special for him.

 
 
Because a kinky activity can be powerful fun, a Princess may decide to have something kinky happen mainly to reward her Knight. Of course she decides when this will happen, and she can also ensure that it is done in a way which she finds acceptable.

Some things, such as having him wear something special, can be set and forget for her, but significant for him as he is aware of what he is doing all of the time.

What is likely to happen with any kinks that he really enjoys but which she isn't keen on but willing to sometimes do as a reward for him is that the activity happens much less often than the Knight would like, but this is made up for because when it does happen the experience is wonderful for him because, having decided to have this happen, she is enjoying giving him this reward.

 
 
When one person isn't as keen on a kinky activity as the other it's worth exploring if there are any changes that can be made to make doing this more enjoyable, or at the least, not as bad, for the reluctant one.

Sometimes a small change in how it's done can make make a huge difference and even turn this activity into something you both enjoy.

 
 
Devotional Sex not only enhances the pleasures and fun each person receives, but it tunes them into their partner's pleasures and so both the Princess and the Knight enjoy making their partner happy.

With a kinky activity which only one person likes, the person who doesn't enjoy the kink may still  get pleasure from making their partner happy.

 
The reasons a person likes a kinky activity can be a complex mix of factors, and the reason can be   different from what it first appears to be.
 
 
Take, as an example, a man being told to wear women's panties. He may enjoy this because:

• He loves dressing up in female clothes,
  
  
• It makes him feel humiliated (humiliation is a strong kink some people enjoy), or
  
  
• He doesn't have an interest in wearing female clothes, and being told to doesn't make him feel humiliated, but he enjoys doing something which feels a bit taboo and which reminds him (by the look and feel) that he is her Knight.

The first two reasons are part of the kinky world, but the 3rd reason is something which is a good fit for Devotional Sex.
    
    
Another example is a person who enjoys being spanked.

This can be enjoyed because of the endorphins produced by the experience (pain turned to pleasure) or because of the submissive feelings generated by being spanked, or a mix of both.

 
 
One of the components of BDSM is submission, where a person enjoys feeling they are under the control of another person.

A person who enjoys the endorphins from being spanked could ask to be spanked and not feel at all submissive. But a person who enjoys submission needs to feel 'forced' to accept a spanking, and then puts up with the pain as the price of feeling submissive.

Kink works best when the top (the person doing the action) understands how the bottom (the person receiving the action) feels and why they enjoy the experience. So in good BDSM the top is working to please the bottom.

To an outside observer it may appear that the top is forcing the bottom to do something which they don't want to do. But the force is a mental game both are playing to generate the submissive feelings that a submissive enjoys.
 
 
   
So within Devotional Sex a Princess needs to understand not only what her Knight enjoys but why.

And when the main reason is that he enjoys feeling submissive she plays the game of making him do the activity.

If she gets no pleasure from feeling dominant when making him do something the activity will be mainly be just a kinky reward for him.

But if she enjoys the dominant feelings of being in control then some dominance/submission play will be something both enjoy.
 
 
Note that as the Dom/sub dynamic increases you will be moving towards BDSM / Femdom. That's fine if it works best for both of you as the second of the Three Freedoms is to practice a mix of Devotional Sex and another technique,

 
I welcome any questions, comments or discussion about how mild kinky activities can be practiced as part of Devotional Sex here in my forum.

 
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